Stuck with planning and no execution...
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
August 15, 2012 1:38am CST
I have a lot of ideas in mind on how I can make extra money while staying here at home with the kids. However, up until now, I haven't started on a thing. I'm too concerned that I might not be able to pull it off after the initial stages.
I have planned to bake goodies and other refreshments, and sell it in front of our house. I also planned to resume my online clothing business, and a tours business with my sister.
There's a lot of things I want to accomplish but I find myself stuck at home to take care of my kids, especially that I don't have a nanny to help me.
I guess, Ill just wait for the right time to do all those stuff and just focus on the kids for now.
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21 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Well I guess you have to set your priorities first. Which values you most will be the first to be implemented and taken action to. For now, it seems that you are more focused on you children.
But eventually you have to make one of those other plans of yours to get off and start earning since it may just be for your child's future that you should be doing that goal of yours. But of course take time to find time and value for your plans. Any plans without value is pointless. That is maybe the reason why you cannot start with any of your plans right now since you feel there is no value with the plans you have right now. Find it and so you can start with it already.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
It is good that you are making effort to put efforts in helping to get your own money for the family. I think there is nothing wrong with it since admittedly we all need money and we don't need to be dependent on what your husband can provide and it is a pride to get your money on your own and contribute it with your family. I think that is a noble idea that you show your husband that you can contribute to your husband in your own little way.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
My husband doesn't really need me to make extra money for the family. But, he's giving me the freewill on whether or not I want to work and earn. And, the money I'll earn will be for my own expenses and also for my mother's allowance.
But, I also do want to be able to buy him stuff, or take the family to a vacation. That would be swell!
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Right. I think I'm just feeling a bit pressured with earning extra money. I mean my husband can provide for our needs, pretty well. It's just that Im so used to earning my own money that my mind keeps thinking of ways how I can get some, yet, my body can't afford to do more tasks.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
15 Aug 12
Wow , you really have many good ideas in your mind. Kids grow fast. Don't worry, your plans will be executed sooner or later. Maybe online clothes business is available even now. You can take care of your baby while run your business at home. Thanks for sharing!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
You have a point on the clothing business. It's just that I can't get online as often as needed to be able to run it well. I don't want customers waiting for days to get a response from me or to send out their orders. And, I would need to get the items delivered which means I have to go out of the house and leave my baby.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
I think they only do pick ups for volume orders. If I'm just starting, perhaps, its just 1 or 2 packages every time. Do you know what their minimum requirement is?
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
17 Aug 12
Oh, in my place, someone in the express company can come to your house to get the things you want to send, expecially online business, you can choose the express company online to deal with the online order right the moment your costomers make their orders. So, it's different.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Oh i do know how you feel, i felt that way too after i gave birth to my youngest. I feel like i want to do a lot of things particularly in the earning department but then i am stuck as i have a little kiddo. When i got a nanny that was the time when iw as able to do the things i want to do...
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
yes i do believe in that, as having a small baby its hard to move around, there are things you want to do but you cannot.. if you want to fix that then i guess you really should find a help so that you can move too.. or if you want to unwind with your hubby, a househelp can look after you kid for awhile too.. in that way you are also removing stress. i know how wonderful it is to look after them but sometimes it gets to you and it is exhausting. hope you can sort it out my friend. :)
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Yeah, I really do hope I could work this out, somehow. If possible, without having to hire extra help. Perhaps, I just have to give myself more time to enjoy with the kids before adding more into my hands.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
So you think, this is a normal phase of a stay at home mom?
I used to have a nanny who was very efficient, but she left. So, Im just alone taking care of the two girls. I liked it, though, because I can have my way on them. But, it could get really exhausting sometimes, but I can't say "no more".
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Aug 12
There is plenty you can do even being at home with the kids, but you have to start small. Be careful making and selling food because there are all sorts of rules for that. What kind of online clothing bbusiness did you have?
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
I used to sell RTW from suppliers in Thailand and Manila, Philippines. I just take pictures of the clothes and post them on multiply or facebook.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I stopped because I got to busy with work, after a promotion. I decided to put my whole attention on my regular job at that time.
@Reneelao (223)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
hey, you have to get those ideas working,or else you'll end up doing nothing.
before, I also have the same thinking as you have now.
but now, I can do things I like to do.
but I'm sure you can find a gap in between your very hectic schedules to squeeze in those ideas of yours....
how about letting your husband get the kids to McDonald for an hour or two?
2 hours might be well enough to start off, don't you think?
TIME MANAGEMENT is the answer....
hope you can set your time well..
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I'm the wife...
Anyhow, perhaps, after a couple more months, I can actualize these plans, one at a time. My husband can't help much with taking care of the kids, because he also needs to rest from work. He only has a couple hours to spend time with them, and during that time, Im also busy with housework.
@zhihao12 (363)
• Singapore
15 Aug 12
Hello there. Its good that you have the ideas for simple entrepreneurship. I have done this before too, selling simple necklace and other accessories which i make myself and sold it for higher price. Although in the end i did make some profit, but i figure it was not worth my time and effort but it is a good experience. My suggestion to you is that you can try out with something smaller and see if it works. what is important is that you try to do this for at least a month and observe whether you are suitable for it. As for your constraint of having to take care of your kids, perhaps you can start off with something that you can spend your time doing at home, together with your kids. Not sure how old your kids are, but if they are of considerable age, they can even help you. You mentioned selling goodies and refreshments, that they can help you sell it too. As they grow even older then you will have more time to move on to other opportunities. My advice is still to try it out, if you never try you will never know.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
You have a good point, there. My eldest is still 4yr old and youngest at 2 months. The toddler can probably help in small ways like watching the stall, but can't really help with baking and even cashiering. Maybe when they're older, it would be a fun activity with the kids, and they'd also learn to be entrepreneurs.
@zhihao12 (363)
• Singapore
15 Aug 12
The 4 years old should be able to help out with simple task like attracting customers who love kids haha. The 2 months old one is really too young and require your care and attention, no choice i guess, at least its a joy too. Perhaps waiting a few more years will be ideal.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I was really thinking about training the toddler the value of money, as young as now. It's just that the other baby, like you said, would need more of my time. Perhaps, a couple more years.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
You know, I've always been good at time management, when I was still working. I bet I was excellent at that. But, it's just different when you're dealing with your own kids. The baby's schedule is erratic, during the day. I can't even predict what time she'll wake up. Well, I have estimates, but it doesn't necessarily happen all the time. If you get what I mean.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
15 Aug 12
This sounds tough! So, you are stuck at home watching the kids and taking care of the house...But also trying to earn some extra money? I have earned a bit working on a site called ChaCha. Not sure if it is hiring or what countries it hires from, but you could definitely check it out and find out. One month I made $200 from it. Of course I was on it A LOT to earn that amount, though, it wasn't easy! I have also sold a lot of my old clothes and shoes both on eBay and at a local consignment shop and made a pretty good amount on that. You could also try selling anything around the house that you don't use anymore - appliances, books, movies, etc - on a site like Craigslist or Kijiji. Maybe even have a garage sale? Best of luck to you in your money making!!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Good for you, maezee. $200 is not too bad for earning on an online site. You know, I wanted to do a garage sale here, but I'm not very sociable with my neighbors. If I had a nanny or househelper, I probably could use her to do the selling. I'm too shy to do that. Ebay selling could be an option, although, it's not as easy to find buyers there.
So, Juliyan here has found out, that Chacha is only for US residents. Too bad!
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
Hi Maezee!
You earn well on ChaCha , unfortunately the site only hires the people who have US mailing address :D
btw, do you know which site for selling a house?
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Sep 12
This was something that I found to be the case with me when I decided that I wanted to try working at home. I spent so much time thinking about the great things that I was going to do and I spent no time at all actually trying to execute those great ideas. Finally, however, I did come to the point that I knew that it was time to take action. I will admit that I'm not able to make a ton of money from home, but I do think that the little bit that I am able to make is something that is helping our family out.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Oh, a little help is a lot of help. Mind sharing your online activities?
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 12
Hi there!
You have done on making a list of jobs you would like to do. Then I think you should start doing it little by little. Otherwise you won't make it and will not going to start doing it. Even if it just a little but at least you started it. So start it today!!(^^)
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Easier said than done, my friend. I wished it was that easy to just get on and not think of the other stuff on my plate.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
15 Aug 12
Hi do you like to write
there a lot of free lance
jobs around if you are
good at writing and you
can do it a home just check
each counties laws on keeping or
selling the right to your stories
go to search and look up writer digest
this is a good magazine for beginer writers
it does not hurt to check it out
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I will check that out. However, I've tried applying for freelance writing jobs, but I think the writing style they need is not something I'm good at. I like to write about life experiences, travels, etc... but not article writing about things I don't even know about. Apparently, those writing jobs would require you to write about just any topic they have on queue, and it really strains my brain to be looking for words to put together to come up with a good article about a strange topic.
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 12
With such a busy life, you need to find time to realize your plan. If you have already plan well, then it's time to make it comes true.
Motivate yourself well, so you can overcome any obstacle that may appear. There is no such waiting for the "right time". I believe you should make it instead..
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
Perhaps, the motivation isn't that strong. But, i also don't want to make a bold step against all odds.
Thanks for the response.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
15 Aug 12
I see, maybe you can wait till the kids go to school. then you will have lot of time in your hand. I wish you could start your ideas to execution soon because there is lot of competition out there. I like your idea of making some goodies and selling outside your home. thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Im real envious to those other moms being able to do some small business from their homes. But, of course, they're kids are older and can already look after themselves.
Maybe, I just have to really enjoy my time with the kids, since we can never turn back time. Later on, I hope I'll have more time for myself and for my plans.
@jemmarespinosa (225)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
Hi jureathome!
I felt the same.. After college, my priority was to have a stable career but after seven years in public education I had an inkling to make extra money to make ends meet.
Here's what I did. Start small scale. One little step at a time, slowly but surely as they say. I did the extra work in my spare time. Think of something that would not eat up most of your time and will eventually drain you. Since you have kids, you could do it when they are at school or when they are sleeping. An hour a day would do. Set you priorities and act on it.. Faith and action goes a long way when combined.
You are blessed!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
That's a really good advice, jemma. One day, I'm sure I can sort this out, referring to the advices Im getting from you and the rest of the guys. Thanks.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
16 Aug 12
Hello my friend z Ji,
Well, as an old Lady I know that parenting most challanging subject these days for all working as well as house wives. But a syou have to bring up your children, you do some work from home only without leaving children at others mercy.
May God bless You and have a great time
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Reading your topic, it reminds me of the story of an American who wants to go to China. He really wants to go to China, visit the beautiful places therein, bought a lot of books about China, got a lot of different maps of China, planned a lot about his trip to China, but after the expected trip, was asked, "How's China?", he answered, "No, I haven't got there. I can't seem to go to the airport and board a plane to China."
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Yeah, I get your point. To get through the planning stage, we really have to take the next step, otherwise, we'll never get to achieve anything.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Aug 12
A plan will remain a plan unless we started our first step. Well anyway, you are right to prioritize the children over any other work. There is a proper time for everything. You should make the most of your time to be with your children while they are still young. These moments are priceless.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I guess I'll just have to wait for the right time for me to shift my attention on other stuff. I think I just get bored sometimes, that's why I would think about all those business ideas.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
15 Aug 12
Hi friend, we have lot of ways to make home based earnings, as you mentioned you have kids, you must concentrate with them. Mother's care is very important for kids, so focus your concentration with them, you can earn a lot with your work after raising them. All the best
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Thanks for the advice.
Yeah, I guess I have to just focus on them for now. Especially, that I don't have a nanny who can help me take care of them. My hands are already full with the kids, so I'd just have to postpone any business plans.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
15 Aug 12
Firstly I think,man can work till old and can work at any time,but the time to raise his/her kids and teach them especially in the early phase is limited,so I think now you should focus on your kids first,then if you do have spare time then you can find some online or part time job,I think you should find one job for you first and do it well,sometimes too much options means no option,then if you still find you have spare time and you can find other work,just something like that,and pls do not let you too tired,dear jureathome.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Thanks for the thought, skyandgrassplot. Yeah, maybe Im just stressing myself too much about earning money. I do need to spend time with the kids, and if I pursue any of those plans, it might distract me from being a mother, which is my primary role right now.
@jownism (2)
•
15 Aug 12
This happened to me before when I was still a Stay at home mom. So many things in mind but sometimes I get stuck on doing household chores or taking care of our son and preparing stuff. But that never really did get me anywhere. WHat I did is to plan my day ahead. There will be hours/specific time that the kid may be sleeping or playing and that is the time that you should do your own stuff (preferably online things) It will really help a lot in writing down the things that you want to do and try to do a schedule for all the stuff. Later on it will be easier to manage everything :) Good luck!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
That's a good tip. Perhaps, in a few more month, when my baby can sleep longer hours, I can spare some time for business stuff. Right now, she wakes up every 2-3 hours and I have to rush up to the room to nurse her. It's hard to concentrate on something when you get distracted every so often.
I will have to try out at least one, somehow. When the right time comes, that is.