HE LEFT THE TOILET SEAT UP, AGAIN!!

You can't change a man. Make sure he's a good one before you move in with him or let him move in with you.

you can't cange him! dump him quick! Sounds like you are his made! must be nice to have one!

get a ne wguy, you wont. It is called responsibility.

He sounds like a sloppy guy...most guys are...but not to this extent..Have you tried talking to him about it?..Don't hesitate..have a conversation to him about this..and if he really loves you..he'd do all he can to change..

Honestly i dont think there is anything you can do to change him, alot of men are like this. I know my man is like it and geez i wish i could change him but no matter how hard i try he still leaves his dirty dishes around and leaves the toilet seat up, his clean clothes scattered on the floor.

YOU CANT! This is the flawed design of most males. Deal with it or live alone,because theyre not very domestic. As far as the toilet seat goes, I call that even- both of you use it down(#2). He has to lift it to wiz, then you have to lower to wiz.

tell himto move back in with his mother, your not his maid...

no problem that can't be solve in a nice talk. try to have a heart to heart talk w/ him. ask for his cooperation and try to come up w/ some solution that can help him to become responsible adult.

this question always makes me laugh,,lets be fair here,,,either he is tidy or he isnt,,given he has just left home in which case his mum did it all as they do or he lived alone or with another bloke and they lived like pigs and really didnt mind the mess,the loo seat up,the rotten food,the pots out,,if you really really dont mind then you will get used to it and alter your cleaning habits to include his mess,or you could be in for disappointment when you let it get to you,,have a talk,leave his mess for him and if he is adamantly still not seeing it he may never do it,,take a look at what you can take and go from there,many a wifey complains and does it anyway for the specific porpose they dont do it how we like it.

You may not change him, but you can change yourself. Do these things really bother you? Why? If you leave it as is and don't get upset, perhaps he'll work on it.

just a question about that toilet seat? i don't really understand why the toilet seat can't be left up? Why is it, that it's not the girls that have to leave the toilet with the seat up? I really can't see the big problem about that thing, cause how hard is it to take the seat down, before you go to the toilet? About the other things, i think you should have talked those things over with him before he moved in!

You try first to sit down and tell him how you feel, I mean maybe he doesn't realize this is getting to you, If that doesn't work than maybe you may have to rethink the moving in together.

You can't make him change; you can just make life miserable for him if he doesn't think of doing things for himself. If the food spoils, he won't have anything to eat (neither will you, but we're discussing him); if he leaves his clothes around, they won't get washed (that's how I work it here). Tell him it is important to you that your place stay neat and clean, but you aren't the maid service so you expect him to do things, too!

vstone you are waking up to the real world of marragee. this is part of your man. You might as well get used to it. He's not going to change. you will only lose. Did't you notice these things before? Was he living at home with his mother? you never go into a relationship with the idea of changing that person it dosen't work.

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