I don't know why my dad is getting on to me about work

You know what really stands out to me, courtknee525, about what you've said? Your dad is on your back about not having "enough" money saved in the bank -- but your parents expect you to call in sick (when you're clearly not) to attend a baby shower?! That's sending totally mixed messages, in my opinion. Your father is expecting you to be responsible, have a job and even save more money than you've been able to put aside... but it's ok to be irresponsible, call in sick when you're not and leave the people at your job scrambling to find coverage for you because they want you to attend a social event. I would never do this to either of my daughters. My youngest will be 19 soon and her older sister just turned 22. They are both full-time students (whose education I pay for) and they live at home. They earn whatever they can for their own spending money. For example, my younger one is a math tutor who sees several students a week and has earned enough money to buy a new phone, keep a year's worth of her phone plan cost always banked and she even saved up to splurge on something she wanted that cost her another $350. I say nothing about what they earn or how they spend their OWN money. I do give them financial advice and encourage them to save -- but, ultimately, they have grown up with me in a very frugal household and I have to say they are both super responsible with their money. It's hard for parents to let their kids grow up -- I know this from my own experience too. But your father needs to decide what his expectations are while you are living under the same roof. If he told you that having your current job is fine, he needs to stand by his statements. If he is concerned about the amount you are earning, he should say so without being judgemental and discuss options with you to maybe find something else. By the time you are 20 years old, I believe a parent's role is to support, to coach and to guide... not to judge... and it doesn't seem that he's doing that. But, overall, it irks me most that they want you to lie and call off work for a baby shower that they can very well attend without you. There is NOTHING wrong with saying "we're sorry courtknee could not attend but she is working today." You could get a small gift or a nice card and they could present that on your behalf.

I know exactly how you feel, when I was working at my last job my parents would always make comments about the money I should have saved in my account, they were coming up with stupid amounts of money, I'd earn £200 in a week, go out on a weekend, travel with my band and then pay board and other things which would lave me with around £20 after all that which was fine with me, however lately I lost my job but had another one starting in a few weeks and they thought I'd had about £500 saved up or something, truth was that I had about £50 to last me 3 weeks. I dont understand parent sometimes!

You are still living at home at 20. Yes, your parents are going to treat you like a child. Honestly, you haven't had that much life experience yet, so it is hard for your parents to view you as an adult. The fact that you cave to familial pressure about things just reinforces their view of you as a child. Your parents may be concerned that your job prospects are limited. On one hand they are saying that you don't need to make a lot of money; however, they are probably terrified that what you are doing right now is the same sort of thing you'll be doing in 10 years. There isn't a whole lot of upward mobility with minimum wage service sector positions, and that is the sort of thing that can terrify any parent.

Although I don't agree that he gets on your case, and nag you about a few things, I unfortunately would admit that I could also be guilty of treating my son like little children. As a parent, I don't really think you could take that away. We would always have that image of them being at certain age(young), and we'd treat them as such once in a while. Just gently remind your dad that you're 20 years old already.

I know it is hard but don't let this get to you. Perhaps he is just really concerned and hopes you get the best down the line and is afraid he might have messed up somehow and wants to ensure he helps you now? The fact you are working while going to college is a great thing and full respect to you there. What are you studying at college? Try and find an outlet to relieve this stress so you can focus on college.

Your parents sound a lot like mine. When I was shortly separated from my husband, I just had my son and a week later my father tells me I had plenty of time to find a job! Keep in mind I gave birth one week before. Seriously!?! I just gave birth and hes telling me to go get a job and start paying them rent! Wow. Nice parents, huh? As soon as I could I got out of the house. Now I just visit very rarely so I do not have to hear their mouths too often. Im sorry, I wish you could get out of there. My parents still do not look at me like I am completely grown but its better now than when I lived under their roof. I will be praying that things get better for you sweetie! I know how hard that is...

Until you grow up and get out of your house your going to be treated like a child. Im actually looking to be on my own at the moment and live in a house with my boyfriend and dog. Im 26 years old and actually in two weeks ill be 27 and i still live at home. I know exactly how you feel and your parents telling you that you dont make enough money. I know that i dont make enough money but i feel if i get out of my parents house i could actually have more time to get online and make money because im not having to cook dinner for them, clean there house and do there laundry. I dont feel that it is necessary to dust a house every weekend and do that stuff or go shopping every weekend so then i would have more money and i actually will have time to work online and make more money. I know its hard listening to your parents tell you one thing and then the next day its totally something different but on the same topic. Just hoepfully you can take it for a cuople more years and then move out.

hi,i really know how you feel , i think you should communicate with your parents ,tell them how you feel ,rather than complaining here .you are good person ,when i was 20 ,i didn't even think about saving ,you are so young ,if you don't like the job,please follow your heart ,make your own decision . best wishes for you.