jealousy cannot be eaten; but it will eat you up
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
August 22, 2012 9:06pm CST
jealousy means a feeling of resentment against your rival or mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry (according to the dictionary).
would you allow that jealousy would eat your system to make your mind unhealthy because of dirty thoughts and odd feelings of enviable things? enviable things or not, being jealous, as we can say is not a good thing as it dominantly hurt our feelings and would lead to confusion and headache.
why jealous? if you are insecure, naturally, you can feel a fang of terror inside you because you will think that why this person is looking great compared to you. the remedy of this is - develop your self - esteem more. be confident, for sure, beauty cannot be seen outside only. try to figure out your best assets. and think what one can do, you can do it also. be optimistic with what you thought and not be pessimistic with life.
about in a relationship; if having misunderstanding, try to clear it out, once and for all. too lucky for your rival, (if may so happens a love triangle) to be spent with time and effort for the anguish. this thing would make your more matured looking. stay beautiful and be stress free. these assets would make you look and feel younger that might give you the confidence. if found out that your rival weighs more to your partner, then get loose and set him free. but if you are wrong with your conceptions and being jealous of nothing, well, forget it - stop being jealous and continue living a life with the one you love if you feel it so right to do.
to say lots of things to be jealous about but this feeling is right for those who are insecure and pessimistic. life is to short to feel grudges between you and your inner self. relax and loosen up the ties. time is precious like gold.
let me ask here; what are the reasons why you get jealous with somebody? i doubt, how many percentage of the people who are not jealous type compared to jealous one? because as for myself - jealousy is eating me up badly pertaining to my boyfriend, you know instinct. but i do not like to be that way, its not healthy and would lessen my beauty 
6 responses
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
23 Aug 12
I have the same thoughts. I think jealousy is going to make you worst so don't be jealous ever. The solution is to avoid such feelings or don't let yourself get affected by the others.
One should be the self master of their emotions and should understand their self.
If you understand yourself and then learn to control the emotions you will be happy. That is what everyone want to be.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
hi there... thanks for following this discussion. i cannot name a person as i meet them everyday without even a little jealousy and insecurities in them. but i guess, these feelings (though not normal and not good) are known to us humans. these all would just pop up in our system and distracted our posture, mindsets, and emotions. but dealing with it and overcoming this kind of obstacle (fighting ourselves to feel normal) are our best shield not to get hurt and to stay healthy. we can find a way for that, and that is for sure.
thanks for joining in this discussion. :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
oh yes, when i am down in life and the cause of it was family problem, i cannot bring this upsetting mood outside in the class or in front of others, although they can sense something is not going well as they see your personality during the time but i force harder or portraying to them that i am much finer and okay. right, we need positive attitude to overcome gloomy moods we faced or about to face in the future.
thanks once more :)
@smileyy (28)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
Jealousy is a poison to a relationship. It starts on the way you think. Then it flows to how you feel then you act on it. Though sometimes it makes you realize that you really do love the person that much. And on the other hand when your partner gets jealous that means someone is afraid to loose you.
Sometimes we get jelous not only because of another person. Sometimes on things that makes the other one too busy. And the time spent to one another will be less that turns into jealousy. Working things out and having good communication I guess will resolve the uneasiness from suspicion.:)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
welcome to mylot buddy. like you, i am also a newbie here...
yes well said there. jealousy is like a stain or a rust that will ruined the beauty of your dress. before getting jealous, try to figure out what is the real score or story behind. maybe because you are the one who is making yourself scared and making your own ghost. this is not a healthy act. this can be condemned to obsession. although it cannot be avoided most of the time but we can somehow control it.
thanks for giving yourself in this kind of thread :)
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
For me jealousy can come from insecurity, lack of trust in your partner, and low self esteem. If one is confident in you love for your partner and vise versa, there's nothing to be jealous about. And if you are confident with yourself that you can reach all your dreams in life and overcome the challenges, then there is no need for you to be jealous of others achievements. Jealousy will only pull you down and break you apart.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
yes, right at that. jealousy would demerit our pride and of our being and sometimes or on other way, it will push us to harmful situation and consequence. to get rid of this odd feeling, a strong drive is needed in ourselves to fight back to become intolerable about this. this is a great challenge to all of us. how to stop it and calm ourselves for the pressures it might given to our body systems (feeling, mind, health conditions and such)
thanks for participation in here :)
@cyfer_agape (95)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
i agree with you! i am also one of those persons who don't let jealousy stress you out. but i used to be a jealous girl before. that was when i was still with my ex..he would always compare me to another girl so i really got so insecure. but now, im so confident with my guy since he alone makes me feel i am enough with what i am now
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
there are really persons who made us insecure and feel jealous aside from our own selves. this person is not worthy to throw ourselves for them. instead they would lead us to happiness, what they are giving and digging was the worst of us. better that you and your ex separated ways for i can see he was not a good influence. what we want in life is to have an understanding partner that would be our receptor of the best and the bad happenings in us. thanks for sharing your experience in here :) welcome to mylot - like you am newbie in here too. enjoy like me in here")
@bdfreelancer (518)
•
23 Aug 12
For me, jealousy is not good for both physical and mental health. Jealousy is not good as it comes from insecurities from within a person. It will eventually affect the person who has been suffering from jealousy.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
when you feel grudges inside you, your other system would not function well. have you seen problematic person on how they are so tired-looking? well that is the effect of stress and of problems. sometimes at night, when feeling anxious with what you felt (jealous) you cannot sleep well and finding yourself thinking about the problem. so in the morning, you will wake up and looks so haggard. do not think of this kind of nonsense problem so much, it is just useless, paying attention to it would drag you to your own grave.
thanks for the sensible thoughts. :)
@mikej143 (309)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
When about jealous to someone doesn't mean that you care or love but instead you've been care of yourself to take care of it. It might be bad way or in a good way I mean that you been lack your self in caring and spending time with that or you may ignore then suddenly you find out that its all your fault, Good way that you will build a stronger relationship or in a bad way that you yourself want to destroy what you have or just being blind all those what happened.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
ah you mean to say that if your feel jealousy, it is yourself who can help from indignation and from getting hurt. find a way to resolve this kind of emotion for this is not worthy to spend your mind thinking about it. use your mind for solving and not for regretting and sourgraping. life is so wonderful to entertain bad thoughts and emotions. it will just stresses you. thanks for joining in this thread about jealousy. thanks
