friends turn to lover

United States
August 18, 2012 5:15pm CST
WE always hear the term "friends to lover" but do you think lover can turn friends. Can a persona start out as lovers never even friend and then just stay friends at the end of the day ? I personally dont think its possible but do you think its possible?
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@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
19 Aug 12
Friends become lovers can occur more easily. However, the former lovers rarely became friends in the true sense. Perhaps you will say that he is "your friend", but your heart says another. You might be awkward if it runs with a former lover in public.
• United States
19 Aug 12
I know i would be awkward to see a former lover with some else .
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
2 Sep 12
I think it is always good to have good friendship among the lovers. I think if the friendships does not broke when people become good lovers then it is good.
• United States
14 Oct 12
Thats is true , good friendship can make a better relationship . But what if they happen to be lovers before trying friendship ?
@eynjel78 (44)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
i think both ways are possible. it all depends on the quality of relationship you have. from friends to lovers, the more you know the true personality of a person, the easier it is to fall inlove with him/her. friendship is a good foundation for a romatic relationship because you already know one another even before getting into a relationship thus you already know what you're getting into. meanwhile, lovers becoming friends is also possible. hard as it may seem, if you have parted amicably then you can remain friends. a person you've truly loved will never lose a place in your heart. he/she was a part of your life after all and that could not be erased.
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• United States
22 Aug 12
Yes friendship is always a good foundation for a relationship . I think lovers becoming friend is pretty hard especially if you really did love that person and been with them for a pretty long time its almost impossible. If I a long term relationship ended and no chance to getting back together I would much rather not see than person .
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• Dalian, China
21 Aug 12
if i break up with him, i would try my best to forget him. i don't want to feel sorry for my later partner.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Friends being lovers eventually are the perfect pair, I would say. But with lovers being friends after a fallen relationship might be difficult to some. But it is possible to a certain degree. If their relationship ended with both being happy of ending the relationship, I guess, they can keep the friendship.
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• United States
20 Aug 12
Good point also , I think I could be civil with a ex but I dont think I could be more than that towards them because I think even though most relationship ends badly but the beginning of most was good and to see that person with another would hurt.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
20 Aug 12
Hi, I think many times friends can become lovers but lovers can not become friends. I never heard that lovers become friends.
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• United States
20 Aug 12
I have not seen ex lovers becoming friends also .
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19 Aug 12
i think it is possible.
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• United States
19 Aug 12
I dont think its completely impossible but I have not seen it yet . I have two friends who met outside our school and now they both at the same school trying real hard to just say hi to each other .
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4 Oct 12
i have experience, that i say
@xixiAtom (69)
• Dalian, China
20 Aug 12
hi silverfox i don't think lovers one day could be friends. if they do truely loved each other, how can they break up then? friends surely communicate and help with each other, then how can former lovers act just like common friends? don't they remember the sweetness and heartbreak of the past? will there be a moment that both of them wanna return to the past or just make up or do something extraordinary for each other? i just believe it'll be very normal for people with human feelings. poeple always be easy to become beset with memories in one's old haunts and fall into one's melancholy condition again,let alone he or she was her or his parter. so my point is NEVER at least for me lol.
• United States
20 Aug 12
I also dont think it possible but I am currently watching two of my friends trying . When your friends you can argue and stop talking for a while but it is never the same with a lover . Memories just never seems to go away especially when you keep having constant reminder by being friends with a former lover . You have a good realistic point .
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
1 Sep 12
Sometimes friends turn over to lover . But I didn't like to this . Because friends became friends .
• United States
3 Sep 12
Yes friends sometimes turn lovers
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
I've wondered about that myself. How come people who used to be friends before they became lovers cannot become friends after their relationship has ended? In my experience, it would usually take a long time for me to be able to accept a relationship has had its course. So naturally, I didn't really get to be friends immediately with my exes. Still, I think it's very possible. One just has to be very forgiving.
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• United States
19 Aug 12
I dont think its impossible for me , I would not say I hate them and I would be polite but I can imagine us hanging out and seeing their new lover are even hearing about their new lover . So maybe I will be able to say hi to them but I will not be able to hang out with them at all. It would hurt to see someone sharing what you used to do with someone else .
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
19 Aug 12
of course it is possible since they are the one's who can understand each other quite better and get to know each other well.i am of the view that only friends can turn lovers and be united for long time.since they know both the pros and cons and can share the feelings intimately rather than strangers.and i have seen in my real life so many friends who were there for long time has become lovers and that is good for their relationship
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• United States
19 Aug 12
I think some of the best love relationship born from friendship but I wonder if any former lover can turn friends , I have not seen it yet .
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
19 Aug 12
I think it's possible to turn friends to lover,but pretty hard to make lover into friend.Once two people fall in love and it's not possible for them to be normal friend.This is like regular and may needs time to really make it work.Have a nice day.
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• United States
19 Aug 12
I also believe friends can become the best lover but almost impossible to make lovers to friend , have a good day also .
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I think it is possible because i have an ex boyfriend and we are good friends right now. We already move on in our past. He have his new girlfriend and i already have my husband but it take a very long time before we can talk to each other again. But actually it is really hard at the first time because we have our past but when the times past we learn how to become friends again.. Happy Mylotting..
• United States
6 Oct 12
WE=ell that is good , you are the first person I know that have successfully accomplish that . I have two friends that were trying but they dont really talk anymore . I am happy for your , have a good day