Physical or Emotional Abuse

Abusive relationships are everywhere. You may know someone who is abused and not even realize it. Most suffer in silence. Whether you are physically or emotionally abused it drags you down to little self worth. It is a type of mind control, making you believe you are not worth being saved. After being abused for so long it becomes a reality in your own mind. You are enslaved and willingly stay without saying a word. If you are lucky, as I was, you will find someone along the way to give you a glimmer of hope. Someone to make a real difference in your world. Sometimes just one word of encouragement can plant a seed in your mind and help you find the strength to get out! Abuse is not a choice, there is nothing women sacrifice to be in a relationship like this. It is something that happens to them. My advice is to prevent before is happens. Abuse is something that slowly happens over time. Women first get used to being yelled at or belittled which then turns physical with an apology. The woman loves him and accepts the apology, but the next time there is no apology. The beatings may only be occasionally but most often it continues to an every day occurrence. I know believe if you do not have civil communication in a relationship it is not worth pursuing. Anger leads to many problems, so avoid at all costs. I also believe in the one strike and your out. Hit me just once and that person is out of my life...for good. Best advice ever given to me is to never miss an opportunity to say something nice to someone, they could be secretly hurting inside and you could be the one to make a life changing difference for them.

I think emotional pain is greater than Physical (like other mylotter mentioned) the scars will heal but the scars in your heart... that may take forever :) I also think that Culture plays a very big role on how women think, act, or responds to her surrounding. Since I am a Filipino I tend to think I am under the authority of my husband which I believe we acquired from Spanish culture. However, my husband thinks opposite, from where he came from men and women are equal and women should be treated with all the respect and love in the world (aha lucky me!) hehe.

Physical abuse is really a great sin and deserved for punishment. Mostly women's are suffered a lot with this kind of emotional abuse. In most of the countries Men dominating the women, they thought that they are super power and women's are dependent to them. This kind of attitude must be changed. Both men and women are equal in front of god, no one is inferior and no one is superior, both of the genders have their unique qualities and specialties. No one have the power to dominate the opposite gender person, but sadly in some countries, women's voluntarily give permission to their husband to beat or blame them, and they don't take any activities against their husband and tolerate all the tortures of their men, this kind of activities increase the emotional abuse. Women's must come forward to complaint about their husband who are doing unfair against them. Women's must be bold and courage enough to face this kind of cruel and start to fight against them. This kind of activities will give fear to the men who are dominating the women and they will give up their activities and give equal importance to their wife. It is the solution to stop the physical abuse.

Getting out of an abusive relationship is by no means easy. They(man or woman) may have no place to go. The abuser may have them so far down that they think they deserve this treatment,or they may fear for their lives if they were to leave. Sometimes I think the emotional would be worse than the physical...so scars never fade. A man should never hit a woman AND a woman should NEVER hit a man!

Domestic violence and abuse happen to anyone, yet the problem is overlooked, excused, or denied.