how hard is it to stay in a marriage?!

Hi snigdha, Welcome to Mylot What you say is true, .The first six to seven years are difficult in the sense you have to get to know each other,accept and try to adjust and compromise on many things .But later ,when you have kids and they become teenagers , different problems crop up and the relationship in most cases gets tested again....I see it as a constant struggle and compromise, more so from a woman's side , because men do have their limitations when it comes to kids and understanding them...all the best and happy mylotting

You must be understanding,loving,caring,and most of all knows the art how to manage your emotions of anger.You should have a good self motivation and thereby knows self control so that your marriage could last in your lifetime.Your partner must also has that ability so that your relationship will always end in love with each other.It only took you 1 year in your married life and you could know the real temper of your partner.When that happens you should take part right away by adjusting yourself so that when your partner detects you have done your part he can also make adjustments so that harmony in the house would be back again.

I like the saying where it says "united we stand; divided we fall" and I believe this saying is relevant to your discussion. Marriage is a union of two parties coming together to share the joys and sorrows, the good and bad, the good health and sickness, the rich and the poverty - so when 2 or more are living and working together to let one another have a better day and life, then there will be no mountain too high, no distance too far and ocean too deep to overcome. But, if any one is not on the same boat then, I am sure it will not be easy at all.

It is really hard to stay in marriage because it is a union of two people with different values and perspectives. They were raised in different ways and by different parents so it would really require years of adjustments, usually seven years. I am on my first year of being married and it is really hard. Never ending adjustments but I know that it is just normal. What is important is that we are willing to talk about our differences and make solutions to solve our problems. How married couples handle their problems can really make a big difference in their marriage.

After 21 years of marriage I still have to work at too. But you need good open communication and understanding from both sides. If the boss of the house want to stick to his own ideas and follow his plans only than you have a problem. But if God is in all that and helps to make it work and help both to have clean motives and desire to work together in harmony than you can walk together. It take some work nothing is easy.

Marriage is like a car. It needs constant maintenance to keep functioning well. The more you take care of it the better it will work. Communication and trust are crucial elements of a good marriage. You sound like a mature, understanding person and your marriage should stay strong as long as you have that attitude. I wish you many more happy years together.

We were together for 5 years before we got married, so we were pretty comfortable with each other. That being said, we still changed and grew during the last few years, so we've had to adjust. Now we have a child together too, which makes it a bit harder, but I still wouldn't say it's been hard for us to stay in our marriage.

marriage takes a lot of work and many people just are not that committed to marriage and the work it requires. my hubby and i have been married almost 25 years (October) and it has been a lot of work to make the marriage work. most marriages end in disagreement and neither party seems to want to come to a satisfactory conclusion to that argument.

I'm hoping that marriage isn't going to be that hard because I would really love to get married at some point in time. Right now I am madly in love with my girlfriend and I'm hoping that the stage we are in right now never starts to fade and that we don't begin to become disconnected. My love always stays strong and I can't see myself losing any affection for her. It kind of disappoints me that so many people have a tough time with marriage and when you see so many divorces happening and relationships ending so badly. I want to believe that soul mates and perfect relationships do exist out there but it's hard when you see your best friends parents getting a divorce after twenty years of being together and plenty of other examples like that. I do realize that it does take a lot of effort from both partners in a relationship and I guess that they also just have to not get bored with each other.

Been married for 8 years. Was it tough during those years? Yes it was. We had our ups and downs, a couple of serious fights that even led to an argument of breaking up. But here we are, still together, working out the relationship.

Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Marriage relationship requires trust and understanding, if the couple have both of them, then they will have a peaceful married life, we finished 5 years of our married life and living happily with our kids

Marriage does take a lot of work. It is not happily ever after like the storybooks and movies betray it. Each party must carry their weight and it is not a 50/50 thing it is 100/100 and their is no book that has been written that can truly prepare you for this. I've been married for almost 8 years and it has been a journey to say the least but God has helped me though everything and is teaching me everyday how to be a better wife, person, etc. I say people should seek God for a mate because when he gives him/her to you you can't go wrong.

marriage is not easy

I've been married for 3years now, and it has been work but there is also no reason to stay with someone that doesn't make you happy Everyone has the right and the ability to be happy. It's all about self choice you control everything that happens in you day to day life so stay happy no matter what the cost

It is as hard or as easy as the married people make it. Most people do not try to stay or only one person tries. Sometimes it is not worth trying, but that is because the people didn't make good choices. One person may have lied or kept important information secret. The avreage person is too immature for marriage.

Marriage is not really an easy journey and never be made in heaven as other must say. It requires hard work so not to fail marriage. I believe that no matter how perfectly you started there will always be challenges that are already prepared for you and your partner that only time can tell when will it come your way. And, to make marriage last has no perfect formula. No time frame. All it need is to have a mutual comittment be understood and accepted by both and work for it hand in hand . It takes two to tango, so its a partnership.

That's very true. Staying in a marriage is hard and very challenging. But good news is staying in a marriage is possible. You just need to work both for its success. It should be a balance of everything and both of you should adjust. The best foundation of marriage is how prepared are you to get married. Most marriage failed because at some point one of them realize they are not yet ready for a family.

When my husband and I are newly wed its really hard because most of the time were always fighting even it its not worth it but after a year that we already knew each other attitude we became friends and partner.Now were married for almost 7 years and were both happy in our relationship. For me it hard to stay in marriage at first but when you learned how to deal with each other attitude, characters and way of think everything comes easy especially you both love each other and want to keep the marriage.

how hard is it to stay in a marriage? stay in a marriage is not easy bec. its two person that came one. and if you are not happy in your marriage life why are you staying. if you can stay away. if you always frighting if you can go. but you must also think of the children. but some family have been seperated and the children is most in mother. and sometimes to the father. and worst is that if left in the grand parents. and some marriage when its old age they came back to each other.if you still carry to hold on the love and the pain. its up to you. if you can't go any more just leave it. and if someone is love you and will be happy with someone else. and i hope our country will be approve the annulement or divorce bill thank you.