monitoring his/ her Facebook
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
Philippines
August 10, 2012 2:05am CST
Is it just normal to monitor your partner's Facebook Account from time to time? Like checking his friends, chatmates, etc. Do you ask him/her if who is his/her new friend is, -a colleague, a long lost friend, a relative, etc. Are you strict with your partner or you just give him or her freedom to do what's he/she like to do?
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
vanzke16528, I guess you are a strict partner. I guess we have our limitations. We should be not that strict or they will feel bad abuot it. Happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
nixxx05, yes faith, trust and live are the key words. However, we have different partners. We are dealing with different kinds of people. There are honest ones and there are liars. LOL. Happy mylotting.
@wilsonburrell (207)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I think a relationship should be built on trust. If you are monitoring your partner's Facebook then that shows a lack of trust.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Maybe there are reasons why we need to monitor them. If we see some suspicious comments on their wall,etc. Like girls or boys that are so sweet and they've been exchanging sweet messgaes, etc. I agree, a relationship's foundation is "Trust." If there's no trust, there will be no relationship. Happy mylotting.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Hi angelkarah050812, i think is not normal to monitor your partner's Facebook account because it's kinda weird and showing that you do not trust him/her. My husband has a Facebook account and I have too i can only see or open his account if he asked mt to look at it because his friend or him post a new picture or link. My husband is very open to me I do not need to ask about his friends whether they are new or old friends he just tell to me and i give him freedom too make friends to other people as longa s there is no monkey business going on.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
That's good to hear. I admire your relationship with your husband. You trust each other so much. Happy mylotting.
@savagecabbage (1216)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
I do not monitor his account. I am not really into facebook so I do not log into my account as often. I do not log into his account too since I do not want to invade his privacy. I trust him very much and i am not paranoid if he is seeing someone else or something.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
I guess a lot of mylotters trust their partners that much. I guess all of you got good partners. That's great to hear. Happy mylotting.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
10 Aug 12
My husband doesn't have a Facebook so there's nothing for me to monitor to begin with. 
Honestly, it is perfectly fine if you have a reason to doubt your partner, like if he's got a history in the past of going behind your back in any way. But if there's no reason for you to do that, then I don't think you have to. I would suggest that if you feel a bit insecure with his love for you, better tell him about this so you two could work it out. What's not okay for you may turn out perfectly fine with him and he wouldn't know how much it affects you unless you tell him.
Honestly, it is perfectly fine if you have a reason to doubt your partner, like if he's got a history in the past of going behind your back in any way. But if there's no reason for you to do that, then I don't think you have to. I would suggest that if you feel a bit insecure with his love for you, better tell him about this so you two could work it out. What's not okay for you may turn out perfectly fine with him and he wouldn't know how much it affects you unless you tell him.1 person likes this
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Raine38, he doesn't have any history in the past. I just don't like him chatting with other women because he might fall inlove with them. LOL. I'm just taking any precaution. I have to stop him so that it won't end up to a serious problem in the future. He's also strict with me. He checks my friends and asks about their relations to me. I already unfriended some of them to avoid more questionings.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, yes I agree with you. We have to trust our partners. However, checking their accounts doesn't mean we don't trust them. Of course, we also have limitations in what to see in their accounts. Happy mylotting.
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 12
I don't monitor my husband's facebook, but sometimes when I see he added some friends whom I don't know, I'll just ask who the people are. I don't mean to check on him, I am just curious. I am not strict with my husband at all, in fact, we trust each other, and we have the freedom to do what we like to do too.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
So am I. I'm not that strict too. I made his account for him. He can do anything he wants but he has his limitations too. I just want him to be honest with me. I don't get jealous with his ex-gfs. So far, he didn't add any of them. I just hated some of his friends. Flirty friends. Happy mylotting.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
I don't do any of that. If I do that, it will feel like it's damaging my ego. And besides, I also don't like being monitored on Facebook so I won't do that to anyone. I respect people privacy, be it my dad, my mom, brother, and especially my partner. I trust him.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, I respect your opinion. Yes, we need our privacy. It's just a give and take relationship. Trust is very important to every relationship. Happy mylotting.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
11 Aug 12
I will give full freedom, no it is right say that I don't have any issues to have any kind of activity in fb from my partner. I know she won't go beyond a limit and she is fully aware what is what how to deal with people in fb. 
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
That's great to hear then. You're lucky to have such a girlfriend. Enjoy your Facebook Accounts then. Happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, that's good to hear. Enjoy your Facebook Accounts then. You're lucky to you get along with each other well. Goodluck in your relationship. Happy mylotting.
@sodambored (82)
• Canada
11 Aug 12
I don't think it really is that necessary to check through their account since facebook is now very open and lacks privacy which made me put fake info on it just for my own safety. :P
Only thing to check probably would be the conversations but even then they could delete anything. So trust is key. :D
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Yes, we can delete every conversation we have. Those people who don't delete messages are unlucky. They'll be caught like my husband. LOL. Yes, we have to "trust" each other in a relationship. Happy mylotting.
@blinjk (617)
• United States
11 Aug 12
No, I trust my partner and would not monitor his facebook account but we are extremes. He always monitors my facebook account and the bad thing he do is he blocks people on my facebook account without telling me. I really hate it and it looks like he does not trust me. It is ok if he does not do that and just ask me who are they.When I got angry and confronted him about it. He does not monitor my account anymore. If there is no trust, where would your relationship go, right? You will just quarrel and quarrel because of unimportant things. But monitoring is just okay, as long as you ask and do make assumptions.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, you got a suspicious partner then. It's good he isn't monitoring your account anymore. Yes, trust is very important in every relationship. It's quite hard to earn somebody's trust. Happy mylotting.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
11 Aug 12
I never monitor my parter, like checking his e-mails, his shortmessage,and so on.I always believe him. Love is based on trust foundation. Do you think so? If someone monitor his or her partner, maybe he or she care about his or her parter so much. But I don't think it's a right way.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Actually, I made my husband's Facebook Account so I'm obliged to check it. However, when learned how to use it, there was one time he went beyond his limitation. For me, he was flirting with the other woman. For him, it wasn't. We fought about it. He showed too much care to that woman. A woman he actually didn't know. She was an ex-girlfried of his friend. They never met. Why in the world he would add an ex-gf of his friend. She wasn't my husband's business. They chatted for 9 days. Like they were waiting for each other to come online. That was the only time I got so angry with him. After that, he avoided such things. My trust came back. I'm no longer opening his account now. Only his email. LOL. Happy mylotting.
@cybilinside (4)
• United States
11 Aug 12
I don't really monitor his facebook. He has my password and I have his.....I guess we both figure that if we're willing to hand over free access then we have nothing to hide? Either way I just don't really feel the need. I will ask him sometimes who certain people are but just out of curiousity not concern.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, that's good for both of you. I guess you're having a smooth relationship. I guess both of you are honest. There's nothing to hide. Some people don't want to give their passwords even to their wives or husbands. Maybe, they're hiding something. Happy mylotting.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Well, I don't have a partner, so I don't have anyone to monitor to or to monitor me. But if I had one, i don't want her to monitor me like a stalker. I mean, there are things that I just want to keep for myself and there are things I want to share with her. Even if I am in a relationship, I want to have some personal space, and a little privacy. I will trust and have faith in my girlfriend that she will do what's right and what's best for our relationship. And I want her to give me that trust too. It's OK to ask things but not to the point of nagging, and like some serious interrogation.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Yes, if we are confident enough that our partners are trustworthy then we don't have to monitor them. Trust is very important, you're right. Yes, we have to talk about it in a nice way and not arguing with each other and ask too personal questions. If you are only boyfriends and girlfriends, I guess that's different when it comes to couples already. Happy mylotting.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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10 Aug 12
My husband is always on face book and face book has been nothing but a thorn in my side when he has been on there.It is an ideal way for people to get more than friendly on face book, as this is what my husband was doing with one of my so called friends.
He was chatting my so called friend up while my back was turned and she was also doing the same behind my back, neither could they deny it when I found all what they had both been saying to each other, also the texts that I also read.All thanks to them chatting behind my back on facebook is where it started.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, that's terrible. Your husband and friend were chatting behind your back. I don't know what to say now. I guess you have to talk to your husband about that. He's flirting with your friend or more than that. Wish you luck.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 12
wow..is it not enough for believing his word when he or she that he or she loves you? why we must check every minutes about her or his activities..It really annoyed..she or he have a time and so do you..
why do you must follow your jealous and curious for asking about her or his activities every minutes??
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, I didn't say every minute, it's only from time to time or once in a while. I believe my partner. I'm not active in Facebook now and so does he so we have nothing to worry about. Happy mylotting.
@nixxx05 (309)
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10 Aug 12
In my opinion, we should trust our partner and give them a freedom. I think too much possessive and strict can make relationship break a part. For me, i am giving my partner a freedom, sometimes, i check his account but not always. I have whole trust of him and that's enough to think if he has something and vice versa.
We are open to each other that's why trust is always there.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Oh, that's good to hear. I guess you and your partner are honest with each other so there's nothing to worry. However, some couples are different. Not all human beings are honest. Therefore, they have some issues to fix. You're lucky if your partner is a one-woman man. Happy mylotting.
@diezmara22 (818)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 12
I think if you just monitor from time to time it's just a normal thing and in my opinion does not matter. But if you examine his friends one by one, it becomes a problem because I thought it would make you uncomfortable pasanagan. I'm not tight to my partner, let him use facebook account with as he pleased, but he should respect me as a partner, and do not do bad things. That's it.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
I agree with you. Checking from time to time is okay. I don't care about his friend's relation to him. I just want him to tell me the truth. For example, if they are his ex-girlfriends, friends, colleagues, etc. I just don't want him to flirt. Happy mylotting.
@lonlyheart11 (49)
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10 Aug 12
Hey ,
Checking your partners account time to time just to see weather she is not cheating on you or she is just playing with you is just a foolish and silly thing to do
you should both give each other space and you two might have some hidden secrets , some dirty secret some addictions but it is not good time to time checking your partners account ..
If you really love or like your partner then you should be faithful to her , and should even respect her even if she is cheating on you and you know what , give her that much LOVE that she get afraid of loosing you .
And yes this task is natural but you should not do it time to time do it weekly .
Happy Myloting ..
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Weekly? Make it two to three months. LOL. Yes, it's silly or foolish but it's really happening to some couples. Showing love isn't enough. They should avoid flirting or adding people who their partners don't like to avoid arguments. Happy mylotting.
