I love him...but he has a girlfriend and I'm in a relationship too

Just be what he needs you to be. Maybe even get to know his girlfriend ... but don't make it like 'you're getting to know her so you can get rid of her,' but more like 'you're helping her be the girl that the man needs her to be.' I think of The Phantom of the Opera (the book that became a Broadway-musical that became a movie): the opera-phantom loved a girl who met & fell in love with someone well-off from her past. Though it took 'everyone trying to kill him' to get him to see it, the opera-phantom eventually saw that the girl he loved would have a happier life with the well-off guy than -with himself. How would your guy be happier with you than -with his current girlfriend?

The situation is clear to me , there is someone that you love and it's not your current boyfriend. You see what love is and you force yourself to stay with someone you don't love. What is more important to you ? Someone that you are in love with (and he does nothig for you to get you back )or someone that loves you and does a lot for you to love him back ? It was perfect if you loved your current boyfriend and maybe you can work on it.

If you are in a relationship and thinking about someone else you should probably take a step back from both the guy you like and the guy you are with. Sometimes we need to love ourselves first and find what is worthy of love within ourselves before we offer our love to another. And I can say with 100% certainty that if you are caught up in these conflicting feelings it is because you don't know yourself first and you can't trust your relationships with others until you do some soul searching first. Another thing to keep in mind because he is in a relationship as it is... If you are able to woo him away from this person how easy will it be for him to be wooed away from you?

If he is in another relationship you really can't interfere with that. Karma will eventually get you, "What goes around comes around" and you really don't want to deal with that. Another words, if you end up breaking him and his girl up and you end up with him, one day it will happen to you. Someone will come along and steal your man away. Its probably just a lusting feeling you have and that does go away so I wouldn't waste your time. Also, you wouldn't want someone to come along and steal your man would you? I believe "do onto others as you wish them to do too you."

I think "love will find its way". That is when your two are really meant for each other. Sometimes in the world of "love" once may believe that destiny exists. If you do, then you must let destiny guide you to this man. But what if your wrong? In "love" one should also learn how to take the "risk". The risk to follow what your heart tell you to do. If you think that you develop a deep feeling for this guy, then why not try to take the risk. But still the question is "what if your heart is wrong?". Love is a very complicated thing and one could only expect for the best and hope for the worst. The risk, the destiny are all part of it. And the only thing we must not stop is to continue to "love". if you think he is the man, then let destiny decide and take the risk.

Hi swissheart, I don't have a boyfriend. But there was this guy who they said likes me so much... and I know that he has a girl. I like him too. Yet I feel that this feeling must just be ignored. I don't want to hurt a girl that loves the guy. I know that if I'd be in this girls shoes I wouldn't want my boyfriend to like someone else too aside from me. So I just let them be happy, I know that there will be other guys for me out there. Same with you, you have a boyfriend who loves you so much. I think that you just try to shift all your attention and give all your love to your boyfriend.

This is something that tends to happen a lot. And its pretty unfortunate. If you are with the guy that treats you well and you think that he is nice, I would make a list of all the things that you love about him. Really set down wnd think about if this is going to really go somewhere and if not why? Are you going to self sabotage the relationship so that you are open for it the other guy come available. Or are you just staying with him so that you arent alone and you feel bad for your guy? If the other guy is with someone, how much does he care about her? Chances are he might cheat with you but stay with her. I think that you should take a good look at all the things that could happen here and then probably leave him alone and even your current guy if you cant give him the attention and your heart.

I think you should just let go. Don't be friends with a guy that attracts you so much. You wouldn't want to be in the shoes of the girlfriend, won't you? Don't allow these feelings to destroy two people (your boyfriend and his girlfriend). You had your time with him and now he's got another life. It would be better if you stayed away and don't be friends with the guy. Give respect to your partner and to his. IF you and your boyfriend should decide to call it quits because of some reason OTHER THAN THAT GUY, then let it be. Then if he and his girlfriend decides to do so too NOT BECAUSE OF YOU. Then by chance you meet up after several years, then you have my blessing. But right now, I wouldn't be appreciating someone thinking about someone else while he is my boyfriend. It's painful and you wouldn't want to be in that position yourself. So, love is not worth fighting for when you'll end up hurting people who are truly loving that someone you think you love. Don't be selfish. You're only being tempted by your thoughts. Remember, it may always seem the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Maybe you should focus more to that person who is there willing to fight for you and is your boyfriend right now. Have a great Mylot experience ahead.

Hello my friend Ji, Well, as a old Lady, I would say taht a timely self withdrawl would be healthy for everone concerned. May God bless You and have a great time

I feel like there are some relationships that we have in our lives from which we are never completely able to recover. This sounds like it could be one of those situations. With that said, you definitely don't want to upset the boat with the relationship that you are in right now. The reason that I say that is because of the fact that you've had a past relationship with this man and there has to be some reason that your relationship with him came to an end.

Wait till he shows you he's still into you. If you would give up yours and try to get him back but he won't give up his, what's going to happen to you? So don't let go of what you have right now based on your instinct that he still has something for you. If he still wants you, he would do something about it. If he's scared of letting go of his girlfriend, it means he's not worth it.

that is quite normal to experience in first place and we cant avoid it.i have been in such situations where the girlfriend keeps talking with other person and takes relationship,if we are over possessive ,initially i found it difficult and hard,but over a period of time we became a group and good friends.just speak your mind to him and sort things out.its better

you must focused with your relationship, you don't love your boyfriend? he has a girlfriend you can't distroy the relationship of others right? some guys treats other girl so nice and special. you must tell it your boyfriend and stay away to that guy.

It is a difficult situation I know as it involves a delicate thing of our life called love. If you are in love with the guy you are with now then I suppose that you cannot have fancied the other guy with who you have had something in the past. you cannot just have two guys at the same time. Besides, also think about the relationship he is in too. Think also about the guy who is with you now. You have to break the hearts of 2 persons to get your man back. But even if you do want him back will he be interested in you? My opinion is to play and stay fair.

It is very hard when you start to get these kinds of feelings for people who you know you're not really supposed to feel this way about. The most important thing that you need to think about is how you feel about the person who you're in a relationship with. If you don't love them, then you should end the relationship and then you would be free to do whatever you like in your life without having to worry about anyone else. The person who you love is another issue, and you should never do anything while he is in a relationship, but you need to think about what you want from your own life before you think about who you're actually in a relationship with in the long term.

You are in relation and he is in one too. Learn from Hollywood and both couples (you and him) exchange girlfriend (lol)? Okay let's take this serious, try to be more with your current friend and don't risk it I think.

you must make a decision````

in my opinion you have to choose between them it is not possible for you to have them both arent you?but you have to be very careful about what your choice because it may affect your future too.just follow your heart and think about it carefully and do not forget to pray to the God maybe He can help you to overcome your confuse.good luck

the solution for your problem is that just speak with the guy you love i mean the guy you want now because if you really love your guy i mean the one with you in relation now then you would think about the new one the one you thinking to have him....so if u really don't love your present bf then leave him and go out with the one you want and say your feelings to him about your love...hope he may accept you if he really don't love his gf.. :P