"Better to keep Silent "

Hi! I would like to disagree with you. I think we do not share with others, we would feel stressed with the issues. If there is someone who even does not listen completely, s/he might provide some solution/remedy to our problems. It is possible that s/he may say something unpleasant to us but that does not mean that we should not share.

Hi friend, you are right, there is no use in talking with the person whoever don't give importance to us, better to be silent than sharing every thing with an uninterested person.

I think less damage is done by keeping quiet than by speaking up. Well, at least most of the time. Most of the time our words are misinterpreted. If we do not say anything then the misinterpretation may not be as bad. Well hopefully.

Hello my friend prashu228 Ji, I too think that keeping silence is the best policy. But when time comes one must speak out and steam out him/herself. It is always better to hit the iron when it is hot. May God bless You and have a great time

Though I know completely what you mean when you are talking about people listening to you but not being able to help you because they don't understand what you are going through. However, I have found in my own life that it is much better to have someone that you can talk to, even if they don't completely understand what you are going through. The reason that I think this is better is because of the fact that if you actually talk about it, you are not keeping things bottled up and thus they are easier to deal with.

Yeah but eventually we allow someone in but some cant fully understand since they haven't gone through the same thing.

Well since the invitation is open to share about this, I will share my views regarding this. I don't like to share much with those around me and that's because I just don't like to sit and seem to be complaining to others, plus if its a small irritation of mine and it pertains to someone that they know. Like a friend of a family person, then it makes them look bad as well as me. It then seems more like gossip and just isn't acceptable in my opinion. I do however have one person that is close to me that I share pretty much everything as she does too. Its understood that its always just between us and not a thing for either of us to judge anyone on.

Hi prashu, I agree with you, often it is better to be keep silent. We must not however let hurt and disappointment build up inside and later come out in an angry outburst. Blessings.

Talking to someone else sometimes helps you. Sometimes you need to vent or if you are having a problem the solution often comes when you say it out loud. If you don't want to talk to friends, maybe you should talk to a stranger. I have a lot of physical problems, and don't like to complain to friends. I was meeting with a therapist and I felt I could tell her more than others, because she didn't really know me.

you were right there... Better to be silent... But sometimes being just silent, makes a friend get the wrong way... and sometimes in trouble... maybe giving and advice or viewing some points might help, but if you think that friend is very offensive... better stop and keep silent... we don't want to end up hurting our friendship.

I keep quiet when it comes to family and friends. I do not want them knowing everything about me and my life. That is why I come here to talk and talk. If people judge me here so be it, they don't really know me. It hurts much worse when someone you care about judges you.

This discussion just made me notice the anagram of listen and silent. If you listen carefully , you got to keep silent. Silent and listening are like brothers , lol , and I just realize it now. I always listen carefully with silent when someone talks to me. I sometimes ask question to make him repeat what the friend tells me. So I ask him like "really ? did he do ..... like that ?! " and my friend will say "yea , sort of , that's what happened"

Hello Prashu, I also think it is better not to share our problems and feelings with people who are not willing to listen to us. People cannot respond to our situations properly when they do not listen to us and try to understand us. I also choose to keep quiet in front of such people.

Yeah you are right, even i feel the same thing . Even though i share things with others truly and be sincere, people don't pay attention to me. They think that life is all about money.

I think with those in a marriage or partnership, the truth is always best to come into the relationship. Sometimes it can be uncomfortable for one or both partners, but as a therapist myself, I feel that it is the best way to grow. With other, like wider family or friends, then wisdom comes from knowing when to speak and when to remain silent. However, I have found that if you tell the truth to somebody there's not always a way to know or not if they are upset and the truth is always better spoken because it tends to come out sooner or later anyway. If a person is upset by the truth, then that person has created the problem. The truth is just truth. It doesn't seek to hurt or give pleasure.. It is simply so. _Derek

i know how you feel. this is why i choose to verbally communicate as little as i can. the most talking on do is online. lol. people have to really give more determination to what you have to say if they have to take the time to read it. the are also processing the information better. maybe seeing has more of an effect than hearing.

A very wise man told me once...listen first, ask questions later. Usually as if you just listen, you won't have any questions as they will be answered if you don't interrupt. And he has always been right as it happens. Plus...I have found that it doesn't much matter what I say... they will do as they please anyway so why bother. It depends on the situation as to whether I will say anything or not...sad but true. I have found most don't really want to hear it and will argue about it, so again..why bother!

There are appropriate times to keep silence, and there are appropriate times to talk. Unfortunately a lot of people just keep talking and also a lot of people just keep silent. I for one try to balance both. There are times when it is better to be agreeable than enter an argument about something, especially if it's something petty. There are times when I speak up, when I feel strongly that I am correct and what I will say is very important for the person.

Well sometimes silence works, but for me it is also good to try to talk to someone about your problem. Yes not everyone that hears understands, but not also everyone can't understand.

There are times we need to share and times we need don't need to. It all depends on the type of they are and the kind of problem you are sharing. We don't have to tell everybody our thoughts all the time. If you ask me, if I have problems, I try to settle them myself first. If I can't settle the matter and I feel I need some advice, I solicit them to people who knows me very well. One reason why people seems passive is that they are afraid to give a wrong advice. Or..they don't know the right answer. Before you ask someone's advice, try to settle it alone first.