After having a little one... Did you lose yourself?

I started doing things for myself. A manicure, new hair style, gave myself a little "me" time. Bought a box of chocolates and a bottle of champagne for a little afternoon treat while the baby was napping. I didn't drink the whole bottle, of course, but sipping on that one glass with the chocolates was so relaxing. I started taking some vitamins and supplements, a little B complex, vitamin E and some other stuff. It helps boost your energy. Started eating a lot of salads, too. Setting aside time to read a little, even if it's only 10 or 15 minutes. This will help to relax your mind. A book you like or a good magazine. I know it's hard to find the time to pamper yourself. But you're worth it, aren't you? And when you get up instead of putting on the sweats and t shirt put on a nice pair of jeans or slacks and a cute top. Fix your hair. Even if you're doing the same old routine, you can look good doing it. And you might feel better. And while you're dressed so cute take the baby for a walk. Or to the library. That can be a relaxing escape sometimes. Can you get anybody to sit for a little while so you can do something for yourself by yourself or with a few friends? Give yourself a facial. Maybe your husband could watch the baby some weekend so you can get a mani-pedi? Going for a massage is very good for you, too. Try to become an expert at making yourself feel good. If you don't, nobody else will! I hope I've helped a little. Have a great rest of your day!

Hello axmorales89, I also am a stay at home mom and do not feel that you have let yourself go. It is just another part of who you are now. You are a mother, wife, friend and many other important things in life. It can get overwhelming and sometimes we just need to take a break and have "me" time. I did feel this way at first ( I have 5 kids now lol), and once I told my husband that I lost myself he has been wonderful. When I need that time for me he gives me it. I think sometimes our spouse or significant other do not realize how difficult it can be staying at home. We all need time for ourselves, so take an hour, a day, couple hours or whatever, and just enjoy being you. It is normal and fine. If you want to dress up just to go get coffee go for it, you deserve it.

i am sure i felt that way after me daughters were born but i have always been a crafter and i still did crafty things when they were small just as i do crafty stuff now. make an effort to do stuff for yourself. you will feel much better!

I do believe that you lose yourself after you have a little one. My daughter is going to be turning ten years old in December and my son is going to be six years old in October and it is only now when both of them are going to school that I'm actually starting to find myself for the first time in many years. Now that they don't need me all the time, I am finding that I can start to enjoy those things that I enjoyed before my children were born. Now, I've also discovered that I'm a much different person now than I was ten years ago and I do love the person that I am today, I just wish that it hadn't taken me so long to start to find myself.

Are taking some supplements and eat regular meal, that what i could see where your problem is. I had 5 kids and had to use supplements and rest a lot and play with my kids and go for walks and took naps with them. You want your me back. You can't have your old me back like before you had you little muffin, he is there and part of your life and accept it and use it as a learning time with the baby every steps he is taking because it will never come back he will be a baby only once.

Oh! Maybe you were just feeling new as a mother. You are too focused on your baby's growth and you missed to look yourself in the mirror. But it's never too late, remember, you're a wife too:) Make up for yourself, you will be happier if you find yourself lighter in front of the mirror:)