We Are Tearing Apart

I do feel the same like you. I'm sorry to hear that, dear. I am also the eldest daughter, I have 2 young sisters. As time pass by - she has her internship program (which she almost spends whole weeks at hospital) - I live out of city (in a hostel) - my youngest sister is the only child at home . I ever mad and cried when my young sisters never at home anymore whenever we got free time such as in a special Moslem's days or in a vacation. Even when I complained why they did that - one of them said that I was weird and she blamed me that I complained because I didn't have friends . She was a really mean girl. I talked to my dad, then my dad talked to them - every member of my family attended at that time. My dad gave advices wisely until they know what the real meaning of family - who the first one gives a help when we need - the one who will be still beside us whenever everyone leave us alone. Then they realized how they did wrong. And we always try our best to still be able spend a free time together - a quality time indeed instead of quantity time :)

That's so sad. Maybe you could have everyone arrange to take one day every 2-3 months and get together? Like, make plans that on the last Saturday of these months you all meet up either at someone's house or at a restaurant, or something like that. You can make it at different locations each time. I hope you can get together and save this closeness as you once were.

That is a pity , hope you get to bring back your relationship to what it was. I am close to my little brother and I hope we dont grow too much apart as we get older.

Is it an issue? If so.. is it an issue for you or for you and your siblings? It's normal that if you are getting adults you start living your own life, you make your own choices, you find your own way to do things. It happens everywhere no matter if you were separated or not. Nature want it to be that way. If there is a bond it doesn't matter if you meet eachother frequently. Esp. not since we all have cellphones to text and internet etc. If the bond is there you can feel it.. meeting in person is extra but not making a bond/close feeling if it's simply not there. If you are siblings, grow up together you have to deal with eachother if you like it, or like eachother or not. As an adult you have the right to be who you are, follow your own dreams. If you don't develop in the same direction it's normal you have less in common, if your lives are different you have less or nothing in common as well. People stick together with those they have a life style and interests in common with. Being siblings is not enough. You talk about: quality time. Well quality time doesn't mean you have to meet frequently. Quality time means that the time you do spend together you make the best out of it. You can't solve anything since it sounds to me nobody is sharing your opinion. They all are fine with their lives and not looking or needing more contact. I advise you to go on with your life. If you need to be closer find good friends, by experience I know they can be your family as well and even better as your own family. For me the so called blood-bond doesn't count. You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. Use that opportunity and live your life the fullest.