Would you stay with a cheater?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
August 17, 2012 9:01pm CST
Maybe, its just me but if someone cheated on me, I would up and gone, no second chance. I know I can do better, and dont have a worry of being by myself. I want someone who wants me, and loves me. I had 1 ex cheat on me, he was seperated from his wife, but was sleeping with her, as well as dating me. I toss him to the curb, and here his wife obviously has insecure, and self esteem issues took him back, while he kept doing this while they were together after that.
This girl I went to high school with has been dating this guy on and off for maybe 4 years. This guy is a d*ck, if any man talked to me like he did to her, he would be gone to begin with. This guy gets them evicted more than you can imagine, I told her why unpacked.
They get evicted a couple times a month, and their bills keep getting shut off like internet, phone, hydro. Even before she moved way up north, he was sleeping around with everyone and anyone. He has 9 kids all different girls, and doesnt take care of any of them. To me another reason, I want a man, and who can take responsibility.
It only took her 4 years, and I dont think she clearly sees it. She moved 4 hours or so up north, because he packed his bag and left for 6 months not talking to her, then telling her to move up north. She has been up there since, he comes and goes for weeks, sleeping with other girls, and admitting it.
Shes posting on Facebook, about having enough of it. I wont believe it until she ditches the idiot, shes just afraid of being alone, and shes compared to her other siblings and step siblings all are married, kids or living with someone. She isnt the prettiest either, which I think affects her as well.
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7 responses
@aravindearnsonline (31)
• India
18 Aug 12
I hate cheaters. Many guys and girls are out there just for hook up and money. I hate it. That is just lust and attraction. It is hard to find true love. For me, it is my dream to marry a girl from another country, marry her and live happily. i am not interested in these divorce stuffs and all. But the catch is many are able to find the cheater only after sometime. It would be nice if you can sense the cheater in the beginning itself.
@StellaFlora (8)
• Norway
18 Aug 12
I actually stayed with a guy who cheated on me. We got together 21 years ago, and he had an "accident" 6 years later. He begged my forgiveness and promised me it would never, ever happen again, and I told him if he ever did it again, that would mean he had made a choice not to be with me anymore. He kept his promise for about 18 months, but after the second time, I knew however much I loved him, I could not put myself through that pain again, and I had to end the relationship.
I have since found love in another relationship, but I am still sorry my previous relationship ended the way it did.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
19 Dec 12
No, it would never be possible for me to stay with a cheater because I hate cheaters.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
Nope, I would never stay with a cheater. I hate cheaters.
I do not think I would ever have the patience to listen to excuses. I can tolerate a lot of other things but never cheating. Nor lying. But I guess for some it would take a lot of courage to stand up against cheating.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Aug 12
I actually have to admit that I would be the kind of person that would be willing to give a cheater a second chance if they would come clean to me about their infidelities and they would also agree to never talk to that person again.
The reason that I would be willing to do that is because of the fact that I tend to be a trusting person, but I also do believe that there are times that all people do make mistakes in their lives. I also believe that if a person has made a mistake in the past, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are going to make the same mistake again.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
18 Aug 12
I think it would be diffiult to stay with a cheater. I would always be waiting for that moment of weakness and indiscretion to come around again,. it would eventuallu destroy the relarionship. If I thought a cheater would not cheat again, it would make the decision to stay easier.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
i would never stay with a cheater, once the trust is broken, it is hard to get it back. my ex was a cheater, he had other girls while we were together, i trusted him so much and then found out about it, i gave him a 2nd chance and thought he will change then he did it again so i decided to call it quits and leave for good and wouldn't be back with him forever. now, he has another girl living with him and he is doing the same thing contacting and has other women while they are together. i'd rather be alone than be with in that kind of relationship. it is crazy!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Aug 12
In your case you were with a married man, right? You said they were separated which indicated to me that he was not divorced. One rule of thumb is if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you. The other woman isn't the issue. It's you and who you get involved with.
