What do you think about living with your parents in law?

When I got married, my husband and I lived at my in law's house for about more than a year. It wasn't tough getting by but I was more than happy when my in laws' gave us a house to live in. It is not too far away from them, actually. Years passed, I realized, it was really a good move on having a house on our own coz it lessens disagreement between me and my in laws' coz I can see now, that they are older, they seem to be hard to get by. There are a lot of problems rising up even if we are not involved in any of them, i always get the share of my mother i law's "venting".

If you can afford to rent an apartment or even a small room to start, it would be much better than to live with your in laws. What you have said are all true and they all happened to me. I am not going into details since I think I have already mentioned them in my other posts. My in laws won't admit that they aren't jealous that my husband would prioritize me over them but later on, I found myself in a competition - and that is competing for my husband's time and attention. I did not sign up for that competition and am also a person who does not want to compete so I just let them do what they want. I don't mind if they would call my husband to their house and won't wake him up if he fall asleep although they know that I was left alone in the house. I can eat and sleep alone but I am not joining that competition. But it does not mean that I won't do anything. I have other ways of taking and keeping what is mine LOL

I have experience with this, I'm living with, or should I say, my mother in law is living with me and my husband. She moved in a couple of weeks ago and lives in a room in the basement. The last time we all lived under the same roof, we lived in the same apartment, and that was a problem. In fact it was a nightmare. But this time it's different. Because she lives in the basement, we can get away from each other, and lock the door and keep her downstairs if anything goes wrong. She's up with us a lot though, in fact, most of the time. But we have learned to ignore her when she talks to herself. But it's kind of nice to have company, someone who is social, unlike our other roommates who hide in their rooms all the time and don't really come out to talk to us.

I think a couple that is old enough and responsible enough to get married is also old enough and responsible enough to get their own home. If they cannot afford a place of their own, they need to wait and save their money and prepare adequately for being a married couple. Living with in-laws can create a LOT of tension... especially if the couple thinks that it's just a "free ride" and they don't do anything to really contribute to the household (in terms of money or doing jobs in the home). Eventually, resentments start to arise and that's not good for anyone.

I'm so blessed that my parents-in-law loves me more than their own son and while my husband is more loved by my parents than me. LOL. We live with my parents and we never had any problem with this set-up. I guess there's a positive and negative effect with living with our parents. I agree that we can save a lot when we are living with our parents but we can also learn to budget our finances if we live separately. In time I know that we will be able to live in our own house and we are so excited about it.

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I agree with you. There will be no problems if they are loving and considerate enough. However, it's better if the couple will live on their own. They should be independent. Living with our parents-in-law have advantages and disadvantages. Happy myLotting!

Well I can't live with my parents in law because they are mental. They both have some Paranoia. They don't want anyone around them. I can't adjust with them. If a person don't want you than how can anyone stay with them. I can understand that more married couples don't like to stay with in laws. thanks for sharing, have a wonderful day.

No way! I wouldn't want us to live with my in-laws, and I wouldn't do that to my husband and live with my parents either. And we never did. My mom used to say that there could only be one king and queen in a household. And I totally agree with her. We may be a family but we definitely have different approaches to everything, from housekeeping, to cooking, to child care, to financing, etc. The differences never end and if one's decision was chosen over another, someone's bound to get hurt and that's where the friction will start. So, even if it's kinda hard on the budget, marriage should be planned well especially as important as having your own place.

It's not a good idea at all. I lived with mine for a year and it was at her house so I felt so out of place and yeah, with no privacy. I didn't pay any rent so that was the good thing, but as time went by I started to help out because I didn't feel right living rent free. When then had a daughter and we needed to move out so we left and now we live alone and it's really nice and much better. But his mom still comes over to babysit our daughter so she's still around...