Relationships

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I do believe that she loves him on some level but she tells me that she has doubts about his love. She also has told me that she believes that he has been cheating on her cause he came home one day with a huge bruise on his upper thigh and it looked like a big carpet burn she said he told her that he got it from when he was working and she didnt believe it because of the work he does sanitation worker. She said that he had been working there for years and that has not ever happened and then he would lie to her telling her that he was going one place and end up somewhere else. My bestie says she still have some love but not as he seem to have for her.In her words he doesnt love her like that it is all a big front. She tells me she is so unhappy everyday and that she is waiting to build a nest egg before leaving him because she is tried of being so unhappy. In response to the abusive part it has been several years since he has put his hands on her but he has a real bad mouth and temper and she does not like that. The only thing that I can do is offer her my shoulder when she needs to cry, my ears to listen, and when she needs my thoughts and opinions I give them but at a limited state. I try to stay out of it as much as possible so that they can work on their own problems but she still insist on me knowing everything that is happening with them. I would have to say that she calls me pretty much allday even if it is not all bad talk. I love my bestie so I will continue to be there for her but not in between their relationship.

Your friend is saving up to make her escape so that means she has already made up her mind. She is smart to come up with a plan and save some money. Everyone needs someone to confide in and your friend obviously values your relationship and has a lot of trust in you. The most important thing you can do is just be there and listen. When the day comes, you can help her to pack her things and go.

Well to come to find out he is 57 years old and she is 30 which is a big difference. I am not one that judge by age becasue it is only a number when you love a person. My friend feels that it has been so long that they are not on the same page anymore. She says that she tries to hold conversations with him and if something doesnt sound right to him he gets angry and throws fits. My friend is to the point of leaving him and not looking back she says it is becoming too much for her to handle.

That seems to be the case that she paying him back. As for him finding a job she says that is never going ot happen as long as he keep thinking that she is going to foot all of the bills and everything else. She says that he tells her that when and if someone can help him to go on at a place that he want be doing much. He doesnt have a car so he want even get up and catch a bus to even try. She says that the only thing that he does is sit on his butt and do nothing but try and cook when he wants something or when he thinks he is going to get something. My friend is a kind hearted person and she says that she believes that he has become a free loader at her expense so she say that she is going to cut him out and leave and not come back. In my opinion I do not believe she will leave because of how she feels about him. She says she has a fear that if she do leave without him having a job an money that he will find a way to go back to drinking his life away because she left him. I am not sure what is going to happen with the both of them but I wish them the best in whatever they decide.