Chasing people is not good!

That is really awesome advice. Some that I wish I would have been giving years ago. It took me a while to become comfortable being whom I am and not caring about what the 'popular kids' thought about me. Now I have I have some really good friends that I wouldn't trade for the world, just because I quit pretending to be whom I wasn't and started being who I am.

In order to find friends, don't try to change yourself, you might want to blend sometime into the conversation so that it keeps them happy but do it only to make others comfortable but you're real friendship will be valued by the friends whose vibration matches to yours. In short to say, be yourself you'll find people of your type, just try and remove if any negativity is there in you.

Another expression for that is that they are trying too hard. You are right, if you chase after belonging, you will not belong at all.

Well yeah, you can't make yourself like other people just to fit in in a group. That's really not a good move. If you lose your identity, it will be too hard going back. Friends will just come if you just be yourself. People like REAL people, and in that way you can also meet REAL AND TRUE FRIENDS worthy of keeping.

On shouldn't change himself drastically just to fit in, just to belong. If you try to be someone you're not just so some people will accept you, you will not be happy. There are other people who will accept you for who you are. Instead of wasting your time being someone else, why not improve yourself, your talents, your strengths to be a better version of yourself. You will be much happier if you can be yourself around people who truly understand you.