You love him but your friends don't like him!

Your friends probably think about his past. They know that he has had many girls and hurt other girls in the past and they are afraid that you will also get hurt if you stay with him. It is good to listen to our friends' advice and their concern for us, but ultimately you have to make your own decision. If it is feels like the right choice to be with him and you want to be with him, I think that you should be with him despite the things that your friends say. It is possible that your friends will change their opinion about him when they get to know him better, or maybe they won't change their opinion, but I think it is important that you trust your own feelings and do the things that feel right and not the things that your friends consider the right thing.

hi, ling, if your friend has telling the truth to you about his bad behaviour and you force yourself to be with him because you love him, you have to be ready to get hurt anytime. remember, sometimes man show his good attitude when starting new relationship or in short word "pretend". if he loves you and change his attitude for you, he deserve for chance and you both will be happy -and sooner your friend will be happy too for you. but you have to be careful too if he just pretend and try to show the goodness in front of you, someday he will show who is he

I know how it feels to have a boyfriend that people don't seem to think is the right person for you. Before my husband and I got married, my friends and my colleagues thought my guy was bad news. He surely didn't look like my boyfriend because of the way he dressed, because of his interests. And to make matters worse, they only seemed to remember our fights I would tell them about, but not the good times we've had. When they hear that we've argued over something, it's like they bury him deeper into the ground. The day we got married (it was a civil wedding, and it was a rush wedding -- long story, but yes, our parents know of it, and they were there at the wedding) I told my friends about it. They were appalled saying I made the wrong choice, I was stupid not to see these things, and I was going to regret ever getting married to him. They were all just SAD for me, it was unbelievable that I didn't have one single shred of support. One of my closest friends went as far as not speaking to me at all, and eventually, that led to other things which caused quite a rift between the two of us. I realized that as much as my friends were trying to protect me, they weren't 'friends' enough to show some support for our decision to get married. I understand that friends should come first. But as an adult, they should understand that I am old enough to make my own decisions and see what I'm getting myself into. I knew it was going to take some work to prove to them that the marriage wasn't a mistake. Seven years to this present date, and still going strong, I'm happy to report! :) We have two daughters, and we're still together, living up to our vows. Two of my friends have already separated with their spouses, and they have admitted that they were wrong about my husband. After all, they only judged his outward appearance, and they weren't very big fans of his jokes, but what matters is not his impression on them, but the way he is a husband to me and a father to our daughter. I'm so thankful that God led me to him, and I don't regret anything at all.

hi lingling! why don't you explain to your friends that your boyfriend already change , people change and maybe the reason is he changed because of you, your friends will understand if you try to explain to them because friends are understandable right :)

Just like they said Love can make you the most craziest human on earth. It's an irresistible feeling. Your friends are just being protective to you. They want you to be happy ofcourse but most of all, they don't want to see you hurt. Now, if you really love this guy, it's fine. If your guy is serious of his love to you, he will prove your friends' wrong. Remember, your friends came first in your life than your guy. He must find a way to prove he's worthy of your love. And if he succeed, your friends will be happier for you. On the other hand, if your guy will compete with your friends and will just argue them, I don't think he's the right one. No good guy will make his lover's friends feel bad.

Ithink your friends should not be there to be a hindrance in relationship. Yes, they the right to say what they want because they just care for you, but after that, if it is still your decision to love that guy inspite of their caution, then it has ntohing to do with them. Aside from that, they have to support you in your decision whatever it is because they are your friends. They may guide you but not actually be a hindrance to every relationship you had, and aside from that, if that guy is really a jerk, then it is you who'll get hurt not them

Everybody indeed deserves to be happy. Your friends mean no harm. If they told you that your boyfriend is not the right guy for you because of his reputation, maybe you should also be careful and try to look what is really behind the persona of what you see from your boyfriend. Your friends only want you to be happy and is avoiding you in getting hurt. Always think with a clear mind. Keep safe and stay happy!

I think friends should be there and not judge you when you do things they don't agree with. I think this is the true meaning of friendship. They can give advice and tell their opinions, but not bash you and call you stupid if you have a different opinion. They should be accepting the facts and be there if it turns out you made a mistake - I hope it's not the case btw. I just hope that they are not going to make you choose and publicly hate on the guy. I wish the best for you.

Hi Lingling, for me I think your friends are just very concern to you and worried that you might get hurt in the future. You can not blame them because they already knew your boyfriend past attitude and relationship to other girls. But if you can feel and see that he already change for the better I think you friends need to respect your decision and support you to make this relationship work. If he really makes you happy and he is not jut making fun of you then go on and be happy with him. have a nice day!

It's always your choice on how you will respond in this situation. If you love a person from your heart, no matter what your friends tell you about your boyfriend your not gonna believe them. It's not stupid thing that you accept him in your life, I understand that you love him and you try your best not to be affected by what you're friends told you. You're the only one that truly understand your boyfriend since you've been with him for a long time. Just think that your friends are telling you those things because they are only protecting you, try to listen to them for respect but don't be affected and tell them what you really feel.

I think your friends just don't want him to hurt you. They are doing good to you. But it's you who choose your lover, not your friend. If you feel he is a good guy, that's enough. I believe your friends will be happy for you if he is really kind to you. It just needs time to prove it.

uhmm maybe sometimes friends can push u down..u just need to trust urself..well at the end its ur own decision to be followed.. follow ur instinct..u think if thats wat make u happy then go do not limit urself for something remeber we only live once..and for friends they an only just give advices but not totel u wat to do..