marriage

The devil is starting to wreck your home, beware at all times. When you have done everything and you can't think more of any better way, just pray. Surprise your husband for a romantic date, not necessarily expensive, but at least a memorable one, talk to him about your fear in a womanly way, sweet and caring tone. Never rotten your life at home only, try to stay beautiful always, let him feel some insecurities and jealousy in himself but this does not mean you have to fine another man, just let him feel you exist, you have a life still, an active one. With this, it will add up the spice of a warm relationship between you. Change your old way, just like if you always answer him back in every negative comments he will say against you, this time try a new, just smile and just look at him kindly still. Don't talk, don't reason out, just keep going with what you think is right. It will have a powerful impact. Just remember always, stay calm, be beautiful, think positively and be pro-active.

men feel bad when a woman earns more than them, it makes them feel weak. i think the only thing you have to do is to ignore all the arguments. If something is about to make you argue breath in deeply, give him a kiss and tell him that you love him i hope it helps you

It sounds like there is something underlying that he doesn't feel able to talk to you about. Usually when there is alot of arguing and it is about little, knit picky stuff it is because there is some underlying problem. Sounds he is frustrated with other fassets of his life and uses these things to get on you about. If he is genuinely unhappy with your preformance as a wife has he ever thought about pitching in alittle? Maybe he is upset because you make more than he does. Did you live with him before you got married or did you get married right away? If you lived with him before marriage weren't you the same then? What did he expect to change. I think that alot of time a break down in communication before and after marriage is the problem. A person may have a fantasy about how married life will be and then they get married and it isn't that way at all. Why? Cause they never verbalized on their needs and expectations. Communication is so important. If he is so unhappy maybe he needs to give some serious thought to the options. And I certainly would not quit my job! That would be him controlling the situation and then your life will become a living He*ll.

Whoa there. Maybe you're husband is not looking at you as his wife. Does he think that a wife should be a man's caregiver? I know that sounds a bit harsh but your husband might be living the ideals of a different era. A marriage is not a bond of servitude. It is a bond of partnership. In fairness to your husband, he might bow to this kind of an ideal wife because that's the way that he was brought up to believe in. Trust in your partnership, if you tell him clearly that you are NOT that type of woman he will learn to adjust his attitude towards you because he really loves you. Although it takes really a lot of patience to change a man's lifelong views about gender roles. Having your own job is not only about you contributing to your finances, it's also about you knowing your worth in the society.