How would you know if your partner is the really THE ONE?
By 783748
@783748 (178)
Philippines
August 21, 2012 5:52am CST
Love is a very complex thing. No one knows who is for who.
For almost 25 years of my life, I never met the man who would make me fall in love. I was searching for the ideal one. Tall, handsome, has a stable job, a good family, a good character and most especially someone who would make me feel like I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. I was so idealistic then. I missed a lot during my teenage years because I was looking for the perfect one.
Not until I met this guy who was just a plain guy, but he turned my world upside down. My friends would probably be surprised (knowing how choosy I am) why I ended up with this guy. But they don't know how this plain guy entered my world. As how I usually describe our first encounter -- It was a matter of meeting the right person, at the right place and time. A very perfect description of how everything happened. Yes, he is a plain guy but please don't get me wrong. He is handsome and close to my ideal guy. Although there are still some qualities that are missing, I just learned that no one is perfect and that you can't have it all. As I got to know him better, I realized that what I got is a gem. A gem that I would definitely treasure forever. I can feel how much he loves me. Am really so blessed to have him.
It's true and I guess everyone would agree -- that there is really no formula, no way you can figure out who really is THE ONE. But what I learned from this very fresh and young relationship of mine (considering it's my very first relationship) is that the one you're beside with along your journey of love and life right now should be treasured. "THE ONE" can only be figured by the two hearts that listen and understand each other.
Please do share your experience on the love. How did you and your partner meet? What did you feel? I'm so excited to hear your stories. Have a lovely day ahead.
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8 responses
@majuuyaitai22 (93)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
This question seems to be a common one for me. Before it is really hard to answer to this question. But when I was on my college days, I remember what my Professor said to that question. She pointed her hands to her heart and said, if this one, then pointed her hands to her brain then said, and this one, would completely agree and doesn't have any doubts then it's sure he/she is the one.
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@Quetzhal (82)
• Singapore
21 Aug 12
I'm not sure I necessarily believe in the concept of 'the one'. Of the billions of people living on this planet, it's statistically unlikely that there will only be one person amongst the many that would be your true partner- Rather, it's more likely that there would be a range of potential partners, each of which would fit your personality to varying degrees. Of course, I'm looking at this from a very biological/statistic point of view. If you take all the stories into account, then the answer's simple: You just do.
And though that's not a very scientific explanation, that does seem to be how it works a majority of the time, even for me. I met my partner online. It took time for me to feel anything; it was a normal friendship at first, a little awkward at times. The ride wasn't smooth, either; we broke up and got back together at one point. Thankfully, when we had gotten back together, we'd both matured as people and the relationship just ended up working really well. The only true test of these things, I suppose, is time.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
21 Aug 12
I found my soul mate.
I think that you are looking for something that isn't quite possible. You certainly want the stable job, good family man, good character, and someone who'll make you feel beautiful, and that's good. All women should want this. This is fine, and doable. As for looks, maybe you should just aim for someone who is presentable. Not everyone gets tall and handsome. In fact, the average height for a man is 5'11", and beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.
Also, don't aim for perfection. Are you perfect? If the answer to that is "no", then expect him to be perfect. I think that that is asking for too much. You, and whoever you find, are going to make mistakes.
If you cannot accept man or person you are with for who they are, then will you ever accept anyone?
@locakai (166)
• United States
21 Aug 12
He is the only one who can make my day. Make me smile when I feel really horrible, sick, or with an 100 degree fever. Makes sure that I'm well...when He touches me there is still butterfly feeling in my stomach, my heart races, and goosebumps all over my body. He is the only person who can do that. Even when we fight he makes me smile when I really want to cry.
He is mine. I'm his...
That is the best I can do, explain it.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
Hello 783748, I met my husband in nursing school he was my classmate and group mate during that time. according to him he has a big crush on me but very shy to approach me. Although that he was my classmate and group mate I never had look at him and even know him during that time because I am a snob person and I always stay with my group of friends most of the time. Until one day he asked to borrowed some books and then we started to talk. Also both of us was asked to buy some materials for our group project and had a good time during that time. I never thought that I am going to fall in love with him that time, it just happened that one day I realized that I love him and i want to be with him more often. He is very kind, gentle, loving and caring person and many women also fall in love with him. I am just glad after a few months we found out that were dating, in love and seriously involved to each other. Now were married for almost 7 years and still in love to each other.
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
25 Aug 12
Wow! That's great. I hope that someday we'll also reach that stage. Looking forward to spend my lifetime with him. God bless that both of you and I wish you both happiness. Thanks for sharing your love story. It serves as an inspiration to all love seekers out there.
@freedang (320)
• China
22 Aug 12
I am still on my college. in my high school,I met a beautful girl,for a long time,I thought she was the most beautful girl in this world.but as we graduated,we have to leave each other.now,everytime when i think about her,the heart really feel the hurt.but i met another girl,by her side,just like westlife say:just a smile and the rain is gone.Love,is the most complex thing in this world
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 12
Wow, I like your love story very much, it's just like out from a movie. 
Mine is not a love story, it was more like a comedy kind of hate-love story!
When we first met, I DO NOT like him at all. You read it right, I hate him because
he complaint too much, no PR, no looks, no wealth and no sense of humour! The lesson
that I learnt is never hate someone, you may ended up with him for life!
We ended up together because he is always by my side when I need a friend
to rely on. Perhaps circumstances brought us together. Now, we are married
with one son but he definitely not THE ONE. I learn to appreciate him and
life goes on. I am truly happy for you that you found someone who loves you
and you love him too, just like two hearts beat as one .
Wish you love and happiness always.
Mine is not a love story, it was more like a comedy kind of hate-love story!
When we first met, I DO NOT like him at all. You read it right, I hate him because
he complaint too much, no PR, no looks, no wealth and no sense of humour! The lesson
that I learnt is never hate someone, you may ended up with him for life!
We ended up together because he is always by my side when I need a friend
to rely on. Perhaps circumstances brought us together. Now, we are married
with one son but he definitely not THE ONE. I learn to appreciate him and
life goes on. I am truly happy for you that you found someone who loves you
and you love him too, just like two hearts beat as one .
Wish you love and happiness always.
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 12
congratz that you already found the one in your life.i met with my wife at mall,we had been met with our friends.at first there really not something happened in my heart because she is not the typical women i have been searching.but after that my heart is changed because of her understanding,her care towards me.if i were down she is there to support me,if i were sad she is there to console me and many others her doing that make my heart touched.and because of all that is happened,here we are now as a happy family with one daughter.there is time we are fighting,argument but that is spice of love i think :).i really love and thanks my wife not because of her looked or anything but for her hearts.have a good day
