just growing older or growing wiser?

Right back atcha sweetie! I think they are crazy charging that much for a cat, even apartments don't charge that amount! Why don't you start some trouble, haha, and get them to adopt one cat for the whole place so everyone can enjoy the little critter? My bad.

hehe kashmerey es you bad.poor kitty she might have to run for her life arou nd some here but its an idea lol lol but a friend here used to have a gorgeous fluffy white cat but alas she has moved away.she also had the cutest little dog called andy one day the guy who walked andy came by where I was sitting and asked if I wanted to pet Andy so he sat him down beside me and A ndy took to me.When the man wanted Andy to come to him Andy crawled up in my lap and just looked at him. we lau ghed as he had to bodily lift Andy and carry him .

hi kashmeresmycat still love that kitty avatar wow. thats one t hing I miss a cat.we could have one only we have to put a de posit down then pay an extra one hundred a month and I cannot afford that so no kitty.yes I will see him next weekend and meantime I am having fun here with you and all my other friends t oo.love my lot and all my friends here hugs from hatley

Girl, it takes me three months to get to twelve dollars!

hehe ambie I have all the times in the world and nothing much else to do thats way I can make that. lol

hi ambie pam yes earlier I wou ld have been moping and feeling sorry for me but I just put myself in his place and realized he was in real pain and needed to be off that knee. Next weekend is not that far off and I can use today to do more catching up on mylot too.after all I am trying to do in two weeks what' ordinarily I would have had the whole month to mylot in. lol but I have already made almost twelve dollars and still have a few days left.six days all told.

supposing your son has been staying far away -- say 200 miles or more-- i am sure you cannot expect him to come and see you. if you have web camera then you can talk to him over video chat. you know about it.

hi donsky and ravis yes but hes now just three miles from where I live here in G old Crest.yes of course I would not expect him to'cme see me then at all. but he is my only family here and I did not come here to Gold cr st be cause I just wanted to, we had been living together in a two bedroom apt when he lost his job without m oney we were homeless as we were just renting we owned no home we have no people here ravi he is my only family.I know about web cameras but I have no extra money cannot afford that ,do not have it on my internet,.I do not see this as home,its just a place I have to stay. I need to see my son occasionally.

Isn't it funny how we wish them out of the house when they are young, but miss them immensely the day they leave the nest?

hi bunnybon dont know as he was so full of talking about his new apt. and getting settled in but he definitely promised to come'next w eekend and bring some odds and ends of stuff of mine he had moved,. no he has to do electronic repair now as he could not'get a computer programmer job there and took ten dollar cut in wage but as he said a job now is a job. and he is now working full time too.yes I hope he does not hav e to miss anywork as h e needs his wages of course., His visits always cheer me up a lot.

hi blue65packer grr just lost one comment it j ust flew off.yes i am so lucky as many here do not see their loved ones weekly or even monthly either,. I have started making it a point to tell him I appreciate his visits so much.I used to sweat the small stuff a lot too but am gradually working on keeping my cool now.its a lot easier said than actually done,.

hi jaiho thanks yes we older moms really want all the love and affection but I hope we also give it too, some older people here are all scowls and their kin come to see them and I never hear them laugh or smile, yet the kin are so sweet and loving,its kind of sad when older people get all soured up like that hope I never do that lol.

hi garden gert y y es I am f eeling more secure.he isin seventh heavenhaving a bedroom all to hims elf. he is really happy to h ave moved into his own place and under section 8 he only has t o pay 30 percent of his income which makes it $400 dollars per mo th and he can afford that., he is still working full time and has he told me worked yesterday too for overtime.. so yes I am looking foward to seeing him next weekend. meantime i am trying to c at ch up on my lotting as I lost the first two weeks of August. wow.almost have 12 dollars so by the end of the month it should helkp on my cable bill a lot.

thats so true and most o f us will make mistakes and eventually 'learn what not to do.I began to put myself in my sons pl ace just now and realized it was selfish of me to expect him to come see me when he had just sprained his knee.so next week end will give me something to look forward to

At 53, would you really want him to start a family? What do you think his chances are of walking her down the aisle at her wedding, or seeing him graduate from college or whatever? My brother had his daughter at 35 and now he's 60 and I rather doubt she's going to marry, tho I don't really think that is that important to him, maybe if she hasn't had children by the time he's 70 he'll start wondering...

Hatley aunty In tamil language we have a phrase-- there must be similar ones in English also -- ""Every house has a gate of its own". So problems are there in each and every house or relationship. You are doing right thing by not expecting your son to visit you this week. I remember your telling about the help you son did in fixing your laptop say three week ago or so? How many grand children do you have? I have not read about them.

hi no not really as I am sure if he had wanted a long time back he had several who would have married him in an instant had he agr eed,nope he seems to be happy as he is. Sadly the English woman who was going to help us by sponsoring my sons rent in Antioch Ca for three months wanted him to propose I do believe because she was working thru her sister who was in Antioch and in that apt complex,. I think when Robbie went up there to put a hundred dollar deposit down the sister may have asked Robbie if he had thought of getting married and he would have told her no way. so a few days later we learned that the English lady phoned the landlord in Antioch and told him she had changed her mind and to tear up the agreement to pay our rent for three months she had signed and sent to him as she no longer wanted to do that.which really left us homeless. but we survived and now are okay oh 35 do not give up hope I was 32 when I married and my hubby 37 but I had been so picky,I had had a few chances but they were all frogs so the last one I kissed was not,. lol,.

hi carm right just thinking with my dad it did seem he got any wiser at all the way he talked when we lost our little daughter to pneumonia when she was only8.he]told me"Sad but its for the best as she wou ld just have been a burden on you all your life." I was furious.I screamed " shes our baby our little girl, shes not a burden how can you say that?" He was a retired doctor yet he abhorred birth defects in children and she was brain damaged at birh.She was so pretty and so loving people rarely realized she was brain damaged.just mildly retarded but yet she was in a lot of ways a smart little girl and in the short 8 years we were privileged to have her she taught us a lot.she loved every one and we loved her so much ,it almost killed us to lose her specially her father as she was daddys little girl.I think something happened in my father's childhood that warped his soul someway.

hi cynthiann no apology needed I seem to be the queen of typos m yself,I had to give up the two bedroom dream for now bu t at least he is close enough to come see me weekly and he promise he would come this coming weekend and bring some odds and ends of mine he had in his apartment. so am really looking forward to next weekend,. but for now am working hard here to m ke up for the first two weeks of A ugust when I was offline and could not my lot,i am glad you a re feeling so much better.I know you had some scary times with your heart,It had to be a growing experience what you have lived through and hope y ou keep feeling better and better now.I can imagine it willk be good to get home from Brittain as homes always the best place to be. the thing is to get the job he has he had to accept less wag es but 15 dollars an hour is okay but it precludes any rent of 2 bedreoom apts as they are still obscenely high, 12 00 to 1400 for better apts while a few years back it was 700 to 900 for the best ones in town, weird but it happened

For the first two days after open heart surgery I honestly prayed to die. But now, despite battling post op depression, I am glad to be alive and slowly have regained my faith and hope. Hope is what keeps us going. You are a strong lady and keep your hope alive. You never know what may turn up in life and life can change in a flash. I pray that he will find the special apartment that is out there for you and him to share together. I pray that your son will get a better job and that you will be okay financially. Keep your hope alive. Many, many blessings to you and your son.

Apologies for all the typos. Am borrowing my DIL's IPad and it doesn't show me the typos!

hi ag ain something wiped out all my comment. yes iam now more into seeing things through his eyes,only three miles a way but a sprained knee will not heal unless he can stay off it so I will see him next weekend. meantime I am catching up on all my mylotting so I will have more than minimum for payoff.I am becoming wiser and less selfish.,I am very lu cky as so many peole here do not s ee their loved ones for weeks and weeks,.thats so'dad,. here and just forgotten.

hi pahak yes I have seen looking back that it was a little selfish of me at times to expect him to just come to s ee me every weekendnot matter what.and when he told me he had hurt his knee'I was quick to say"oh you mus stay off it as much as yo u can' so I will just see you next weekend. take care now." we get lonely here for our fa milies and hes my only family . some people here do not see family members for months and I feel so sorry for'them.

hi dearest Hatley, I had asked your son about you and he was so kind to reply its the computer that gave you problems that was the reason you were not online for a while. Please say hi from me and I hope his knee heals soon. Hope he doesnt have to carry lots of stuff into his new place so he can rest and let that knee heal.....

mansha thanks and being more thoughtful will help.sadly he seems determined to stay a bachelor so no g randchildren but its his life and I respect him. we will have a lovely visit this coming weekend, meanwhile tomorrow being the 31st of Aug I am mylotting like crazy .

Thanks for liking my views. One more thing i would like to share. I am going to get my Mom married again. Its very difficult in India but I thing situation is not different in other parts of the world. there are people in India who got married again after 80 also. They wanted to be independent, this thought sound bit paradox but, actually its straight forward. I am 28 and in India I am just stepping into maturity. Emotionally, my mom is not independent and I have to understand it and accept it. We young people may be understand it but, such craving for a person to told, share and love can lead to many emotional, psychological and also physical discomforts. I will be the first son who is getting his mother marry again to right person.

hi beachlover great response you are so right, my son has always shonw a lot of common sense and wisdom. I have tried to learn to be independent in all ways as I had the loveof my life but he was always doing it for me when I asked how to do som ething expecting to be told how to do it not having it done for me,.my son was the same way until I almost blew up as I did want to do things for myself.,so many wonderful young people think we older ones have to have every thing done for us when the o pposite is more true.we want to be as independent as possible,its our human nature.so I made my son show me how to do things on m y computer for example then let me try it and if I goof he can just t ell me what I did wrong and I correct it,.I think you have stated thigs much better than I could.Each time I manage to do something new for myself and succed I feel really proud of me.After all 85 or any other age we 'never should stop learning new things also this keeps u s older people's minds active and healthy not senile.

hi celticeagle I hope this does not fly off like th e others this evening as I have to copy all my comments or lose them, grrrrr I think being here has helped me to learn a lot over the past three years.I am okay as I can concentrate now on getting as much' mylotting done in the next few days to earn more as I lost the first two weeks of this mo nth.he deserves to enjoy his new apartment and I do hope his knee gets b etter soon, I will be fine and will soon be next w eekend anyway as time does fly.

I have had an ocassional glitch this week. Yes, he does deserve some down time. I haven't been doing much on here this month. Sleeping weird. TIme does fly. Especially when you're having fun!

hi the sids yes you are and I do wish I was not darned dependent on this walker., oh well cannot be helped., It is the love that is it in a nutshell and putting myself in his place so I can realize how he feels too,I am just hoping his knee will not make him lose days off from work.and am looking really forward to this'coming weekend, now I am really working on getting as much'earnings as I can seeing I missed two weeks of August being off line,.

jhi Kostas wish I could as so many time we older ones push a guilt trip on our adult kids which is not fair. they have lives of their own and they will come to visit when they can not when 'we want them to. He is an adult with his own life but he did promise he would come see me this weekend. hope you can get through to your mom that you cannot spend all your time with her as you do have a life of your own,

hiamritha welcome to mylot and please remember mylot admins tells us to use only English and not textese as a lot of older p eople do not know textese., you are right I have to understand where my son is coming fr om and give him his space.I know he will come see me next weekend so now am working on making as much earnings as I can here on mylot.I was off line the first two weeks of August so now am wo rking hard to make as much as I can here by the 31sto of August. lol