How do we know its destiny
By homeshoppers
@homeshoppers (6166)
Philippines
August 19, 2012 6:25am CST
Just today when i open my facebook and for the first time i got online via my facebook chat as i normally set it to offline to avoid any annoying messages, then all of a sudden there's someone message me without knowing his been my friendlist for a long time, the guy was one of my considered closed friend way back high school though 3rd year high school when my parents transferred me to the city to continue my studies, then this guy upon chatting he told me a lot of thing when i was gone that tie, he said his been looking for me and even followed me in the city after he graduated high school and never give up looking for me, he tried to ask my address from my neighbors but he said they gave him incorrect address.
He never had a girlfriend by then until he graduated college and got married so now he already have 3 kids, now his asking for my mobile number and want to see me as he said just for old time sake, he also said he actually like me during college and i was his first love and until now even if his already married he still have my picture and he keep it in his wallet and i don't know why his wife didn't even see it. he also said that he used to stay in almost all the mall every weekend just to expect that he can see me and he never go back home coz his hopping to see me until he got tired and decided to find job and at the same time studied but still within the city i live in as his still hopping to see me. And so his very happy to see me online and he didn't left message for me while offline coz his afraid that i might not going to talk to him, though i told him i can talk to him coz i consider him as one of my childhood closed friend.
Do you think its destiny for him to see me after waiting and looking for many years. Seems that he doesn't love his wife coz when i told him that his wife might be angry if she found out were chatting then he just said it doesn't matter, though he seems to look different now and look more handsome so im thinking of what if i will fall for him. Should i stay away or believe that its destiny.
6 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
20 Aug 12
Good to hear about your story. In our school and college days we have lot of friends, even we keep close friendship with opposite gender persons, some times it may convert as a crush or love. Mostly we get infatuations and crush in our school days and we can easily come out from this, but some persons may find their real love in their school days and don't have the ability to forget about them even though they are married with other person.
There is nothing wrong in falling with love in our school or college days, we will marry the same person if his/her name is in our destiny. Unfortunately, if we married some other person due to our fate, we must try our maximum to forget our past crush and love, it is the best thing for both of the persons.
Some guys may try to make relationship with their ex girl friend and try their maximum to catch them in online social sites and get their contact number from some source and make frequent calls to them. Girls must be very careful about this kind of persons and don't fall with them again, it will spoil your current relationship. If you are not married, you can keep relationship with your ex, otherwise if you already married and your ex tried his maximum to renew your relationship, better to avoid it which is best for both of you.
Don't believe the guys words, they will lie a lot to make relationship and they will disappear if you face any problem, so be wise and don't go beyond with your ex, if you are not sure about them. It is your safer side.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Actually his not proposing his love to me nor asking me for my love, we just amaze to see each other again after many years, though he mentioned that i was his first love but its not the point why i talked to him but there's things except love, i respect him having his kids and wife and i always put it to his head about his family, we enjoyed each other sharing about own life and his even excited to tell me what's going on with his life and how he met his wife though based on his words to me i didn't notice anything or plan of leaving his wife coz what we discussed is not about current feelings but were just remembering our funny past life and about our own life right now, I've been with difficult relationship before so i know how i feel, i totally know him coz his my childhood friend and we grew up in the same place in the province i was just surprised how long he waited to see me, though i told him it might just a simple crush he had for me before or probably he hurt so much coz we don't even say goodbye that's why he look for me to maybe know why.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
20 Aug 12
good to hear about your childhood stories. Are you married? As you mentioned he is married and have 3 kids and shared all his life events with you, it shows that he is giving importance to you and interested in sharing about his personal things with you
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Actually he didn't show any intention of being with me or show that he loves me right now, he might just so happy to see me online and able to talk to me after so many years nor decade as we've been so closed as best friend during childhood days, we just both overwhelm to see each other again.
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@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
it is simply a coincidence. do not entertain any thought of being with him in the future. he is married and has three children. he has nothing to lose, but you have. do not allow yourself to be dragged to a complicated affair with this guy. there is no honor in seeing a married guy.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Its not really coincidence coz his been looking for me since high school, we've been so closed like best friend before, his like my shadow during our childhood that his been following where i am and his like my hero whose always there if someone or other girls trying to bullied me so i understand if he felt so hurt when my parents decided to transferred me to the city coz we never talk nor i wasn't able to say goodbye to him before i left before.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Life is full of mysteries. And when we are in a vulnerable stage, we always misinterpret things. To keep yourself from troubles, I would like to suggest that you should really know who the person is. Even though you were close before, a lot of things have happened during the times that you were out of touch. Use your head real well in making decisions to avoid getting hurt.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Yes i know there's time that we never forget our first love as even me i still did not forget my first love though of course we still talk if we met but we know our limit coz he also have his own family, though for this case it was just funny to see my childhood friend as i have no idea what happened to the others since i left my province, though our topic is more about our other friends and things happened to our province and what happened to us and our other friends though he mentioned about his love to me though he pointed out that it was before, his like one of those guys i've met and become friends nor ex that i met again after many years though we talk then we lost track again, if we excite to talk to each other again its not because he still have feelings for me nor i have feelings for him since i considered him as y younger brother before though i was just thinking how he change a lot from that skinny little guy to a very handsome and tall guy now, i am laughing in my room imagining how he look like before and thinking that if i didn't left our province so there's a tendency that we can be each other before but then i know now there's limitation, i never meet him yet since childhood so i know i never had feelings for him.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
I don't want to burst your bubble but I think it would be best if you just stay away for his children's sake. You might end up to be a home wrecker if he insist on seeing you now that he has finally been able to reach you. I guess he told you stories that you wanted to hear just to prolong the conversation. It's too late now to start a romantic relationship with him because he already has children. You can say it's destiny that both of you finally able to communicate but that's just it and nothing more.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
20 Aug 12
Too late to start a relationship because he has children? What the heck kind of nonsense is that?
If the man wants to leave his wife, he will. I think that if he is sincerely interested in you and not in his wife, however, that he will take care of business before moving on, so to speak.
Going to meet and have coffee or a dinner in public once after many years is one thing, but you may want to express that you are not interested in romance at this time - If it turns out that there is something between you that is meant to be, it will happen when it is supposed to happen.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
@ tetris15 i have no plan of ruining his family life coz i know how it hurt in favor of his wife, i even told him to also think of his wife and kids. Though if we talk maybe for old time sake coz we used to be best friend before and his always there for me willing to fight for me during those days, we're laughing if we remember those days.
@ zoey7879 yes your right we cant forced our self to live with someone we don't love and only for children's sake that's why there's other ended having divorced though for sure i will not be the one to be the reason of their split up coz i never told him i like him nor love him. Though i was so amazed to find out that h left his home and live in the city after high school just to look for me and he never had any girlfriend even during college coz his expecting that someday we will bump each other along the away. He kept my picture in his wallet for so many years and even laugh coz i still look innocent in that picture 
I was his first love as i was 2nd year high school that time and he was 1st year high school when we bumped each other and since then his been like a shadow to me though i only treated him as my younger brother before so i was surprised when he told me he was actually in love with me and i was his first true love
and he even wished that someday he will see me even if he already have wife and so when he saw someone from our province in the facebook which happened to be my neighbor he added him and he saw me there and he added me but he never saw online not until yesterday. it was amazing to see him again but i will not going to let me ruined his family.
I was his first love as i was 2nd year high school that time and he was 1st year high school when we bumped each other and since then his been like a shadow to me though i only treated him as my younger brother before so i was surprised when he told me he was actually in love with me and i was his first true love and he even wished that someday he will see me even if he already have wife and so when he saw someone from our province in the facebook which happened to be my neighbor he added him and he saw me there and he added me but he never saw online not until yesterday. it was amazing to see him again but i will not going to let me ruined his family.
@enjoythejourney (524)
• United States
20 Aug 12
He sounds like a player to me. He might be just fishing to see how desperate you are. There are better fish in the see that this married guy with 3 kids. If somewhere down the road, he is again single, that would be a different story but right now the sounds like trouble to me.
Been there, done that and Never Ever again!
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Thank you, i have no feelings for him though i considered him as one of my best friend during my childhood days so maybe im so glad and happy to see him again though i was just shocked to find out he had feelings for me, though of course i will not going to ruined his family life with his 3 kids as i know how it hurt if the guy left for someone else, and your right unless his already been separated with his wife. Though i already told him im just here same as before his best friend and i still keep on telling him to also think about his wife.
