lesbian relationship
By gracepadirog
@gracepadirog (201)
Philippines
August 13, 2012 12:04am CST
hello mylot funs,have you heard a lebsian relationship? i have long long time ago school friend way back 1996,when i saw her now she's a lebsian,and she mentioned that she had a girlfriend, they are having relationship,my reaction was,i can't speak right away what word i will utter or give her advice.
At the back of my mind, yaks! its so discreaminating to have friend like that.I just smile at her and said, well,its your decision to have a girl to girl relationship, anyway your matured enough,you know what is right and what is not.
13 responses
@gracepadirog (201)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Hello Axai, I do accept and respect Lesbian because thier human too, and i need to accept what they are. Its just, i am not more comfortable of thier gender.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
hi grace,
My bestfriend since Highschool is a LESBIAN she have a girlfriend now and they are planning to get married next year.
I accept her wholeheartedly cause she is still human being besides being a lesbian is not a disease to be avoided, Third genders are humans too they have feelings and they also want to live their life into the fullest.
We can't judge or avoided some simply because they belong in third gender in fact we must understand them cause we never know what they been through or experiencing in the eye of narrow minded people.
True friends accept each other regardless who she/he is.
happy mylotting
@gracepadirog (201)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Hello Bhabycatch, I also respect of what they are being lesbian, its just, i am not more comfortable seeing a girl to girl relationship.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
13 Aug 12
It always seemed pretty obvious to me. You look at yourself, and you look at a boy, and you look at a girl. Which one do you "fit"? The one that as the opposite 'equipment'. This isn't that hard. Didn't even need a biology class.
I also had a friend who turned out to be screwy. We're not friends anymore. I just didn't have much to talk with him about after that.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
14 Aug 12
Can two males, or two females, procreate? Seems rather simple to me.
"Emotions" do not justify anything. Some people have emotions to kill someone, but does that mean murder isn't wrong? Of course it is. Their emotions do not justify the action in that situation, or this one.
"screwy" is a personal opinion. Your opinion doesn't matter, because I'm the one telling the story, and it's my opinion. When you are talking about your friend, then you can give us your opinion on it.
We had nothing to talk about. Whether or not that makes sense, is irrelevant to me. It was the fact of the situation at that time.
Look, it's fine that you want to discuss the situation, but arguing that someone eles's personal experience somehow was not their personal experience, is a bit ridiculous.
No offense, but your response seems to be "What happened to you... didn't!".
@surfinphils (74)
• Philippines
28 Mar 13
Well, I have to agree with missAinjell.. If others can control their feelings, then I cant. I think it only depends on the ones involved.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
28 Mar 13
Oh come girl. Look if you are right and you can not control your feelings...
Why are women mad when their husband cheat on them? He 'felt' like cheating! He couldn't help it!
You've had friends betray you at least once in your life. Maybe they just had "feelings" to betray you, and they just couldn't control themselves. You shouldn't be angry about it.
Hey, some guys like hitting their girl friends. They can't help it... they "Feel" like doing it and they can't control their feelings!
Even murder! The vast majority of those in prison 'felt' like killing someone. Why do we have those people in prison? After all, emotions justify EVERYTHING, so why are we being so hypocritical in locking these people up!
Bottom line girl....
No it doesn't matter who is involved. Either emotions justify everything, and that applies to everyone, including murderers, rapists, thieves and everyone else.... or it does not justify anything, and you NOT a dog, and you can control your emotions.
It's one or the other. You can't have it both ways. You can't say rapists are not justified by their emotions, but you exclusively are.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Even though we know that this kind of relationship do exist, it is still a little weird for me to think that a woman can fall in love to another woman. But who am I to judge? I have friends who are in that kind of relationship. I may not approve of it personally, but I try to understand how they feel.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
hi,
i heard that before since i was in secondary level student,actually i also have a lesbian friend who already had a girlfriend,for me its not a yuck thing,because they are also a human who still have feelings and heart,so why you should say yuck,why?do you have an experience to a lesbian so you said yuck?
@Hillxuan (77)
• China
13 Aug 12
everyone all have the standard of the evaluation.no can ensure which is right of faults.i have a close friend.sometimes i even doubt what relationship between us.it has beyond girl relationship and girl relationship.someone said our relationship too close so that we should keep the distance each other,in fact i just too close and have no other complex relationship.
@gracepadirog (201)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
hello Hillxuan, maybe i am not just a tuned to have or to know lesbian relationship, but i do accept them, because they are human too that needs to be accepted in this society.
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I also have a schoolmate which was very girly way back but when we meet again in facebook, she admits that she's now a lesbian and enjoying it, she even have a girlfriend. What is so surprising to me is why on earth she became one when the old times she never ever showed a sign of being like she is now but then we as their friend, we do not have the right to discriminate them as person, and you are correct decision is what makes them like that. Maybe they are more comfortable that way.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I have seen a lot of people in that kind of relationship and it didn't bother me. I guess i got used to that. One time my friend and i was taking a bus and we saw this lesbian couple kissing each other in public. Though we're used to that already we were just a bit of ashamed to see them doing that in public. I guess we would feel the same even if it were not gay couples.
Anyway, I don't discriminate and I feel happy when my friends are happy. I have friends who are homosexuals and i've met their boyfriends. They even kiss in front of me and that didn't bother me because I am familiar with them.
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
everyone is equal in earth we all created with god , if they love to have a relationship with each other its either a boy,lesbian etc its okay as long as they love each other theres nothing wrong, we cant judge them. its their decision. everyone is deserve to be happy, enjoy life
@zhette4220 (181)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
In our place it is really common to see couples who have the same gender. I really wonder why most ladies prefer to have relationship with lesbians. Because if i would be asked, I really wouldn't dare to.
I had lesbian friends too, well i sometimes feel awkward especially when they let their boyish act come out. But they respect me.
Maybe you just have to respect her the way you respect her way back then. As long as she's not causing problem to you,as long as she remains to be respectful friend to you, then why not treat her as the friend you once had before.?
@iamJB7 (122)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
My bestfriend is lesbian and in a relationship with same s3x. I accept her for whatever she is. I like everything in her. She makes me laugh, shoulder to cry on and a jolly person. well..my bestfriend I can say she is pretty and she is a friend to everybody. I love her personality. She has a girlfriend and she introduced it to me. I didn't feel something "yackkz or ewwwww" about their relationship. I accept her decision if that makes her happy.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
It is but a common thing that our eyes sees.. In a democratic country we respect ones preference so long as they don't go against the law well then that's acceptable relationship , but me personally ain't comfortable two same sexes having an intimate relationship , still i believe it should be man and woman.
@Quetzhal (82)
• Singapore
14 Aug 12
What's so 'discriminating' about having a friend like that? She's still the same person you knew back then; the only difference is that you know something about her that you didn't know before. I'm glad you at least had a mature reaction to that knowledge, though; too many people would simply scream that the person would be going to hell and/or immediately abandon them as a friend.
That said, something you said is a bit off. "decision to have a girl to girl relationship", specifically. We do not choose who we fall in love with. When it comes to emotions, you don't choose. You can't choose, because your heart goes against all logic. That's what love is. So no, it wasn't her decision. Nor did she choose her orientation. You can't choose for something you find unattractive to appear attractive or vice versa, can you? Exactly.
