are you texting your exboyfriend/ ex girlfriend still?
By katrinapaz
@katrinapaz (2436)
Philippines
August 10, 2012 8:38am CST
just thinking mylotters.. are you still texting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend? i dont text my ex anymore because we have nothing to discuss. also I dont want my current boyfriend to be jealous. what if your ex would still text you? would you feel happy or irritated? your opinion guys
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11 responses
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
I no longer text my ex but he is still sending me some good morning or good evening quotes, sometimes. Also, he keeps on sending facebook messages and comments to me which I would delete afterwards :D
I am really not bothered at all, but I just dont see it proper for us to still communicate with each other.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
3 Oct 12
hi there watcha. from your comment, it seems that your boyfriend still thinks of you and maybe misses you. it is good by the way that you dont mind him because he might think that you still want him and maybe even take opportunity of you. take care and happy mylotting
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
In all honesty, I still do...well, sometimes. I know that I shouldn't but sometimes, if there is nobody i can talk to, he is the only person i can open up what is bothering me. When I text, it doesn't mean i want to get back with the relationship. It is just more of a friend thing.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
that is because you consider him to be your friend inspite of all the drama that you and he may have shared before. i envy that because I cannot text my ex when I am lonely because we are not friends but then staying away from him is better for me
@nagatron123456 (888)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
By the time when I was not in a relationship, I kept sending her messages like good morning, eat your lunch, dinner, and so on but by the time I found someone new I give all my attention and focus to my present and in order to preserve the trust, I deleted my exgf's number. . . I think this should all people must do if they are in a relationship to preserve the trust. Not that damn excuses like PRIVACY.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
i do salute you on your decision nagatron! i know it is hard to get away from your exgirlfriend and I know that you were missing her and since you do not have a current partner yet so you texted her often. but when you found someone new you let go of your ex. that is a good decision and you are really a gentleman for me
@GemmaR (8517)
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11 Aug 12
I am still in contact with a couple of people who I have been with in the past, but I think that it is important that neither of you have feelings for each other, or things could be messy. You don't want to lead anybody on, and you don't want to convince yourself that you have a chance with people who don't feel the same way about you either. If it doesn't upset anybody, and you do treat them as a friend, then this is fine, but you have to be careful that you don't cross that line because that's the point that people will start to get hurt.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
yes, being very careful means a lot when you communicate with an ex because the ex might think that there is something going on and or the current partner may also cast some doubts on the real reason why there is still communication. thank you for the words of wisdom gemmar!
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I do text my ex boyfriend still. But I think you should only communicate with your exes when you are sure that you no longer have romantic feeling towards that person. I think you are kidding yourself and your partner if you have one if you keep on talking to an ex with whom you have feeling for. I personally have a good relationship with my ex because we were friends before we got together. It was very awkward when we first break up and we did not talk to each other for a few weeks but we got pass that.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
that is very nice of you to still be friends with an ex flame. it is really good when you start off as friends and not as lovers right away. i do think that you are correct, when one ex partner has feelings then he should not communicate if still with feelings because the hurt and drama may repeat all over again
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
hi kat,
when I and my ex separated he still keep on texting me even he is living with someone else but I ignore him simply because I don't want to discuss anything to him because we I already heard enough and we already talk about it.
As per respect to your current partner too....
happy mylotting
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
yes that is correct bhabycatch! that is respect to your current partner. if i will find out that my partner is communicating with his exgirlfriend I will be doubtful of him. and as we know it we cannot love without trust. that is a good choice - to ignore him and live a life
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
No. The same as yours, me and my ex-boyfriend don't have anything to talk about anymore and we weren't really friends even before the relationship so there's no reason to talk. If he suddenly texted me, I'll text back. It also depends on what his texts are. I won't feel happy or anything, just neutral. Just like when an old friend texts you suddenly.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
but if an old friend will text me I will be very happy. it is really different if an old flame will text because you can remember the good times as well as the bad times and I dont want to remember anymore. but you are correct I will just feel neutral, just nothing
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
If I have one, I guess I won't bother sending him any text messages anymore. Our relationship was already over. If he sends me a message saying "hi or hello" that will be alright but if his message is trying to win me over again and I have a current bf, that's a big NO-NO to me. I already gave him a chance once so his change was over. Happy myLotting!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
hi there angel! you do have a point. if you already have a boyfriend and he is texting you to win you over then it is not right. if saying hi or hello or how are you's, then maybe he is only checking on you as a friend.
@itsmechelle (114)
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10 Aug 12
My ex still text and calls me sometimes. I still don't have a boyfriend while he has now a new girlfriend. Every time he text or calls me, I must admit that it makes me happy knowing that he still remembers me. Whenever we're having a conversation, I always make sure that we talk normally, just as friends, because I know that he has a girlfriend already, though he was always trying to ask about my lovelife. Just recently, I've realized that I better stop having conversation with him, because I find it more harder to move on when I'm still having contact with him.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
you are right mechelle. it will be more difficult for you to accept that he is not your boyfriend and you must enjoy being single and mingle with others or do things that you have not enjoyed before. maybe his new girlfriend would not be happy if she will know that you are still both in contact and may also cause a fight between them two. better stay away
@iamJB7 (122)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
Me and my ex-bf still have a communication and he ask about my lovelife but never attempts to win me back. Maybe it's just a friendly conversation and I hate it because I assumed that he still have a feelings for me though I know that he is now happy with his new girlfriend. Then I've realized that I have to stop replying to his text(then I did). He keeps on texting me and I just ignored because it's just a nonsense message. His name keeps on appearing my inbox, it keeps reminding me of him. I'm still in the process of moving on. So how can I forget him if all I see is his name? What I did is I've change my number and it really helps cause I've moved on.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
you are right iam! it will be difficult for you to practice living again if you will always be reminded of your exboyfriend so better yet change your number and forget him and start living the life you may have missed when you were with him. Good luck and Godbless friend!
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
10 Aug 12
Never did, besides my husband will kill me, lol!
Just like you, we never have anything to say to one another that's left unsaid. If there;s one thing I'm a bit proud of, is that I never left any exes with unfinished business, and we all parted in good terms. Well, not really very good, but good enough that I am sure there will be no ugly scenes if ever our paths cross.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
that is nice, to leave with exes in good terms. some of the guys I have been with are not my friends anymore or maybe I dont want to be friends with them again i guess the current partner will lose their trust to us if ever we still communicate with the exes