Why there is such a tradition?

It is traditional to have the bride to feed the groom some of her piece of wedding cake and for the groom to feed her. Many couples carefully feed their partner but... some like to make a mess. It isn't as traditional.

I am not surprised to know that there is such a tradition in America.In each part of the world there has been some strange traditions and people follow them religiously.They have been followed for centuries and now people follow them even if they don't know what they really mean.I am a Hindu from India.There are some strange traditions that are being followed on different occasions.For others they are strange,but for us they are sacred traditions.

Okay, I see some have not heard of it or think it is something different. But there are two variations: 1. There is a tradition where the first two bites of cake, the bride takes one and the groom the other, and they feed each other. 2. There is another tradition, same thing as above except instead of just feeding one another, they'd squish the bite over the face of one another. I don't know where either tradition came from or which came first, but I believe you are thinking of the second tradition.

I've never heard of that tradition. I know of the tradition where the bride and groom feed cake to each other and often they have had some drinks in them and smash it on eacho other's faces. The original tradition meaning that they will take care of eachother. Maybe throwing the cake is a side tradition a certain family had when feeding each other went crazy. But, I've never heard of throwing it at eachother.

Ok, there is no tradition to throw or smear cake all over the other person. The only tradition is to feed a bit to each other. The groom is supposed to feed some cake to the bride, and the bride to the groom. The purpose is to symbolize the sharing of the household. What's yours is mine, and what's mine is yours. The only mythology with smearing the cake on the others face, is actually supposed to be something bad. The myth was if you smeared cake on the others face it meant you would end up divorced. It was a negative meant to be avoided. So why do these people smear cake on each other? Because they want to. Not a tradition, not a symbolic thing. They just mess around. I think it's horrible myself, but such is American culture.

Hi, Traditional customs are made with specific reasons in our tradition/ country. There are a lot of fun filled activities in most (I think in all) of the traditional marriages, followed even today in our place. I won’t be able to exactly tell you the reason of this cake throwing, it would be more fun when you are dressed neatly and a little of cakes here and there, or may be to get rid off the evil eyes on the beautiful couple. happy lotting... pls ahre if you could find out exact meaning, would like to know.

There is always a lot of tradition when it comes to weddings, but I know a cousin who had a very fancy and very traditional wedding, and her marriage didn't last very long at all. What a waste?! I know most all of the traditions, and I know why people do them, but they don't always mean anything. Sometimes, people do these traditions, and it doesn't mean that the marriage is going to last. One is the lighting of the candle to symbolize the light in your relationship. One is the "Something Old, something new, something blue, and something borrowed", and this is to symbolize past, present and future (That's what I was told, but I don't know if that is true). There is the bouquet toss and the garter toss to the single women and men is to symbolize the next person or people to get married. There are so many that I really don't want to get into them all, but if you look them up online, then I am sure that you can find the meaning of them all.

he tradition is actually for the bride and groom to feed eachother a piece of the wedding cake. Unfortunately throwing it, or smashing it into the face of the othe evolved as a joke over the years, and no a lot of people do it. OL At our wedding my husband and I fed it to eachother with no mess, no throwing, no smashing.

I've never heard of such a tradition. To me that makes a mockery of each other and it's also demeaning to each other. I would hate to be at a wedding where the bride and groom behaved so.

When you say "throw", do you actually mean throw? Because the tradition is to feed it to each other, not actually throw. You see a lot of couples throw it at each as a joke, but it's not the norm. Most people just feed it to each other without a mess.

I think this was a tradition, may be to ward off some evil, or for some good wishes. I have heard of such kind of strange customs elsewhere in the world also. Some are funny, others are not at all understandable.

yeah, that is quite a weird thing to do, i didn't know it really was tradition.. But then, each culture has one or two weird traditions anyway. it looks like they are having fun though.

Haha,how interesting!i haven't heard it before,but when our friends hold birthday party,we usually put cake on his body when he doesn't pay attention to,and then he will put cake on our body to "revenge",haha,it is just for funny.i think the tradition you mentioned above is similar with this.

yah your right..why is this happen? i think are forefathers believed in many things like gods and others this are norms..but its up to us if we believed this traditions.theres nothing loose if we did..but we just do want we want and do what makes us happy, anyways that our life..are you planning to get married this year?

wow..it was a very interesting wedding...

There isn't such a tradition. Some people choose to feed each other cake. Some people (ones I think are just strange) smash cake in their new spouse's face. However, that certainly is not any American tradition, and it certainly is not anything that would be happening at my wedding--utterly appalling. If your understanding of American culture comes from watching stuff like America's Funniest Home Videos, your understanding of American culture is seriously warped. Read a variety of our books; listen to our music, and watch a variety of television series that show people from a range of backgrounds (for instance, Roseanne is one show that portrays blue collar Americans). Then, you may have some better understanding of American culture. Even better, come visit--and, no, not just the major cities. Seeing New York City won't tell you much of anything about how most of us live; there is a lot more to the U.S. than New York, Los Angeles and Miami.

Hi friend, i am not aware about this tradition, but it seems very funny. I think they are expressing their real enjoyment in this way, so only they have this kind of tradition, there is nothing wrong in expressing our happiness in an unique and different way.

It Sounds really strange. Are they celebrating the wedding or Is it the ritual followed in the wedding? Anyways there are too many religion, Too many geographical variations, too many people following different kind of rituals in the wedding. So we need to respect each culture.