Cooking.. for the male or female?

During my marriage, I had different stages. When the children were little, I scarcely knew how to cook and we had a maid, so she did the cooking. When the chidren grew up, I had learned to cook and our finances weren´t so good to have a maid (and it was not needed either). So I did most of the cooking, but my husband had a couple of specialities that he made for special guests. Now that I´m a widow, I do all my cooking and love to invite friends.

I love to cook and I do it because it gives me some sense of fulfillment as a wife and a mother. I also believe cooking is more of a woman's job. But that does not mean it is exclusively a woman's job. If your man loves cooking and can do it even better than you can then whey not? The best chefs are actually men. The finest restaurants do have male chefs actually. I have a friend whose husband does the marketing and cooking and they are living perfectly well for 26 years now. If a woman can't cook and by nature dislikes cooking then the man can always do the job if he has the skill to do it. But the problem is if both of them can't cook. They would end up just eating out all the time. That would be very costly and unhealthy in most cases. And another problem is if the woman can't do any household chores at all and is contented to just sit down and leave all to her husband. Marriage is a give and take relationship. You have to help each other. So if you dislike cooking you should at least like washing the dishes,or doing the laundry or ironing clothes.

I honestly think that the boyfriend and the girlfriend, or the husband and the wife, pretty much, both people in the relationship should know how to cook. Cooking is a basic, or should be a basic survival skill. People should just know how to cook. People should know how to cook, clean, and just know how to do all of the basics. If something were to happen to you, then he would have to know how to take care of himself, and the same goes for you, if something were to happen to your husband, then you have to know how to take care of yourself. A friend of mine just recently lost her husband, and she is having to learn how to survive without him. People don't realize this, but you can't always rely on others because you never know what could happen.

Before I was in the car accident a little bit over a month ago, I would say that I was the one that did the majority of the cooking in our house. The reason for that is because of the fact that I've been a stay-at-home mother for the last six years and cooking was something that I was able to do. However, there have always been times that my husband will cook because he is a good cook and it is something that he does enjoy. However, since I was in the accident and I can't spend as much time on my feet as I was before, we've pretty much been sharing the chore of cooking evenly.

I love to cook me and my husband share the cooking and he does some of the cleaning it just depends on what it is. As for if cooking is for men or woman i would have to say it is for both.

It depends on every person situation. Some like to cook more than others. Then... imagine for a moment a couple where the woman works and the man doesnt, I think in that household is the man who should do some housework, and vice versa in the inverse situation. One cannot expect staying at homen and no nothing just because cooking is traditionally "for women". Times change.

both my husband and i cook, but he is a much better cook than i am, but it just depends on who is at home to do the cooking.

I don't see this as "unorthodox". Personally I like to cook, and I don't mind to do the cooking. I have also several couples of friend where it is the man who cook -- it is a minority, to say the truth, but women seem to appreciate men enjoying to cook --.

Hi mrscallands22, I am the one who always cooking because my husband is very busy with his work although he is a good cook. For almost 7 years that were been married in terms of household chores we always helping each other to make it easier and faster. Most of the time I do the cooking and cleaning then he do the laundry and take care the garbage. Even before we got married we already had an agreement to do the household chores together so that we can able to have so much time together and we do not like to be burden to each other.

Well I am not in any sort of relationship you have mentioned but I hope you wouldn't mind me putting my words in here. I do not feel that in a relationship we should divide the tasks with no changes at all. I appreciate that you alternate your works. It surely increases understandings and bonding. Also there should be willingness for the same nomatter how difficult the work is.

In my household i do most of tha cooking as i am a housewife and my husband is a bit bussy so despite of that he sometime help me out.

My boyfriend does not get much time, but he likes cooking a lot. I think after marriage he will cook more than me!!!!