our wife behaviour
By coelenterata
@coelenterata (188)
Indonesia
August 15, 2012 11:06pm CST
i want to know your opinion guys about how we can change our wife behaviour that we dislike so much?i have tried explaining to her but still do not have good respond from her?
3 responses
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I am a wife and my husband do tell me to change my behaviour lol and i tell you the result will not be pretty. Pretty much he learned not to change me but we learn to compromise. you marry her for her so why change?
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Well may i ask what behavior you do not like then? if it is something really grave then maybe it is something you and her should sit down adn talk about it, you should express how you feel and tell her that you find if offensive and its time she also reconsider your opinion and feelings too.
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 12
well she is very rough,easy to angry and in my opinion she do not really appreciate me.well do you think this is a grave matter?i have had several dicussion with her bout this but like i said there is still no positive result from her :(
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 12
so basically what do u mean is that i have to accept everything about her even if there is something i really do not like about her attitude?hmm but still what about her?do you think she can do the same for me?
@lampar (7584)
• United States
16 Aug 12
May be you need to think outside of your box, try to like her behavior or even force yourself to accept her behavior if you had exhausted all the option and use various method without any success. Instead of thinking of changing her which obviously is almost impossible according to your statement, you may well change your self and accept her without condition, after all, she is your wife and you love her deeply, let just give love a chance to blind them all (all your dislikes), pretend you never see them again and think positively inside your head that her behaviors is actually not so bad after all. 
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 12
okay my friend thanks for the advice i will try that even if it is so difficult at beginning :)
@lampar (7584)
• United States
16 Aug 12
Give it a try, Pal!~ If it doesn't work out, you still have the last tool at your disposal, you can always find yourself a new woman/wife that doesn't have any 'dislikes' that irritate or annoy you, or you can just divorce her base on her weird/irritating/bad/annoying or whatever behaviors you despised. Correct, it will be difficult at the beginning stage, you can bet on that. 
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I'm not a guy but i'm a wife and i think i could give you an insight. The more you try to change her, the more she would be stubborn to do that. So the best thing to change your wife's attitude is to let it go and pretend that you like it. In time she will take notice how strange you are acting and she will change on her own.
If it won't work, try getting a new wife.
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 12
thanks for the advice but i have tried that too but it is still not working,is there any other advice for me?try getting a new wife is the last thing i would do because we already has a daughter and i still love her
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Having a child is not an excuse for staying in a marriage. You love her but are you in love with her? If you are then why change her attitude?
I never tried to change a particular behaviour of my husband, because I was never annoyed. Not because it's not annoying but it's because I can accept it.
