Get Anyone to Like You
By Deymit
@pestengbata (180)
United Arab Emirates
August 14, 2012 8:01am CST
If you want people to like you, make them feel good about themselves. This golden rule of friendship works everytime - guaranteed! The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met. Unfortunately, this powerful technique is seldom used because we are continually focused on ourselves and not others. We put our wants and needs before the wants and needs of others. The irony is that people will fulfill your wants and needs in any way they can if they like you.
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@gmwalterhouse (51)
• Singapore
14 Aug 12
I think that is a good point, I think what I can only add is to gain "real friends" and people to really like you, just be yourself. We cant please everybody and we cant change ourselves for each individual thus remaining true to our skin will help us dealing with our relationships moving forward in life.
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@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Aug 12
Exactly. I agree on you on that. Also, the way to make a good impression to people to gain friends is so simple that we sometimes forget it: SMILE ^__^ When you smile, people will feel that you are glad to meet them. They will feel accepted and get a good first impression about you.
@else22 (4317)
• India
14 Aug 12
Absolutely right.A friendly gesture turns strangers into friends.It makes others feel good about us.Consequently we get the same from others.The universal law is,we get what we give.I would like to add to it that we get more than what we give to others.If we show interest in others,they would show even more interest in us.If we love others,we get loved by others.This makes others our friends.Selfishness attracts selfishness.Most of us remain focused on ourselves and forget that there are others also besides us.I agree with you.
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@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Aug 12
People will go long way - sometimes even become insane - just to get the appreciation they need. So be a person who give honest and sincere appreciation to others. That's the big secret of dealing with people. If you do that, you can't keep people from liking you.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
1 Jan 13
Obviously most people will prefer to be liked by others, but I do not think that we should make any special effort to attain popularity.
I always try to treat people with respect and a friendly attitude, although I do not make a point of trying to please them in order to make them like me. There will always be someone who dislikes you, so accept the fact. I prefer to be the person that I am so if someone likes me they do so for the right reason as opposed to liking the person that I am pretending to be.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
1 Jan 13
This is very true sulynsi, we tend to stay in touch with friends and allow others to disappear into the background of our memories, where they belong.
I can sympathise with your daughter because while we are young we are far more concerned about the opinions of others. Being in the same company during the school years seems to give the impression that they constitute the whole of society of our age at the time.
@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
1 Jan 13
An excellent philosophy
Makes me think of something I told my daughter when she was upset about the girls at school being unkind to her.
It was so important to her what they thought of her.
I listened to what she had to say and then, thinking back in my own experience I said, rhetorically, 'you know there was a person who treated me that way when I was your age. You know where they are now?'
Her eyes got all big and she said, 'where?'
'I haven't the faintest idea, and what is more' it doesn't matter. Th e people who love me are still in my life but the people who didn't like me , well, they have their own lives and don't have any effect on me anymore'
Its true also of folks we meet up with throughout our lives, if their association is toxic, best to just move on. We've got this far in life and we didn't know they even existed, so we can get by without their approval for a bit longer.
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. They are not real friends. Real friends not lost at any difficult situation 
. But I lost all of my friends. Now I realized that they are not good friends 
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
sometimes in life ajithlal, you thought that you already found a true good friend and just wake up one day and realized that they are just an illusions you are right true friends never leave you in your ups and downs. True friends tell your mistakes with love and encouragement. True friends will always be at your side no matter what. Hope you can find a true friend in the future.
@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Aug 12
A true friend will come forward to help you without any request and be with us in need without showing it or expecting anything in return. In that case, your friend leave you in times of troubles and when your down then do not consider him/her as a TRUE FRIEND.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
1 Jan 13
I don't think there's anything wrong with using this technique. I am a huge believer of, "if you don't want somebody to something bad to you, don't do it to him first"
However, there are some people out there who understand the technique and use it to take advantage of people, especially people with low self esteem because they know these people are easy prays and they can bend them to their wills.
@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Aug 12
We can't please everyone. If they like us then very good, if not OKAY.
@bdfreelancer (518)
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15 Aug 12
What an excellent piece of writing pestengbata. I fully agree with you that if we really want others to like us we need to make ourselves pleasant and agreeable to them first. Putting their wants and needs before us will make a positive and trusting impression on their minds about us.
@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Aug 12
Thanks for the compliment. Yes! Agree! Make good impression not just good but great!
