Do we owe respect to everyone or....

I agree with you Kostas,,,I believe everyone deserves repect. And until someone does something disrespectful to me I should give them respect...Not only to my family and friemds but strangers also...after all there is no reason to just not respect someone...and this is just one mylotters opinion.....

For example, I will respect the manager at a work place, but if he is mean to me or is a hypocrite then I will no longer respect him/her. What is your opinion on this? Your question is- it should be earned? well....your words above- - That's the answer to your question- See, you respect your manager because he is your manager. It is his position that you respect, not his personality and humanity. Respect can be given to every people who are higher or above our position- just for the sake of hierarchy/rank. But the real essence of respect, high regard is not included due to his bad attitude. That makes "respect should be earned"- by showing everyone that you deserved the real essence of respect.

Ok there is the initial respect that you treat others the way you would want to be treated and then there is the respect that is either earned or burned when you have contact with someone frequently. I have been taught that you are respectful to people that you meet. I try to always be polite even if the other person is being impolite. Once a person makes it clear that no matter how I treat them they are going to treat me badly then I stop treating them so nice. I don't do anything bad to them or anything like that but I lose the kind glow that I have towards most people. I guess you could say that I am respectful and courteous of people but I am not a pushover.

I have had this respect dilemma many times over the years in workplaces where I have had to teach young apprentices. Many came into the factory with attitudes that expected everything and they were not prepared to give. It was as though they had no respect for the systems that were in place or for the knowledge that we tradesmen already had. When I was an apprentice I tried to follow the ideas of many of those who had gone before me. I respected their experience and learned from them, taking both the good and bad points. Some of the youth that I worked with expected me to respect them before they would respect me. I was even told that by one young kid. I told him that I was sorry, but that he had to prove his ability to work hard first. I have proven mine and earned respect. You have to do the same. Having said that, I do agree that we need to respect all creatures, including humans that may have different values to us. But if they are not willing to give that respect back, then I will lose my respect for them real fast.

Yes, respect should be earned but some are given in relation to their positions, social standings or age. Those people who are in such positions to earn automatic respects should make sure that they can live up to the respects given to them. It is very easy to take away the respect just like the easiness it was given.

In my opinion respect is not earned but what we get from others.And the best thing is that you must respect everyone whoever you come across even if your manager is mean you must respect him as he is human one or the other day he will not be mean or hypocrite to you.And at-last i would say that "Those who respect others,they are respected by everyone."

It's relative. A mean crabby old lady still has my respect because she is elderly. If I have a mean boss I still have to respect him because he is my boss. Those around me on a regular basis only get my attention and friendship if I like and respect them. I can like someone I have no respect for but I won't have a lot to do with them. I can respect someone I don't like as well and I will have little to do with that person too. If I love someone as a good friend they will always have my friendship, trust, loyalty and respect until they throw it all back in my face, or until they do not reciprocate. We don't "owe" anyone anything. We give our respect freely to those who merit it whether they "deserve" it or not. It's not open to a judgement call in some cases.

Hi KOSTAS499, I don't believe in being rude to anyone, no matter how we feel about them. I think that we need to respect and listen to what young people have to say as well as others, they too often have good ideas. Blessings.

I believe we should be civil to those around us, decent, polite etc. This does NOT mean you just respect everyone and anyone. One thing that bothers me are older people who think they are ENTITLED to your respect (in their minds, this means they are always right and you should listen because they are older), and while you should strive to try and get along with them, it doesn't mean you automatically need to defer or agree or do what they say just because they are older. Age is no indication of maturity or even knowledge or skill, really. It is simply a trackable measure of how long one has been alive. In fact, there are people I will NEVER agree with about fundamental important things but I RESPECT our differences, just like I also respect others who are who they are and don't turn into a doormat and don't change themselves to gain approval from anybody. I think being that way makes you WORTHY regardless of your views. People who don't have a strong self concept and are not secure in who they are irritate me, people who need approval or they freak out, people who change so others like them, who 'go along with the crowd' so to speak. That is one major reason why I may not respect someone and I'll tell them so. I agree with you that if someone has done nothing to make me question civility and a basic level of respect, of course that's what they'll get from me, but that is given in kind, on an equal standing, NOT as if anybody thinks they are above or below me. Anybody who looks down their nose at me will be confronted for their attitude because THAT type of behavior is NOT worthy of respect lol.

I am always polite to everyone, even those I don't have much respect for. My husband told me that in the military you salute the rank, not the man.

I would not be impolite to people but I also believe respect should be earn . I think some people demand respect because they may be older/boss but they are just as disrespectful to others . Everyone with me start with a clean slate but they should not disrespect me and think I will respect them . I would not be rude to them but I would just pretend not to see or hear them unless necessary. I would respect a manager but if he is mean to me I would no longer respect him either but I will never be rude to him .

hi Kostas, yes giving respect and taking respect is very good to us, we should not hurt any body either with our words or with our works and we have to respect each others means elders,friends,relatives,teachers,officer any new person also, our behaviour must be good with others, when we respect others ,they too respect us,have a nice day.

I think that people should be shown respect until they prove that they don't deserve it. That is probably the opposit of earning respect, at least how I see it. In that case you wouldn't show anyone respect until tey earn it.

In my opinion, everyone should be treated with respects. It's right that sometimes a person earns his/her respects so it's easier to treat him or her. Other people are not doing well even when the recieve respectfull treatment. In that case, we always can choose to take some distance to this person, but never treat him or her respectless. Jesus always treated everyone with all respects, even his worst enemies.

I agree with both of you, to an extent. I think you should always be polite to a person and treat them respectfully, even if you don't respect them. NOTHING bothers a person who acts disrespectfully to you than to be NICE to them!

When it comes to dealing with people that are older than we ourselves are, I think that it is proper that we have respect for everyone. However, I do think that it is a different situation when we are dealing with someone that is our peer. I really don't think that it is necessary for us to always have respect for our peers because there are many times that our own peers are very immature and disrespectful and I don't really think that those people really deserve to be respected.

of course respect is one of the best behavior most specially in the working field where you can found a lot of different behaviors that rendered by seniorities and superiors do as a coworker you need to exert more effort and enough patience by rspecting them. ahm?what do you mean by hypocrite?

Hi Kostas, We have all the rights to answer back our manager if he is mean or hypocrite but it must still be in a right manner. We must remember they are still the boss who can either report us for being disrespectful or fire us instantly. Sometimes, company owners/higher management listens more to managers/supervisors, so I guess the best way to deal with difficult boss is to just be calm, polite and treat them with respect showing them that you aren't worthy of being demeaned by them. Maybe soon he will realize he is degrading someone who deserved to be admired and respected.

HI, I always give respect to everyone. Because if we insult someone then we create wounds in others heart which wouldn't be healed. I also don't insult anyone who is not good with me. i neglect him and avoid to insult him by my rude words.

Yes I think we owe respect to everyone if we want respect back. You don't lose anything when you respect. It is good manners and people know you from your manners. Therefore to earn respect you have to give respect to others. thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.