Change takes time

That's right... Changes takes time. But the changes can do anything that is useful to themselves who change or it may cause some dangers to others when the changes are bad. So, changes in life are good, when the changes are good..!

If you keep on living others' standards, you are living their lives not yours. What you are makes you the YOU. However if these people wants you to change for a better person than you used to be, then do the change for your own betterment and not for them. Discipline in one's self is not instant. It should be driven by own will and strength. People around should encourage..not pressure. Have the will if you really want to change..and take it one step at a time:)

I grew up in a family that expected me to be and act a certain way. But, that is not who I am. I'm not a person that hides who I am and become what someone else would expect from me. They put so much pressure on me as an adult to be who they wanted me to be that I had to just walk away. If people won't accept you for who you are, then they won't accept you for who you become. You will never be okay in their eyes. It's better to just walk away.

This is not something that is currently going on in my life. However, before I met my husband I had a boyfriend that was constantly trying to get me to change. He didn't like the fact that I was a smoker and he kept asking me to quit smoking. I don't know if you have ever smoked in your life, but it is not something that is easy to quit at all. He wanted me to do it overnight and I really did try, but I just wasn't strong enough to do it.

I agree that change takes time. It does not mean to change as soon as possible which is impossible to do for a day, or week, or month. You needed to know what are the wrong things in you before you change do things to good. But you don't need to follow other peoples way. Why? Because like me I feel comfortable for who I am today because I know that I am unique in my own ways. There are lot people telling me to wear this, to do that, to move like this, to talk like this and many more that it is not difficult to do but I feel a weirdo. My sister told me that I don't need to be like them because I don't need to try hard to be someone who I'm not which is true. I always admire my sister because she has a great personality that no one could ever had. She is one of the best sister I have. I know that every time she gets mad at me. I she wanted to correct my wrong doings but it takes me to realize my faults.

Personally, I will change in my own time, no pressure, no hassle. I'll take it easy but mindful that time is of the essence. Really, it takes time to have a change to its 360 degrees. Gradually as it seems, no half cooked stuff like that, and as long as it is for my betterment and others, I will do my best to change in no time. Thanks

To change is not an overnight process. It takes time to change and needs acceptance. Sometimes we need to change for our loved ones, they are the one who sees the wrong in us that we must change. But, we need sometime to completely change from our oldself I haven't had any experience wherein people around me forced me to change from who I am. I do hear negative comments or reminders and took it positively for a better me.