Loving a family man , sin ?

For me, Love is mutual between two single person, a family man is unable to love another woman without cheating on his own wife. He may sweet talk you how deep he love you and care about you, but it is definitely not love except lust. So i personally think it is an undesirable and pathetic act for a single woman to fall in love with a married man which usually belong to someone who has no character and with low self esteem. Whether it is a sin or not, i will leave that for a man/woman of God to answer that for you, which i believe he is able to quote from various holy book of God to clear your mind.

I know for a fact that it is always a lie when the women says that they do not want their lovers to breakup with their families, when they say that they do not need their lovers' undivided attention or time or there is nothing wrong at all. How could it be nothing wrong? Isn't it cheating when one has to deny the lover's marriage while the lover will have to lie to his wife on his whereabouts when he is with his mistress? In the wife's shoes, I am sure you would be filled with anger when you find out that your husband is actually sleeping with another woman other than yourself. Isn't betrayal itself, immoral? How can it be pure love when both parties are betraying and cheating?

Hi... I think, it is no sin to fall in love.. After all, it is not our decision... Love simply happens.. In your case, you've fallen in love with a married guy... Nothing wrong! It just happened... You can even tell him that (I'm hoping he's a wise guy)... But trying to make him love you back will not be justified... Overall, I think, you have been wise to keep it to yourself... If you tell him, his personal life may get disturbed... So good job! And better, find a suitable guy for you, because you can't go on loving someone silently... Take care...

I guess it is a sin because in the first place he is own already by someone else in the eyes of man and of God. Even if you have no desire nor plan to ruin his family eventually you will no longer be contented with just seeing him happy together with his family, eventually you will no longer be able to hide your actions and feelings of love to him that would make him feel troubled. I have read somewhere that there is no such thing as platonic love. So as early as possible I guess you have to stop loving him. Why not divert your attention to a man who is single. I guess there are still a lot of them around. Try to ask God's guidance. Ask God to give you a man much better than this man.I know you are a good person. I guess you won't like it if you are in the shoes of this man's wife. Stay focus to Gods message. God bless!

Hi friend, loving a family man is not a good thing, lot of bachelors are available in our world, then why are you interested with a married man? A person who is married is committed with a woman in his life and other women don't fall with this kind of persons, it is the great betraying activity to his wife, even though you loved him including his factory, falling in love with a family person is a great mistake

Loving a family man in itself is not a sin, as long as you don't do anything to demonstrate that love for him, nor do anything that will hurt his family, but it is a sin against your own self because you will never have him. All your time, efforts and feelings should have been spent to someone more deserving. Now if you begin to encourage this love, reveal this to him that he in turn gets confused, his family starts getting affected and all for your selfish reasons, then this is a sin in my book, at least.

Been there...done that. And it doesn't really end up good, as long as the guy is taken especially a married one. Not good. Well, I just hope things work out well, but if it involves having the family broken, then might as well just step back...and love from afar.

No, its not a sin..unless you break his family...for me every human being is allowed to love someone including a married person..but breaking up a family is a sin..

Does he know about your feelings? I hope he doesn't. If you are only loving him I guess that's not a sin. You can continue loving him that way. It's better if you're the only one person who knows about it to avoid any problems. Happy myLotting.

I haven't met a woman who is in love with a married man but does not want to be with him exclusively. That is pretty hard I think and almost impossible. Yes, I don't see anything wrong about that kind of love you mention because the lady isn't really doing anything to express her love to that man so she isn't hurting anybody but was thinking if she isn't hurting herself? I believe that if you love someone, you may not ask for that someone to love you back but you will be happy just to show him that you love him. How would you know if it is really love if you are not showing it? But if you do that, I think that you aren't showing respect to the wife and his family so as respect for your self. I don't want to offend those ladies who fell in love with a married man but I saw an interview that says that falling in love with a married man shows that the girl isn't respecting her own self because of so many single and available guys, she chose a married man. So in the end, she isn't hurting anybody except herself. I don't know if not respecting and hurting yourself can be called as sin. I guess it is. We have to respect our own lives and that of others. I can't really say that I agree that this isn't a sin especially if there are kids around. This can really lead to misconception that since this isn't considered a sin, they might think that there is nothing wrong with loving a married man.. as long as you don't show it. Because they think that there is nothing wrong with it, they might entertain the feelings instead of ignoring or controlling it. A simple statement, or concept can be damaging to our kids.

Very good discussion congratulations! I ask is it a sin to love a man in my family is not a sin because love comes and goes without asking. You just do not expect anything like it and there is nothing wrong everyone has the right to love who he wants and as he wants. you just have to keep this love within yourself and not to show if you do not suffer his family. I had a similar situation and I can tell you I know how you feel but there are situations where you have to keep your feelings to yourself so as not to suffer the rest. Success! nice day!

My mylot friend Angelpink, I should say get out of this relationship as soon as possible. This kind of relationship hurts in the end and can break out of the box troubling you and people around you you are living with. The feelings may change over time in favour of the relationship with the married man. Before that happens and to save your and the married man's marriages you should act right away. In my opinion it may seem pure love but it still has all the negative results that might come along.

i think that is not a sin.because like you already said love is full of mystery we can not predict when love will come.it is a sin if you love him and then make his family break up but it is not if you not doing anything just love him in your heart.maybe if you already had someone whom you love and loving you,you can forget him.have a good day

Everyone has the right to fall in love with a person no matter he have been married or not.But we must make ourselves recognize clearly the relationship between you and him.Will it be long?Will it have a bright future? Just remember no matter what happened,we should protect ourselves first.

Love is never wrong, but what action we choose to take is up to use and the action or even an unfulfilled desire to act can be wrong. A better question might have been is it wise? It would have been wise not to have become intimate with a married man, to have avoided the possibility of falling in love Now perhaps you will say you shared no time with him, in which case, perhaps it is infatuation not love. How should you tell the difference? Love is a movement outward, infatuation inward. Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. all the best urban

If you hide your feelings to him and you just love him secretly, I think it is OK. But in the long term you will feel hurtful. If you love him and you also take action to it, then it is a sin. I still think no matter how much you love him, it is still better to get rid of this feeling because there are so many men in the world. You will find your man who suits you. It is wrong to break other's family.

Hello my friend Angelpink Ji, Well, if it is correct in letter and spirit, it holds good . My hubby has experience, that where he lived some 60 yrs back, on egirl felt in love exactly in similar condition, but both were pure in thought word and deeds, as my hubby remmebers, She was lying in hospital for previous 20 yrs at the age of 95, though her lover had expired. But She kept her love memorable till last. She has been an exmapalary girl. May God bless You and have a great time

I think that the correct answer to this question really depends on the kind of love that you have for the man. I know that I am a married woman and there is another man that I do love that isn't my husband, however the love that I have for him is the love of a friend and not a romantic love. This kind of love I think is something that is appropriate. However, if the love that I had for him was a romantic love, I don't think that it would be right at all.

Oh, Angelpink, I feel for you! Sometimes life is really crazy. This did not just happen to you. What I can tell you is while it is still in the early stages, please make yourself free from the relationship. The more you stay with the married man, the more difficult it will be for you to get out of the relationship. To help you with that, answer these questions: 1. Is it fair to everybody? 2. Are you not hurting anybody? 3. Are you really happy even if you know that the person can never be yours? I hope you can think about this...Goodluck!

I guess my concern would be if you are spending time with him or working for him? I guess I would question how you can move someone you don't spend any time with. I feel that some sort of boundary has been crossed for you to fall in love with him in the first place. Even if nothing physical between you there must have been something. It wouldn't make sense otherwise.