What I would do without facebook
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
August 21, 2012 12:55pm CST
A guy I went to school with has a child shes a little over 1. He is about my age 24 or 25, whereas his girlfriend is 18 or 19.
He posted on Facebook how he was up all night with his daughter, and has to work 15 - 16 hours at work, and how exhausted he is and just want to sleep.
Now his girlfriend barely works at 1 shift a week at 6 hours (so he obviously supports them). I know working thaat many hours a day, I would be exhausted as well. last thing I want is a lazy useless girlfriend and a screaming child (just saying).
He needed to vent, and didnt say anything bad on Facebook just that he was tired from being up all night with this child.
My cousin who has a few month old child comments, saying he should brace the years with his child and not complain, its nice to spend this time with the child, carrying on.
Sure, it is, but my cousin isnt paying any bills, nor has she worked in over a year. Her boyfriend goes to work, she sits at home with the child (big difference). I just skimmed over it, until my cousin started getting nasty with this guy, and I felt bad for him (I mean he spends all his spare time with his child, he works long hours, and run down), meanwhile his girlfriend whines about everything, or how he does or doesnt do this.
I just replied saying not all of us have the luxury to sit at home and get our bills paid for us, we have to work, that he tries and spends time with the child, if she works 15 - 16 hours a day plus having a child she would be tired, maybe she needs to work as hard as he is and see what shes saying then.
It shut her right up, but my cousin has never been made to lift a finger, up to date her parents pay a lot of things, then all her boyfriend have paid everything. She needs a nice kick in the head to see not everyone has that luxury.
So then she started attacking me on facebook, saying I dont know what its like not having children. I told her my legs are closed, because unlike her I know I wouldnt get everything paid for, and I dont want that hassle and struggle. I want to make my goals, and get somewhere in life before having kids, and bringing them into a life where I know I couldnt offer them the best, and support them. She just shut up, and told her Mom I was being mean, who called my parents. Im sitting here laughing, shes clearly an adult, she needs to shake her head and realize not everyone gets it all handed to them.
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9 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Aug 12
First of all, I think that your cousin ended up going off on a tangent that really didn't need to be gone off on. She should know, being that she is a parent herself, that it doesn't matter if you are working full time outside the house or even if you are at home all day with the baby, a parent of a very young child is always someone that is really tired.
Now, the man should spend as much time with his young child as possible, but his girlfriend should realize that he isn't doing anyone any good if he is not able to get any rest.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
22 Aug 12
Well, the guy chose to get involved with a child. Now, he has two of them to take care of. Yes, he is exhausted, and he is trying his best. However, the situation could have been avoided.
As for your cousin, I have to wonder what is wrong with her parents. I will never understand parents who indulge their (supposedly) adult children in such a fashion. It's one thing to help out when someone really is trying to keep their heads above water and just can't; it's another thing when parents just act like ATMs for their adult children.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
22 Aug 12
Good for you! Your cousin clearly doesn't have a clue. Your friend is in a tough spot, but he is the one who got involved with someone who is essentially still a child and created a baby. He now has two children to raise and is tied to the girlfriend forever. She doesn't necesarily have to do anything because she has security in knowing he will be responsible and take care of the child. However, that is between the two of them.
You can tell your cousin and her parents you weren't any more mean to her than she was to your friend in her insensitivity.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
22 Aug 12
No problem if facebook will not be there then other site may be released like before facebook orkut was so popular. I am not interested more in facebook so no effect on my life and I will do the work in mylot if facebook would not be there.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
21 Aug 12
sometimes it takes a long time for people to grow up; especially if there parents are coddling them. i seldom go on facebook anymore. i find it too boring. i really don't care what everyone is doing. i have my own troubles to worry about. i would rather come here and make money or go on pintrest.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
21 Aug 12
If you are having kids i think you can spend more time with them and also care more of them rather than wasting your time in facebook.since i believe all sites are temporary and they tend to become closed one fine day.so its all about not getting addicted and drawing a line between them ,so we must work towards our goals and concentrate more on the real world rather than the virtual and private world .it will help to reduce the hassles which we face and work more towards happiness in life
@snookms (53)
• United States
21 Aug 12
Omg I hate it when adults act like little kids. You don't get mad at someone for being honest and then run and tell your mommy that is just ridiculous. If you have to run and tattle to mommy then you are just a child yourself. If you act like a child then you definitely don't need to be trying to raise a child. Adults who act like children are too selfish to understand what other people go through in life. It is very hard working that many hours a day and then come home to take care of a baby all night. I know I have done it before. I used to work from 7am to 12am and then come home to a baby who was only a few months old, plus a three year old and a four year old. I of course had family who were willing to help out if I needed them to but these were my kids and my responsibility because I had them. So now my children are teenagers and a preteen and I don't ever regret one minute of working to make sure they had what they needed.
