not sure how to feel about this...
By birdie816
@birdie816 (1276)
United States
August 12, 2012 12:29pm CST
ok so i am happily married to my college sweetheart and we have a beautiful 8 week old baby girl. our family is pretty much perfect. we are very young though. we are both in our early twenties. because of this my husband is very paranoid about guys hitting on me, one of them being his older brother who is also in his twenties. his brother has a pretty extensive history of being a self proclaimed "man-wh*re" despite the fact that he is also married and has 2 small children. he cheated on his wife a few years back but they stayed together. so he is not exactly trustworthy even though he claims to have changed. the reasons why this concerns my husband so much is that we may all have to move in with his brother after our lease is up. and my husband has already asked his brother if he would sleep with me and he basically said yes if we weren't all married...i was pretty creeped out by this (even though his brother is actually very attractive. in fact he looks alot like my husband...freaky) i am already not sure how to act around him because of how much they look alike. i dont know what to do
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5 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
First,of all.assure your husband that nothing would happen between you and his brother. Seconcly. make yourself syrong enough to say NO if and when it happens. Keep safe!
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
23 Aug 12
i have told my husband a thousand times that i dont want his brother and i never will. and if his brother were to come onto me, he only way he would get any would be if he raped me by gunpoint or something. but thans for your advice and i plan to be safe
@GardenGerty (160697)
• United States
12 Aug 12
I would probably go overboard being the perfect and faithful wife, and I would lose my sense of humor in that situation. Your husband needs to know you feel uncomfortable, but he also needs to know that you are strictly not interested in anyone but him.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
12 Aug 12
i agree completely and believe me i try to be the perfect wife. i cook, clean, take care of the baby, try to keep myself looking good, and do other things lol...
@riyauro (6421)
• India
12 Aug 12
Well since you are in love with your husband, I don't think there should be anything that you are not sure of. Do you think you have a crush of your husbands brother? Well this is my opinion so no offence please. The way you have put up the post it looks like you have a crush on your husbands brother and this makes it obvious because you said that you are not sure how to feel about this.
If I were you, I would not even think about his brother. Let him say anything and he can't do anything to me, though he might be handsome or whatever. Him being around will not have any effect on me. I don't think it is freaky also because you know your husband and their should be something special in him that you would not compare him with his brother. Think about what I said. good day to you 
@moulee87 (320)
• India
12 Aug 12
Birdie!
Its really bad to face such kind of situation! I think as per the situation and the lines that you have posted! I feel that you husband and his brother are twins! If I'm correct! You can have some notifications on them! Else it will be a tought job to even serve food with love! Showing affection to a wrong person will end up in different problems! That too with twin it happen quite a lot!
Probably, I suggest you to move out after the lease agreement due to this kind of situation happened at your home! But why you husband is not supporting you in this situation and how he got this question?
To catch up a point! You trust you hubby right? Same way is he doing that? Whats the family problem that made to raise such a question between relation inside the house?
:-(
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
12 Aug 12
well they are not technically twins but have been mistaken for twins quite a bit. me and my brother look just as similar as they do. the only obvious differences at first glance are that my husband is a few inches taller and a little thinner than his brother. also i have no idea why my husband keeps asking his brother that (this is not the first time) as if he expects his brother's answer to change or something. anyway, i can easily tell them apart so i know i would never come onto the wrong brother but i am just paranoid about what he might do i guess
