give them money and you can be sure you'll never see them back

Have you tried to contact her? There really is something to be said about a person that does such a thing. I would say that she is unaware of the generosity you showed her. She probably does not consider you someone that is worthy of at least explaining her situation to. Eventually, it would be something she should do (pay you back) if she wants to be even a quarter of the friend you are to her.

It shows that you are just a 'friend in need' for them - when they need anything, they look for you. But you need not feel sorry for them or for yourself, in fact you should feel glad that you now know who your real friends are. Anyway, the friend that has not repaid you may have other difficulties. As a friend, maybe you should find out from her and be understanding. Helping a friend in difficulty is what a friend is for, don't you think so?

That's a friend who was desperate then and was never really your friend. Perhaps she sent those messages to several people and you where the only one who fell for it. This is the main reason why I don't really lend people money. If I feel the need to, I will not lend them the full amount and I always make sure that I'm ready to separate from the amount because most people would really disappear after you helped them. I don't know, perhaps it's desperation, perhaps that's just their true nature. Indeed most would just be near us or our 'friends' because they have 'vested interests'. I don't like these types of people. I don't appreciate being held up and forgotten after the deed is done. I just don't see the whole point of it. If the money isn't ready, then accept and apologize. I don't think friends would resort to violence if the debt isn't paid, right? We just don't want to be ignored really. Have you tried visiting her home? Sometimes they say that they're humiliated for not having the money that's why they'd rather hide. I know that's a terrible excuse but let's give the person the benefit-of-doubt. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Wow, there are so many people out there like this and I am so sorry this happened to you as well. More and more people are scamming others and it is horrible! We had a so called friend staying here with us and he was here for about 2 weeks, stole some things from us and never returned!! Such a horrible thing to do to people that were helping so much. I will never understand these kinds of things. I am glad I don't understand because that means I am NOTHING like them!! I really hope you eventually get your money back and I am really sorry you got scammed like we did!

Yup, sue this kind of person if she still does not want to return your money back. This is called fraud and you should not be afriad to sue her. She does not see you as a friend any more, then what is the thing that is holding you back?

Ehehe, I suppose your buddy is a freeloader. Have you tried reminding her time and again about it? It wouldn't be the best method, but I think it's good to fight fire with fire before fanning the flames. Hope this method helps.

What you need to do is get your money back and teach this person a lesson. Contact her father and tell him the story especially the bit about not wanting her father to know she was borrowing from others. She knows she was doing wrong and she needs to learn that you cannot cheat, lie to and steal from others. Do not weaken, it's no longer about the money. It's now about revenge!

Maybe she is selfish and doesn't care, maybe she is irresponsible and doesn't manage her money well enough to pay you back, or maybe, just maybe things are really tough and she just can't repay you. We can't judge your friend not knowing her circumstance, but you have to ask yourself what kind of person you want to be.

This kind of person is not a friend at all. I know that I have a friend that seems like she is always asking for money but she doesn't really do anything to make money of her own. Thus, I will no longer loan any more money to her. My other really close friend on the other hand, he has never paid me back in terms of cash, however, he is my personal mechanic so I know that when he gets a loan from me I will end up getting the money back from him because he will always knock it off the labor costs for my car being repaired. I really do think of him being a true friend and I think that he would go to the ends of the world for me.

I agree with you. It happened to me several times. When we ask repayment of what they borrowed they will immediately evade us. But not all people are like that. Some will come back and pay you back. It just happened that you met a person who can not be trusted. The best that we can do is not to come near people who don't know how to pay.

Oh well, I feel bad for you. Have you called your friend and ask her about your money? You should contact her, and if possible come and talk directly to her place. Tell her that you need that money back for some urgent thing. Goodluck

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, some friends are in this sort, they can do anything to collect money from us and forget about to repay the money, don't worry keep distance from this kind of persons and here after be careful

hi! That's so sad. I had experienced that too. I lend some money to my friend and unfortunately, my money and my friend never came back. I lend her some because I wanted to prove that I could trust her, she prove me wrong. Anyways, there is a purpose why these things happen. Let us hope for the better.

I'm sorry to hear that. 3 years ago, I had a friend and he said he need a big money to repay. And i had sold my car and gave him all my money. Then, he escaped and not return. Now, when i think about it, i regret to trust him so much ....

What happens most of the time, is the person really believes they will earn the money back. They really think they'll pay it back to you. But usually, whatever life-style choices they make that led them to needing to borrow money, still exists after they borrow it. Whatever aspects of their life that made them broke, haven't changed just because they borrowed money. As a result, even if they had good or true intentions, they simply don't have the money to pay you back, even if they want to. Now it is true that some people do this intentionally. They borrow money from whomever they can, and just stop talking with you on the phone, and disappear. Whether this specific friend did this on purpose or not, is not something I can determine from what you said. But most of the time, they fully intended to pay you back, they simply can't. This is why you NEVER LEND OUT MONEY. NEVER! If they were good for the money, they would have gotten a loan from a bank. The bank turned them down, because they are not good for the money. Why are you lending to someone the bank knows won't pay it back? Never lend money. You are not a banker. Don't act like one. When you become a professional banker, and know who is good to lend money to, and who is not, then you can do what you please. But until then... NEVER LEND MONEY. And by the way, never worry about friendship with someone demanding a loan. If you not loaning them money ends your friendship.... you were never friends. And you won't be friends when they refuse to pay, so might as well keep your money if the result is the same.

Well, you are not the only one. Somehow this has happened to others and many more will experience this. Now, you know that she is not a good friend. Things could change, who knows. I still say this, bless your heart for helping a friend in time of need. Next time, you need to decide what is more important. Helping can come in a different way.

I know what you are talking about me and my husband have friends that owe us 1,000 and still have not paid us back and they also still have some of our stuff as well. I hate people that are like this.

its because he is using for sake of only money,try to talk to him next time around quite rudely and i am sure you will get it back

It's sad to hear that this happened to you, but unfortunately many persons out there only try to take advantages of the others. That's one of the reasons why I don't trust in anybody besides my family, it's not good be like that either though. I just really hope that you didn't lend her a big amount of money.

It's sad but I have to admit I have exactly the same experiences throught the past 25 years! As soon as you give in and try to help someone with money the friendship is over. No matter how short or long you know each other or how close you were or how much you shared. So don't give money anymore. No matter if that friend is calling you a bad friend or bad person, cruel or selfish. The fact is these kind of friends will dump you if they can't get (easily) what they need. They don't care to lie about it (where they need it for or to give it back). Only give money if you are sure you don't need it at all.