Sometimes we need to be get hurt or cheated...

My previous boyfriend cheated on me and I was so disappointed when I learned about it. Although he has not met that girl yet, I felt terribly disappointed to know that they consider themselves as boyfriend/girlfriend. I have in fact talked to that girl and pretended to be my boyfriend's cousin. After the girl admitted that they are indeed in a relationship (but they haven't seen each other), I just can't accept it. I did not broke up with him in instant but I do tell him that I already knew. He thought that I will just ignore that fact because they have not seen each other but he was wrong. I cut all communications between us. I even told my friends to not disclose my new number so he won't find me. Yes, I was too hurt for what he has done but it was more of my pride. I just never expect that to happen. But we're perfectly okay now. We're good friends.I don't understand at first why those things have to happen. I just don't believe in destiny. I really think that if he stayed committed and faithful to me, we're still together until now. I believe that if something or someone was sent to you, and you just take them for granted, or you don't value them, you will definitely lost them.

hmm i agree wide but now at present im in a relation with a girl in my city and i have never seen her and we are in relation since 4years and she says she really loves me...but the thing is that when ever i ask her for out or to meetup or just to see her she ignores it and gets angry and it really hurts when she does that and i donno that she really loves me or just having fun..:(

Sometimes we need it to realize exactly what we are at stake to lose... To see the flaws in our ways between partners.. so that we can begin to fix them.

In the case of a love affair, I don't think I got cheated, and hopefully, I must have caused someone to get cheated. However, it is was so early to identify the situation and I don't think because of this reason I cheated someone or I got cheated as well.

hi, I feel may be that's true, because, many people experience it, either get hurt or cheated, i have seen many of my friends, who with no fault of theirs, suffered a lot, but came out of such relationships which are worth after some time, i think we should not bear any thing , if it exceeds the limit, we should have our dignity.

It happens sometimes to us,but we learned to strengthen our feelings because of this experiences. I was befriended by a guy when I was teenager,we go , laugh together for a months. I thought he likes me but desperately he just used me to get in touch with my friend whom he likes. :). Foolish me, anyway they have a happy relationship but they are not meant for each other have different family now.

That is partically true....because when someone is in love they don't listen to others because their love blinds them to the other persons faults...and sometimes they change themselves to fit in with that other person who just might not be the right person for them.

I think that it is true that we sometimes need the bad experiences in order to realize that the person isn't the right person for us. I got hurt in my previous relationship and our break-up was very painful. At that time I thought that the end of that relationship was the worst thing that could happen, but today I know that it was actually a positive thing. I thought that my ex-boyfriend and I had a good relationship, but the relationship that me and my husband have is much better than my previous relationship. Today I am when happy that my ex-boyfriend and hurt me and left me, because if he hadn't done that I wouldn't have met my husband, and I am much happier today.

Hurt from cheating is to make someone realized that the person is not worth keeping. It is always been said that truth hurts- but truth will set us free. And letting go of the wrong person is giving way for the right one to come along. Letting go for me is freedom and respect for myself.

I've never had this happen to me, but my boyfriend has. In his previous 2 relationships the girls cheated. The one he was with for 2 years and she cheated on him many times and treated him horribly before he finally broke up with her. The next girl he was only with for a few months and he caught her about to cheat and so he just ended things. A few months later, he met me and at first we were friends for a while and then we finally started going out. It took a little bit for him to trust again but I was patient and I earned it from him. He's my first and only boyfriend so I've never been hurt, but my boyfriend knows what that pain is like and now he's found happiness with me and he plans on proposing soon :)

That is very true, we need to be "jolted" on those heartaches before we know it that he or she is not meant to be with us. I admit, I have been through in loved and eventually crushed by those lies and deception of my past relationships, but I dealt with it, I stumble and get up again carrying those lessons. Now that I have found the "one". I will make it sure that everything will be fine and make this for life. I'm happy to discuss things like this. Thanks

I don't think anyone needs to be hurt by someone else. It is just that we will not realize the bad position we are in until it happens. We put too much trust into the people we love sometimes. We can be blind to their actions that we don't want to see. When we do this then we're allowing a door that can be open to be hurt or cheated on.

I am happy for you bhebelen. I went through those times as well. No matter how I love, in the end I always get hurt, lied and cheated by my bf's. I came to a positive thinking that maybe they wasn't really for me, cause if they're the person meant for me, I wouldn't feel pain at all. If that person truly loves me, then he wouldn't do anything to hurt me but instead find ways to make me happy. I still haven't found that special person yet, I am happy for those who already did. After all those tragic relationship I went through in my life, I still haven't lost hope that someday, the man who would truly love would still come knocking at my door. Good luck to me guess and congrats to the happy life you have now achieved.