I wash again my son's smart phone!!!
By marketing07
@marketing07 (6266)
South Korea
August 15, 2012 10:34am CST
I feel very sorry to my son.because i always to forgot to take out his celphone into his pocket and i always put it into a washing machine...this is the second time...the first one his touch phone..and i have no choice rather than to buy a new one...but today i dont know how to explain to him that his smartphone is not already working...of course my husband will get angry to me...
and i dont know either how to explain..i feel so depressed..
and i dont know either how to explain..i feel so depressed..2 people like this
18 responses
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Just tell him the truth , am sure he will understand . Then teach kids also not to leave the mobile in pocket. Teach him to be responsible little by little he will develop that sense of being responsible.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
15 Aug 12
Along with it, have a regular checking on the pockets of the clothes which you put for washing. So that such situations do not come again in your life.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
16 Aug 12
How is it that you're blamed in the incident? Children are taught irresponsibility when things happen like this. He needs to EARN a new phone, not to be handed one. And your husband should stand with you on this when in front of your son; otherwise, he's demeaning you, and possibly all women, to your son.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
17 Aug 12
Hm.
I was going to say that if he is older than 13, then you should be teaching him to take responsibility for his own stuff.
Remember, that's the whole point of you being the parent is to teach him that it's his job to take care of his stuff.
Are you going to be following him around when you are 70, checking his pants pockets before he washes his clothes? 
Of course not! So your primary goal is to teach him to take care of his stuff.
Equally that means, when *HE* doesn't take care of his phone, and leaves it in his pants to be washed *HE* gets to not have a phone.
That's the way my parents were. If I left my phone in my pants, and they got washed, my parents would simply say well... you should have taken care of your stuff. Now you don't have it anymore. Guess you'll have to work, earn money, and buy a new phone.
Shockingly I was very careful with my stuff, because I knew if I broke it, that was it. I didn't get a new one. I'd have to work for it.
On the other hand, if the child was 10 or younger, then it is your fault. Not because you washed it, but because you gave something so expensive and breakable, to a child that simply wasn't old enough to take responsibility.
Oddly, 12 is right in the middle.
I don't know.
What I do know is, you shouldn't feel bad about this. You are not super mom. You are a human being. Human beings are not all powerful super spirits that know everything, and can watch everything.
You are limited. We're all limited.
It's time to teach little child what it means to be an adult. Take responsibility for his own stuff. For starters, maybe you should have him do his own laundry. Wash his own clothes.
Of course not! So your primary goal is to teach him to take care of his stuff.
Equally that means, when *HE* doesn't take care of his phone, and leaves it in his pants to be washed *HE* gets to not have a phone.
That's the way my parents were. If I left my phone in my pants, and they got washed, my parents would simply say well... you should have taken care of your stuff. Now you don't have it anymore. Guess you'll have to work, earn money, and buy a new phone.
Shockingly I was very careful with my stuff, because I knew if I broke it, that was it. I didn't get a new one. I'd have to work for it.
On the other hand, if the child was 10 or younger, then it is your fault. Not because you washed it, but because you gave something so expensive and breakable, to a child that simply wasn't old enough to take responsibility.
Oddly, 12 is right in the middle.
I don't know.
What I do know is, you shouldn't feel bad about this. You are not super mom. You are a human being. Human beings are not all powerful super spirits that know everything, and can watch everything.
You are limited. We're all limited.
It's time to teach little child what it means to be an adult. Take responsibility for his own stuff. For starters, maybe you should have him do his own laundry. Wash his own clothes. @scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
16 Aug 12
(typing this response again, only with letters, numbers and standard punctuation which is what I DID!!!)
If your son is old enough to have a smart phone, he's old enough to empty his OWN pockets! Don't feel depressed-it was your son's fault for not taking care of his things. You take care of your home, correct? If that's correct, then you're a very busy woman and to have to additionally take care of little details like emptying every single pocket is ridiculous. Don't be depressed-your son made the mistake and he'll have to learn to be more careful with his things. And gently suggest to your husband that your son needs to be more responsible, and to NOT buy him a new phone.
@youless (112366)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 12
I am sorry to hear that. But I don't think it is totally your fault. Your son can take out of his smartphone and then hand it to you. People will make mistakes now and then. If I were you, I always forget to check the pockets. One day my husband's wallet was still in his pocket but it was washed by the washing machine. I was worried that his credit cards couldn't work after that. But the truth was nothing wrong happened. Besides, his cash was clean after that:)
I love China
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
thats was nice to wash his wallet..sure it is clean 
but cellphone is too sensitive and i have to replace it.
but cellphone is too sensitive and i have to replace it.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
im already searching for a second hand same model with his phone..thank you
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I almost wash my phone to before luckily that I do check it so I learned that I do check the pockets of my pants every time I will wash it to avoid incident like that.
Just tell the truth about it to your husband and explain that it is not intentional, just an accident.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
16 Aug 12
Tell him the truth and tell him that it is HIS responsibility to clean out his pockets, not yours. If your son is old enough to have a smart phone, he's old enough to do his own laundry too.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
15 Aug 12
I don't understand why it is your fault 
If he is old enough to have a smartphone then surely he is also old enough to make sure it is safe and not in his pockets when they go to the laundry bin? 
If he is old enough to have a smartphone then surely he is also old enough to make sure it is safe and not in his pockets when they go to the laundry bin? @marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
im always in a hurray to wash and its my fault that i never check his pocket..
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
15 Aug 12
Your son needs to learn how to take care of his things if they mean anything to him... Also, it was an accident... People should relize it wasn't done on purpose & while it's ok to be upset for a while, they should really get over it... It's not the end of the world... After all, it's only a cell phone...
@MizzLadyB08 (1174)
• United States
15 Aug 12
You should not be the one that is sorry or apologize because it is not your fault that your son left his cell phone in his pocket. He should be responsible enough to remember to take his phone out of his pocket not you. If it was my child he would have to earn another phone because phones are not cheap.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
i felt bad too..thingking it was my fault for not checking his pocket..thank you
@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
15 Aug 12
Hi marketing07,
I too feel that it shouldn't be your fault if someone is not responsible enough to remove all items from his/her clothing before they put them to the wash. I don't know how old is your son but if he is old enough to carry and use a smartphone then he should be old enough to be responsible for such things. I guess your job is to check that nothing is left in the pockets but it's only human to forget sometimes. So it's better if you teach him to empty his pockets each time he put his clothes to the wash. Anyway, whatever is done cannot be undone. You just have to explain and hope your husband is understanding enough.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
yes, your right...my son at his age(12yrs.) is too busy with his hobby and he is very forgetfull
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
15 Aug 12
Hi this could be a good lesson
for your son,may the next time
he check all his pockets
before he throw them in the wash
it not your blame it his
maybe this will get your son
to do his own laundry if some
one old engouh for a smart
phone they can do there own laundry.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
at his age..maybe im to blame..that i never nag him all the time..
@LovingMyBabies (85273)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Aug 12
I am sorry. =( But I do think your son should be responsible for emptying his own pockets before it goes into the wash. I already teach my kids that and my oldest is only 6 years old.
My husband drives me crazy with leaving things in his pocket and I always have to empty them before I wash them so I do not want my kids doing it also! They are being taught it now so it sinks in their brains. Lol.
I hope no one will be too angry at you for it because I really feel like your not the one to be blamed for it. It is your son's phone and your son's pockets...
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
yes, your right..but i think both of us has to blame..thank you
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
replacing a new phone is now on my mined, but i do hope i could find a cheaper one..thanks
@cagampan1991 (364)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
that is so sad. But I think it was also your sons responsibility to check all the pockets before he let you wash it.
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
Hello there. Oh, that really happens. We could sometimes forget to do some things especially when we are doing a lot of things or when we are busy. You were able to do it the second time around so maybe next time, before washing some of your clothes, you should make sure to it that every pocket of your clothes are really empty. :) Or maybe, tell your family members, or your son to always check his pockets too so when you would wash his clothes already, no more delicate things are in them anymore. Maybe, if you would buy him another hand phone in the future, you should tell him to put it out of his pocket when he's already home. Maybe, you need to tell them the truth. They could also understand you. Accidents really happen. Maybe, you might hear something from your husband but what can you do, it's already done, right? Just don't feel so sad about it. Maybe, just be more careful next time. :) At least, the hand phone is still in your home, it wasn't lost anywhere. Other people lose their handphones without a trace. They don't know where their hand phones are. They don't know where they were able to drop them or if other people got them. It's good you still have your remembrance of that smart phone. Maybe just keep it. Just don't feel so bad and sad. That's okay. Just be more cautious next time and everything will be okay. :)
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
15 Aug 12
Anyway past is past. Getting depressed about the past do not bring you the things back. Lessons from your experience helps you to learn a lot of lessons and this situations teaches you a lesson how to handle the clothes before you put them for washing.
Try to get them repaired quickly as fast as possible. So that you do not get any harsh words from your husband but make sure that you tell it to him.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
unfortunately,repair is not the answer. cause the water ruined the whole thing,,,so we have to buy another..thank you..
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
15 Aug 12
Ohh man, too bad for the phone...and your son :( Shouldn't they have their phone with them always? And not on the pockets of their clothes ready for laundry?
Don;t feel too bad about it, it's not just your fault. You and your son are equally responsible for it. Maybe this second time, it will be a lesson for you both. I'm sure your husband will understand...eventually. =)
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
16 Aug 12
yes your right my friend it is both of us have to be blame...my husband do understand..thanks
