Breaking promises
By Elizagrant
@Elizagrant (1)
August 11, 2012 10:18pm CST
So 4 years ago my husbands phone was ringing in the middle of the night... I picked up SMS it was a male he said that his wife and my husband were having an affair and on my husband confronted him and denied... He then called his female friend and asked her what the deal was. My husbands female friend called me and explained that she was going through a divorce and her ex was over reacting to emails between her and my husband. Anyway after a this I went with my heart and gut and trusted a
D continue to trust that my husband is loyal... And I have no doubt of this... However I did ask Ho after that incident that I wanted hi
To cut communication with this female friend completely no texting, no calls, no email no myspace mo Facebook. The reason I asked him if this is because I knew he often emailed back and forth with college female friends I didn't really know. This was something that bothered me before the phone call incident happened so I asked him to cut communication with those friends.
Recently I posted a very nice thank you on Facebook for my hubby who sent me flowers for my 7 th year wedding annyversary he denied me he said ge didnt want to be friends... after back and forth for 10 min about this I asked him if he was Facebook friends with the female friends he had promised not to have communication with and he said " yes" .. I feel so betrayed and I feel like he broke a promise that was very important to me.... I'm I overreacting?
To make it clear I do not think he us cheating but the simple fact that he felt it was easy to connect with them and keep me away from it.... Really bothers me what should I do? I'm so disappointed im in tears...advice?
2 responses
@mmbk98 (5)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I am sorry to hear about you situation! I've been cheated on many times in my life and as much as I hate saying this, by him not wanting to accept you as a friend on Facebook, I would say he is cheating...maybe not in a physical sense, but there is such thing as emotional cheating! In my book, it's just as bad! I think you need to have a serious talk with you husband and tell him how this makes you feel again! I hope everything works out for you!
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I think that he should have never kept that from you in the first place is my opinion. That he was being friends with these women on facebook. I think that he should have respected your wishes in cutting ties with them. And basically just see where you are coming from. Maybe he is not understanding the reason behind why you don't want him to be friends with him. The question is though, why would he keep from you that he was still being friends with these women. Yes, the reason could be because he knew that you would get mad. If he did not agree with your wishes maybe he should have talked to you about this and explained why he still wanted to be friends with them. Maybe he could not have cut all ties with them, but not email them as much or chat with them as much you know. Did he know these women before meeting you?
