Is it ever good to keep secrets from your partner?

I do not keep secrets from my husband... He, however, kept one BIG secret from me and when I discovered the truth it almost destroyed our friendship and relationship. It definitely destroyed our trust. I feel that if someone thinks that they should keep secrets in a relationship that they shouldn't bother being in one.

I think it's ggod to keep some secrets.THere is a old saying in our country: distance makes beauty. And i think it describes the relationship between two sides. No matter how intimate you're, i believe there still exists something you just want to bury in your mind. That's also the reason in life some people say the white lie. We try to bury some secrets because we want to protect others. And lie doesn't necessarily mean disloyal to the other. But if this secret is about betray and some truths you really want to say, then you'd better speak it out, because the longer you hide it, the bigger the hurt can be.

I've heard that a sin is not a sin unless it's acted upon. I've been married a long time and I have kept secrets to myself, but these were thought much more than acts. I know that Hubby acted on one of his thoughts. but only because he told me, and I can truthfully say I have never gotten over it. It changed the relationship between us forever, the trust that I had for him never came back. But maybe that relationship was not as healthy as it should have been. None of us are perfect and it's really unfair to expect someone to be that way. Did he ever sin again? I don't know and I don't need to know. I am in charge of me and what I do is my responsibility, I can control no one else. Blessings

i think that certain secrets should be kept from our partner so that we can maintain peace in our relationship. however, that is to an extend. i think in order to keep the relationship working, both parties should be trutful to each other and tehre's nothing to hide. however, there might be times where one did something wrong and it might trigger a break up. to sum things up, i think it really depends on what type of secret it is and how much one value their relationship wtih the partner. as for feeling an attraction to someone working in the office, i think it depends on the character of the husband. if the husband is one who is very petty and jealousy type, then there's no point in sharing this because it might just lead to useless quarrels.

In fact.some of the secret is normal,is also a must.

Certainly, it's not good to keep secrets from your partner.These would create minor to serious problems. We should be open to discuss anything that goes in the way. Our partners are not only our lovers. They are our husbands, the father of our kids, our partners in creating and building a best family, they are our best friend whom we can freely discuss what's in our minds especially when we want some comments on something. With regards to disclosing events or situation from our past, well as for me it's best to disclose everything, good or bad experience, because in this way, your partner can understand you better for who you are now. We are on our 7th year as of now, i'm working in an office where all different personalities mixed in one. An environment wherein you can see and observe temptations of any kind. But so far, how handsome a person is, how attractive or encouraging is his personality, but I wasn't even once attracted to it. Why? Because, I always offer my daily work, my daily accomplishments to God, and to my husband (have no kids yet). I always set my mind that my work is for my family.

I don't think keeping secrets is a good idea in any relationship. Your past is your past and unless your past is going to play a big part on your future it doesn't matter. Being attracted tI someone is no big deal. We see nice looking people all the time. However feeling sexually attracted to someone you work with, now that can be an issue.

The way I see it, if there is something you will not, can not, tell your partner then you know it is wrong. Think before you act. If you are true to your partner, if you are married and have taken vows together then you must think before you act. If you think what you are about to do will upset or hurt your beloved or your relationship then DON'T DO IT! If you go ahead and do it anyway and conceal the facts from your partner then you are a liar and a cheat and you do not really love, trust or respect your partner. We all make mistakes and we should all be prepared to forgive those we love when they slip up. If you lie once, even by omission, you will lie again and again. A true relationship that is loving, trusting and strong is one where you can tell your best friend anything and it will be OK. If there is a problem, you will work through it together.

I've been happily married for 57 years, and I feel that there are places in a marriage where one should never go. For instance neither partner should indulge in recollections of past loves. This is doing nothing for the present relationship. All things from previous relationships are over and done and should never be revisited!

Hello my friend Pose123 Ji, Well, I think a good relationship can only be mainained in its real meaning by having absolute transparency. Both should disclose 'PAST, PRESNT AND FUTURE' without worrying about its output. We have been doing since 43 yrs now then only we have sailed in rough weather. May God bless You and have a great time

I really don't think that it is a good idea to keep any kind of secrets from your spouse. The reason that I don't think that it is good to keep secrets from your spouse is because of the fact that if you are not able to have communication in a relationship, then I really don't feel like you have any kind of a relationship at all. I also realize that there are some times that things are always disclosed to the spouse and I believe that in many cases the reason that happens is because of the fact they are things that are simply not recalled.

Well, don't tell your spouse; but don't "keep it" either. Oh, if your spouse ASKS if you thought one of your co-workers were attractive, don't LIE; but treat it as if your spouse asked if 'one of your nieces or nephews' were attractive.

Hmm this is something. Well as far as I think there are not everything that could be shared with parents. Well yeah, I can't tell my pop that I have a crush on a guy in my office or class. It is better kept secret. These are small things which does not need to be disclosed. There should be some time of privacy and to yourself. I was born in a village and I was brought up in a very conservative way. I was only daughter and had two elder siblings. So I could not share with my mum when I was in secondary school. I was feeling awkward and I guess it was okay. good day to you.

It is very hard to keep secrets in a relationship. If it's something you did in the past before meeting your significant other, I wouldn't worry about it. They should like you for who you are, not who you were. If you are already in the relationship there shouldn't be any secrets because no matter how well you try to conceal them they will likely be found out.

It depends on the secret. Usually, I would say, "No, don't keep any secrets from you partner." If it is something really painful, or something that you think could end your relationship with that person, then you might want to think about it.

I do not think it is good to keep secrets with one another. I think it is good to be faithful to each other and if both of them are faithful, it will make relationships better. I think past is past and mostly one must try to look at the present and future. I think it is always good to let go the past and think about the future and the present.

Sometimes, I would even say that in most cases, openness does not benefit, especially if this openness for the prior knowledge of the people we know them, before our knowledge of those who share our lives. We must look to the future and how we plan to do and learn from our past, only without that negatively affects our present and our future Our past must be just to us, if we want to share with others, such participation is only for the present and future

I feel if you really love that person weather you are married to this person or dating them you should never keep anything from them it does not help in the relationship at all and it does not help when it comes to trust issues I am sure you would want your partner to tell you everything no matter what it is. I have been married for 20 years to my husband and have never kept anything from him.

Yes, honesty is important into relationships and we should not to try to keep any secrets. But it depends on your partner if he wants to hear your secrets from the past. Some partners are not interested about it anymore so no matter what happened if they love you,they will accept it and would never listen to other people.Hearing secrets from your partners past can make you sometimes jealous so it is better not to hear it if you do not want to know it.

I hardly keep my secrets from my partner. I can't keep something in my heart, I always say everything happened out . If feel an attraction to someone who works in my office, but have no intention of acting on it, I think it's ok if I disclose it to my spouse because I feel my partner is an open-minded man.