A person you expected to help , is not willing to.

I think a good friend is a person who helps as much as they possibly can. That doesn't always mean they will be able to. And if they think helping is not a good idea for whatever reason or that it is silly they don't necessarily have to give reasons for not wanting to help. THis doesn't mean they aren't your friend.

Life lesson, real friends rescue you at your most difficult situation. They will not turn their back on you, or let you down. It would only add to your difficulties to know that the person you thought you can rely to at all times turns you down.

I think it would be devastating for someone to refuse a simple request because they're not willing to. I think I am guilty of such in some occasions as well. But there's no turning back my decision once I'm not really "into it". I think you should stop expecting so much from people around you. The lesser you expect, the happier you could get. There are just times when the people we expect to be there for us, just can't. The reasons or excuses are usually shallow too. whew! Have a great Mylot experience ahead!

thats what i thought that real friends stand beside you when you need them...but that was before,,.i used to have a best friend, i always there when she need me..but when i need her she was not there...its really very difficult to have a real friend^$^..

For sure I will get upset and disappointed. It is easy to find and have friends but true friends is hard to find and keep. True friend will always there for you not just help but even just to listen too.The fact that you have your own priorities in life, for sure you can also find a way or time to help and be there for each other no matter what.

I know how that is. I just experienced it recently. And I was so disappointed and upset. I have a former staff, and outside work we became good friends. When I went to work abroad, we tried to keep in touch through facebook but because of the different time zones, our talks are very limited. So one time, she applied for a work in Singapore, and being her immediate superior, she asked me if she can use me as her reference. Wanting to be of help, I agreed. So while driving, this HR manager from Singapore called me up and asked me numerous questions about her. I gave her a good referral and I was honest when it comes to her work performance. The HR lady further asked for my email address because I need to answer a few more questions about her. So I gave it to her. When I got home, I received a looooooong list of questions I have to answer for her. Wanting to help, I painstakingly finished the 11 pages. After that, I didn't hear anything from her. Fast forward to a few weeks later, I just found out from common friends that she's already in Singapore and she got the job. She didn't even tell me nor thank me for what I did. I was disappointed but I just put it behind me. Now, I need a certain contact number of our common acquaintance that specializes in architecture. I know that she knows his number so I asked for it. Until now, she never replied to me. I was so hurt by her actions and sometimes I ask myself if I did the right thing. Since, I vowed never to set expectations from people ever again so I will never be disappointed again.

Well, I know how you feel. I have friends like that. Worst I have friends whom I thought were real friends but in the end their true color came out and it was indeed very hurting for me. Now, I do have friends but I know whom to trust and whom not to. Bottom line, I do not trust anyone anymore. I trust myself and my family. True friends are indeed hard to find, and if you can find someone who is truly a good friend who can stand the test of time, consider yourself lucky.

Yes, that's quite disappointing. That happened to me one time too so when that friend rejected me, I never thought twice asking a favor from him. I hope real friends could stay with us thru thick and thin. Extending help with each other will make our friendship better and long-lasting. Happy mylotting!

hi, I have seen such friends in my life, actually they are not worth calling as real or true friends. After few incidents like that, i stopped making tags like "best or close or true or real friends" .

I am going through the samething. It hurts so much. It is like they don't care anymore. When they try it makes it feel like they actually care. If we give them all we have to give and its like they use it for granted.

I have gone through these situations and it will be very frustrating since you counted on them to be on your side when there is some problem. That said, you get to know the real ones who really cares about you in these situations. Also never expect anything from anybody and there will be no disappointment.