kids permission

Out of respect to your children I think you need to share how you feel about this. I think it is important that they would understand the need for you to marry again. I truly believe that if you are able to convey what your thoughts on this matter they would understand although expect some resistance of course since they are teens and of course seeing their mom becoming a part of some stranger will be hard of course.

It's really a hard thing for that. I think you had better tell your kids about it, and see if they approve of it. It's a big thing, your kids should know it. And I think if your kids love you , they will understand you . Good luck!

I think if one is planning to for re-marriage and s/he already has children, then children are taken into confidence before tying the knot. Permission per se is not required as such, but children needed to be kept in picture.

I wouldn't say that you should ask for their permission, but I do think that your children need to be the most important thing in your life, and therefore they should be the ones who you think about the most when you're thinking about what decision you should be making. If they are happy for you to get married then that is fine, but if they have a problem with it then you could have a real issue if they're not going to be happy. I would never be with anyone who didn't get on well with my children because they would be the ones who were always the number one priority in my life.

Thankfully my daughters from my first marriage were only young, when I met my new husband, so they were not old enough to say what they wanted, also thankfully they did like him. My children would always come first no matter what, no one comes between me and my children.

I won't exchange my son for any guy. From the beginning I won't even start a relationship without my son's approval. I have my very own way of introducing important people in my son's life and I could tell who are good enough or worthy enough to appreciate him as much as I do. If i see that a guy don't know how to appreciate my son, then I wouldn't start a relationship with him. My priority is my son.

Depends on the age of the kids. My son was 7 when my husband and I got married. He had already been living with us for a year and a half at that point. We still got his opinion before we got married even though it really didn't change anything at all.

No, I don't think you who old ask permission of your children. After all, you are the adult, and it's your life. However, I do think that the matter should be discussed with them and their thoughts and feelings considered. You never know, they might know something you don't.

The way I feel about that question is not really about asking your own kids, I feel that you ask them out of respect and get their point of view. After all, the marriage does affect them too. It really depends on the situation. Some times you may not have the opportunity to ask the kids like my husband. He had 2 other kids from previous relationships and didn't even have them in his care at the time we got married. I am sure he would have asked them if they were in his care. But asking kids and getting their blessing just makes things alot easier.

I can say that you should ask for their permission but I think you should hear what they are thinking. If you really love your children, you should consider what will they feel if they are still minors and mainly depend on you.

I agree with a few here. I don't think we need permission from our children for anything. We are the parents, they are the child. I think we want our children to be happy but we do not their permission since there is a reason were the parents. I think talking to them about things is important as well. And we should always think about if the situation is good for them. Any good parent does that.

Maybe i wouldn't call it permission, but probably communicating it with your kids. I think if everything is OK in a family, then kids probably understand your need to be married again. I think parent should slowly introduce their future husband/wife to their kids before the parents tell their kids that they want to be married again, that way the kids were not shock by their parent's decision.

I am going to take the perspective of a kid. If my dad or mom decide to marry other person, i prefer that they tell me first and ask about my opinion. It is not like i'm saying parent need kid's permission, but at least share about it with us kids. Some parent will marry anyway even if their kids object the marriage, and then they will really leave you. As a kid, i also wish for my parent's happiness. I'm not going to let my mom or dad marry a drunkard or something.