Evil Grandma?

Some people are like this, but when I have been around with them for a long period of time. I have a better understand of what they have been through. It could be an illness in which your grandma can't control or its just in their design. Negativity exist to oppose positivity as their are always two sides or more of the opposite. What doesn't kill you only make you stronger.

Wow how terible. I have not had a grand mother that bad. My dad's mother had dementia and I did take care of her for about 9 years. She was a different person when she had that. She was not herslef. I think she still had issues though ebefore that as she and my mom would never get along and my mom was not nasty to her ever. It was always the other way around. I can say that knowing how nasty others have been to me, too so I;m not making this up. I wish your grand mother wouldn't be that way towards you or other family members. You should have some counselling and see what the real issue is going on.

Okay, I have read your profile so that I have a good idea of where you are coming from. Some grandmothers can be worse than others. My grandmother certainly had her moments. It sounds like your grandmother is very demanding and that she has always be in control. I know that in the Philippines you are not suppose to disrespect your elders, right? I am going to tell you to talk back to her, but you may want to tell your parents about her, and ask them why she is like this? Tell them that you refuse to do anything more for her, and tell your mom to tell the cousins to pitch in. You really shouldn't hate your grandmother like this unless she really has done something bad to you, and that does sound like the case. I love my grandmother, but then again, my grandmother raised me because my father left me, and my mother had to work all the time. My grandmother is also, nowadays, in terrible shape. She just broke her hip, and she is still trying to be strong and independent, but she's not what she used to be. If I lost my grandmother, then yes, I would be heart broken. The women in my family usually make better grandmothers than they do mothers. My grandmother was much nicer to my cousin, brother and me, than she was to my mom and aunt. My great-grandmother was the same way, she was better with my mom and aunt than she was with my grandmother and her brothers. It's like a cycle. I think it's because they feel that their grandchildren are their second chance in life to get it right. Find out why your grandmother is like this, and why she is targeting you specifically? Why isn't she like this to your other cousins?

That's really sad if what you have been posting about your grandma are true. How could a grandmother do such things to you? Anyway, you could try to talk to her and try to ask her if she do has problem with you or with anyone else. Or maybe, she has a problem within her that she's keeping it for herself. You know people that are rude usually has their own problem that she could not talk in the open. You could also tell you mom about the issue and so she could talk to her and settle the matters and so your mom's image would not be ruined. Or maybe she does not like your mom for your dad and that's the main root of the issue. Anyway, though your grandma is like that, just try your best to maintain your respect to her as much as possible. After all, she is still your grandma and I bet that she's old. When people are old they seek more attention and you'll have to have much patience for them. My grandma is still alive and I love her. She's the best grandma that I have ever known in the whole wide world. Cheers and welcome to myLot.

iam, iam,iam, it saddens me to not end to hear how you feel about your grandma. mainly because I am a grandma. But I wake up every morning and go to bed every night, thanking God for my grandsons and pray that God continues to bless them and keep them well... I think being a grandmother is one of the easiest role anyone can have,,,It only consist of trust and Love, Love and more Love.. I love my grandsons (13 and 19) so much ,I could never imagine treating them in that way..I am so so sorry you have to go through that with someone who is always suppose to have your back.. I did see you are 21 and imagine you have always not like your\grandma. But just dont let anyone take you out of character...be yourself and keep your head high... I ask that you refrain from using that hidious word "hate", it just so negative and it takes more engery to hate than to love..try hard to just stay away from her as much as possible so that your heart is not always burden with the "dislike" you have for her,,, As a grandmother to a grandchild, you are loved, be well and blessings....

It seems that your Grandmother never liked your mother, perhaps didn't want your father to marry her. So she has extended her dislike of your mother on to you as well. It is definitely a bad situation. I think hate is a very strong word, but if a person has always been exposed to this type of treatment it can breed hateful feelings. You are still young, although no longer a child, so I believe you understand that feelings of real hatred towards someone do you no good. You may never be able to change your Grandmother. She may always feel the way she does. I believe she is wrong, especially when there are other grandchildren she treats much better than you. She is openly showing her dislike for you in unacceptable ways. I think your father should intervene. It's his mother and she is causing problems for his own family. Since you can't change her you will have to change your approach to the problem. You will feel better if you do. Maybe you can avoid being around her as much as possible? Would you be able to ask her why she dislikes you so much? Calmly and with genuine interest? Or you could start to be extremely nice to her. Tell her she's a wonderful Grandmother. Do things for her that she hasn't asked you to do. Tell her that in spite of her meanness you will still be wonderful to her because you are such a good person and your parents love you more than anything and are very proud of you. So whatever she says or does cannot hurt you. Try to always be happy and smiling when she is around. If it doesn't help the situation, at least you might convince yourself that you are happy. There are others here that may be able to offer better advice than mine. I think you may get much help on this. Good luck!