our anniversary was one of the worst days in my life

Most people think or complaints in such a way that their partners do as and how they likes and never give much importance to our wishes or desires. Here you can divert a little bit on his nature. In most of such cases, you can just consult with him or find out his plans or opinion on your suggestion. In such cases, he will get an idea on what you are thinking, and you can understand how he reacts, plans, thinks etc. So, if he comes up with his opinion, you can discuss or modify or alter the plans according to your wish and suggestions. If it works this manner, you will get a better understanding about his plans and also do not interfere much on his exclusive personal matters where most people won't like it. But he will get a feel that he is free with things. Also, if he is leaning to a wrong path, you can advise with a positive approach where he should not feel that you are controlling, but he should think that you are inquiring. Think a better way to bring him more close to you by open discussion and more pure love and closeness towards him. Here also, you can openly tell him that you got disappointed on what he did and it could have been so and so... and explain what was in your mind...

Try to confront him. Tell him all about your heartaches about him.

oh :( sad to hear that... i remember i had my worst birthday this year, but not because of my husband. Anyway, forget about it. Maybe he don't mean to do that... that's really mean if he did it on purpose. You can tell him about how you feel so that next time, hopefully he will not do it again. I know we ladies feel loved when we are given much love and attention, and that day was your anniversary! so why did he spent with the computer? just forgive him, and stay in love.. i think that's not enough for you to give up! :) stay the way you are.