Is he a good father?
By jadoixa
@jadoixa (1166)
Philippines
August 22, 2012 1:05am CST
this man offers child support or money to his child but he never talks or spends time with the child. can you say, this is enough? because after all he has never fail to offer financial support to the kid, and thinks maybe this is enough of a job he has and does as a father to a child. if you are in this kind of situation or know someone who is do you think that is enough or do you not feel guilty at all because you don't really spend time with your child, just give and give money.
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7 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
Well I think every child wants emotional attachement with their parents and in this particular case the father. Money is nothing to them since they are not aware of this at all. So I say that the support does help the child somehow but it should also be with tender loving and caring as well. No money can really buy those things that a child will always like.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
yes, that's right, even if he constantly sends money but the child cannot feel his presence or he doesn't communicate then the child cannot really feel it if her father really loves her. it just seems lacking..also the child cannot understand and is aware of it so it is important to be connecting and communicating with the child..but the father seems to not really care about communicating..even if the mother writes about the child to him he does not care or respond at all as long as he is sending money.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Well no one can really enforce the father to become attached with the child if he does not want to. Even the court cannot enforce this if the father has really no emotional attachment with the child. So if I were the mother I would just enforce what the law can provide and that is the continued support for her child's welfare.
I as the mother would then provide her what is lacking from it and that is emotional support. I know they are different but I know every mother can provide the best emotional support a child can have.
@arpitshukla99 (84)
• India
19 Sep 12
you are right friend, a child always wanted a love from his parent.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
22 Aug 12
The answer there is NO!!! Being a father is not all about the money that you have and the amount that you give to a child. If that could be the only case then all men around the world are obliged to become rich to support their child. If a father wants to be labeled as GOOD FATHER then there are more categories that supports to this matter. He must have moral support as well to the child that could teach moral values to become a better person when the child grows up. He must be a father who values respect to his child so that a child will understand the meaning of respect as well that he/she is growing up with manners and integrity.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Aug 12
I think it could be something restricting the father to bestow his love on the child. well we are all not perfect and maybe he has this fault and is not able to emotionally give love to the child but on the other hand he takes care of the child and all his necessities. I think it is fifty fifty. He is a good father in the sense that he takes care of the child's needs and he can be a not good father because he is not giving time to the child. thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
22 Aug 12
In my opinion, being a father is more than just fulfilling the financial support to the kid. And that being a good provider doesn't mean that guy is a good father already. It takes more than that. He needs to be an active and known figure in a child's life. He may not be physically present all the time but now with the technology and all, it wouldn't be too hard to make his presence known.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
yes that's right but even if the mother writes to the father about the child, the father does not seem to appreciate about the child, or acknowledges anything, responds, or takes effort to just spend time with the child personally or communicate in any way..
@arpitshukla99 (84)
• India
19 Sep 12
i think he is not good father because a child do not want money a child want love and attention from his parent.
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
22 Aug 12
Hi there..
Well, from what you've written, it seems that this guy is not the emotional, sensitive type. He feels just giving money to his kid is enough. He feels that its more than enough that he provides his child with money. Does the kid live with his/her mother? I hope the mother gives the child enough love/attention to compensate for the father's unemotional behavior...
This kind of behavior would have been okay back in early/historical times. Fathers were not expected to do more than give money to their kids back in that era. But, nowadays, in the 21st Century, fathers need to have an equal role in raising their kids.
For my part, I try my best to take care of my toddler son emotionally as well as financially. Fortunately, he really enjoys spending time with me & waits for me to come back from work so that he can play with me... :)
Children need that kind of attention otherwise they grow up not knowing the love of a father..
