there are still parts of him i do not understand

I know what you mean. It seems like he does not know how to save money or even to earn money. He use to be different, but it seems like the past 3 months he has changed. He tries to find work, but seems like he's not trying find real work just under the table work. Yesterday he started a job and the dude was going pay him $40 a day. Me and his mother kept telling him its not worth it. So he calls the dude and supposely he's going pay him more, but he don't know how much more. He said guy MAYBE paying him $300 this week. Well MAYBE isn't good enough for me I need to know. We have to bills to pay. Yes I am not working, but I been looking, applying, and trying more than he has been doing. Yesterday he went to the store to get some soda to drink. Its like really you can't save gas and just make tea. Just fed up with it all. Sorry I guess it was more of a rant, but if I tell him he gets mad for telling him the truth and turns it around on me like I am doing something wrong. My job is being a stay-at-home-mom and I been doing my job, but seems like he hasn't been doing his.

My husband and I are best of friends although there are some things we still don't agree with. But those are just petty things that makes our marriage more exciting. Haha. Anyway, my husband never get mad but sometimes he lose his temper with our hyperactive son. I told him, why will you ever get mad with your son but never get mad of other people. Then I think that hits him so he will extend his patience with our son who is just missing us because both of us are working all the day.

My mom always tells me that you'd never really understand your partner or husband fully, this is the main reason why marriage is also a vocation. You will never completely understand what the other is thinking and you'd constantly be demanded to understand them, to give and never to expect something in return - that's the role of the wife. As she says. I don't really know much about marriage since I am not yet married. But I have been with my partner for the last couple of years now and I think there are times when he still surprises me with his attitude. I guess the thing here is the fact that you have kids and both are working. That would make the stress more because both are tired and the kids are really noisy at times. I guess this is the main reason why people or some couples couldn't handle marriage well. My brother's marriage failed as well because he wasn't ready to compromise, he cannot let go of himself that's why he never saw good with his life - he saw all the discomforts instead of appreciating his cute kids and his understanding wife. Oh well. I think there's really no perfect formula for love, but I guess being prayerful and open communications and love could at least help. I notice these days you're frustrated with your husband much. Perhaps this long weekend could help you bond with him more. Remember that husbands are like the first bornes, they are demanding and would like your attention too. I hope things get better soon. Good luck! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

We've been married for eight years already. His behaviors keep on changing so sometimes I'm wondering if he's still the man I married. I guess we only need to make our marriage work. We need to talk about our problems and deal with them. Happy myLotting.

That is what I always say to those who think that falling in love before marriage will lead to a successful marriage. Wrong. It is only when the couple live together that their true personality will be exposed. But no problem. If one is ready and willing one can wade through any unpleasant situations with a bit of adjustment and that is what marriage is all about.

The length of time we spent with our partners actually doesn't tell how much we know them. There are those who have lived with their spouse for more than ten years and still don't know them that well. I guess arguments help sometimes for us to really get to know our spouse. We just have to make sure that whatever misunderstandings we have, we need to overcome them.

Sorry to hear about it (uh- I feel bad reading such post) Try to talk with him and settle matters. Actually,I know myself I am not a good adviser when it comes to petty quarrel. It's very sad when small things becomes a reason enough to misunderstanding. Try to make him understand that he needs to strengthen his patience especially when kids are around. I am sure this normal in every marriage so be strong as it is said that wives are second mothers to their husband

Hi friend, it is really hard to understand fully about our spouse within a short period, we must need more time to understand each and everything about them. In my married life, we both have good understanding, but sometimes we too have quarrels for some thing, it shows that we need more understanding and compromise with each other.

Good evening, sad to hear your story, but i think its part in a family, all to do just have to understand your husband, cos the man is not the same like woman, We girls usually have more patience with this kind of issue, maybe his just too tired and wanted to have some peace of mind. You don't have to reacted too much, just think about your kids, just give him time to think and just do your part as his loving wife, its not good to think bad things about your husband all you have to do is to talk with him specially when your going to bed, don't sleep unless you tried to talk about it, but if he insist not to talk your problem then let it be,he will realize your the most precious wife he ever had. Man are like that if they are too tired or stress with their work.I just experience it lately but all i have to do is that comfort him. good thing we always end up with good conversation. goodnight

It is but a natural thing , all of us have really time to break down due to pressure from professional life and personal life. Nothing so dangerous about it , just little of your patience , more patience shall we say. Love conquers all right , so embrace the flaws of each other.

I have been married to my husband for 13 years. It seems each day I am learning something new about his "quirks". I sometimes think he makes them up daily just to annoy me. Tells me i make a mountain out of a mole hill. Seems we are the one doing the compromising all the time. I am at the point i do not ask him nothing cause its not worth the battle. i pick and choose my battles wisely. I do not fight him about having dinner with us anymore. He takes his in the bedroom alot. Not worth the battle because he tries to turn it all on me that i started. So I can totally understand what your going threw.

I think never finho to konw this peplo you decde to be witn your life