The Heartbreak of Aging Family

i am sorry to hear that.dementia at the right age is an inevitable things.your sister is 60 now and who knows that she will get worse at her dementia so fast.i hope your sister will get better soon and that will needs the blessing for the God.good luck for you and your family

That is so scary. I wonder how dementia occurs on people. What are the ways to avoid it? Sixty is still young. I know a lot of people who are in their 80's and are quite healthy mentally and physically. I hope your sister will be in her normal state again.

Oh I will DEFINITELY say a prayer for your family. My mom is 53 and is deep in her state of dementia. My dad is doing his best of keeping her living with him, but I don't know how long he can. She's had it for about 5 years, but in the last three it's gotten really bad.

its tough to see the people you love age and go through physical hardships. my father in law has altzheimers and both my hubby's parents and my mom are getting old (my dad passed away a few years ago). hang in there.

This could be one of the most heart-breaking event in everyone's life- seeing/watching our loved ones suffering illness. I have seen my grandma dying in her bed and that was a nightmare

Wow, ys that has to be one of the most illnesses to aquire in one's old age. I think a nursing home has to be imminent for her if she resorts to inflicting injuries on people. I took care of my grand mother for 9 years (on and off but mostly on with a few or so break sin between and alittle help from a few others but not alot of the stressful stuff) with it and let me tell you when the cops had to be called in she was really gone too far. I had accidentally scratched her while in a scuffle over keys, she wanted to go out of the house at night late. Then the other ladyfriend of hers who helped her on occasion heard her sob story and called the cops on me! Mygrandmother was acting like I did it on purpose or something. It was not true that I even hurt her at all cause she was actually injuring herself when I thought I had accidentally did it with my fingernail (on her arm)at the time. She continued to injure herself in the nursing home after her stroke shortly after the cops were called, and I couldn't take care of her at home anymore. They can be a danger to themself as well as others. I will keep your sister in my prayers and hope she will be at peace in the nursing home. I'm glad the cost isn't an issue.

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. {{{HUGS}}}. I know that dementia is a very hard thing for family to live with. My mom did not have dimentia but the meds they gave her were so strong that she may as well have had it...she was not in her right mind at all towards the end. My brothers and I took care of her and I would not wish that upon anyone! My mother who didn't even drink wanted us to go buy her pot!! And then threatened to go downtown in search of it herself!!. I will definitly pray for your sister and all of you who love her! I have heard of so much abuse in these nursing homes also and stealing of the meds. etc. I'm very surprised that they don't have cameras in the rooms. I suppose they can't because of the patients privacy but nurses are in and out all the time and they help dress and bathe them etc. How much privacy do they get anyway?

hi alaskanray I am so sorry about your sister and she's still so young too,I know what you mean about nursing homes as I worked out of a nurses registry and was sent to a lot of nursing homes,. Some were really excellent but short of workers while others were horrible with a lot of patient abuse.i will send all the pray ers I can to yo u and your sister hoping she will get better or at least be in a good nursing home. I hope one day they can discover why some fairly young women become demented. I am glad at least yo u can get better health care there than here in the US,. we should all be ashamed of our horribly exoensive'health insurances. blessings and I will keep praying for yo u all,

So sorry to hear about your sister. Prayers for you and your family. I know how hard it is to lose a family member to this disease. My Granny had this and we watched her go down hill for years. The family looked after her for as long as we could. After ten years of her living with us she fell and broke her hip. After that she did not last too long. She was so frail and just a husk of her former self in that nursing home. In many ways I wish she would have went quickly instead of lingering in that state for years. It was very disheartening to watch. Bless your family.

Thank goodness she lives in Canada, haha. Health coverage should be excellent there. I remember the times I used to have with my grandma. She was such an important person in my life, and we would always spend a ton of time together, cooking wontons, making little crafts, tending the garden, and reading books. In a blink of an eye, ten years had passed, and she was getting old. She used to be so smart and clever, but it was clear her mental capacity was diminishing, and I was so sad. I still spent time with her, but it just wasn't the same. Cherish the time you have with your loved ones. I'm still glad my grandma is here, and we still have some great times together. ~ Annie

To be over 60 and dealing with dementia has to be so hard on the family. That to me is still very young in todays standards. How sad and to know she is going into a nursing home has to be even more devastating. I will definitely keep her and your family in my prays. God Bless!

Poor Rayda I feel for you as I know the relationship to your other sisters is not easy. I guess its a little comforting to know she is not aware of what she does any more so thats really a blessing plus its a blessing that money is not an issue for her daughter as real good care can be afforded for her. hugs

May God be with you cause that is so sad my dear

I will pray for your sister that she will be treated well with compasion and love by her nursingI aid. I understand that its hard to take care of the sick and old age, but they must be love and cared after all we are all going to this stage also. It's really heartbreaking to see the sick loved ones I experienced this with my grandmother luckily my mother take care of her until her last day Moms brother and sister lives far away. And for me I felt the pain and agony of my late husband who was sick for almost three years, draining our finances but no regrets because love and care was given to him. GOD please take care of our sick love ones. Heal them please and lighten their pains. Amen.

I am very sorry to hear that your sister has dementia, and I imagine that this is something that you're finding very hard to deal with. It can be hard to see when things go wrong in our family, because it is scary that it is so close to home when you're normally only used to seeing these things happen to other people from other places. It is important that you are supported through this by your friends as it is going to be just as hard for you as it is for the rest of your family. Take care of yourself, and try not to let the stress of the situation get to you too much.

Count me in as one who would be saying prayers for you friend and your family

we need comfort and good suggestion,positive vibes at this time and hope everything is fine and the patient has to feel good. i will also pray with you and i always hope that best only happens to you always and life will be back to normal

I am very sorry to hear this, aray. It is one of the unavoidable tragedies of old age. Although your sister, being only in her 60's (?) is a little young, I think for this. I have a friend whose mother had to go to a nursing home. After a few days she became violent, threatening people with her cane. She hit her roommate twice. So she was put in the psychiatric ward of the hospital. Now she is biting and hitting people (or trying to) and dropping the F-bomb every time she opens her mouth. At times they have to use bed restraints. She may not be able to go back to the nursing home. It is a very good home. My experience with nursing homes has been that the ones run by religious groups seem to be very good. You don't have to be of the particular religion to be a resident. The one this woman was in is run by a monastery and is a very beautiful place. My mother was in a Jewish nursing home and was very well cared for. Another friend's mother was in a Catholic one and the nuns took very good care of the patients. My experience with state run or large corporate run homes is the exact opposite. Horrible places, as you know from first hand experience. My sister is 74 and lives in Wisconsin, I'm in Mass. I worry about her. She's all I have besides my brother, who I hardly ever see. I have no other family to speak of. My sister is fine now and works, etc. I can only imagine how you must feel. I will pray for your sister and for you to have the strength to deal with this. It is devastating news that you've received.

It is always difficult to accept severe illness that our loved and near ones suffer from. It is good for your sister that she is not aware of her condition. I do not know if her age has anything to do with the fast deterioration of her general conditions. I pray so that she continues to improve and put smile on your face.