Worrying about your and your families future?
By deserve40
@deserve40 (1656)
India
August 27, 2012 11:26pm CST
Human brain is a great source of thoughts. But many of us have habit of thinking about the future. When we think the present days happenings. It makes us feel that nothing is certain in this world. Many businesses close down because of different reasons. Many places which were most sought after places become least attractive from earning point of view.
The market trends keep changing very fast and to get adjusted with the changing market trend as a trader or a businessman is very very difficult.
All these make people feel worried about their future. This is true especially for those who do not have steady source of income and who could not earn high amounts to make the future safe. Even if the people have saved good amount for the future use, many times due to increases in the prices makes that amount too small.
So do you keep worrying about your future or you have some plans for future or you feel that the things go like that only and there is no need to keep worrying.
Please contribute your views here.
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15 responses
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
28 Aug 12
Obviously, the passed can't be changed. Maybe, we might have done some mistakes which make our present live (for example, missed a good job, didn't save enough which would help us now to overcome better actual situation, and so on).
But, the present is to be worried about. What we do in the present, will have a big influence in our future. So we have to take good decisions here and now, we have to think about what we really want like a proyect to reach in the future. Once we have our ideas cleared up, we start immediatly to work on it.
At the moment, I am very worried about the future because my family and myself are suffering under the consequences of the financial crisis, like a big part of people. But here we are, planning our life, looking for solutions and trying to do the best to get all problems resolved.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
I think that this is a very common situation with almost everybody. Financial crisis has made lives of many people horrible.
However, as rightly stated by you, what is in our control, in our hands is our present so we must do something for the future. However, again the problem is that many of us are too small people to do something which can secure our future.
So the only solution is to work for future and hope for the best.
Have a nice time friend...1
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
29 Aug 12
Hi stary1, thank your for your nice wishes.
Hi deserve40, you are right, there are many people too small and without any possibility of change. Those people need help. But there are also many poor people they definitly have some possibilities, but they don't realize it. Personal problems sometimes don't let us think with clearance and to see any way out.
@KateMary (23)
• Romania
28 Aug 12
Well .You see ,in your country things get better than in mine .You can think of a brighter future ,but I don`t .All I think about is the present,For the future I don`t know so much .All I want is just keep the good work with school ,and then i hope I`ll get a job ,hope I`ll not get like many young people with very high studies from my country unemployed . Now I worry just for the present .. for the future ,I just let God set my ways ! ^_^ .
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
That is fine...! Instead of worrying about the future, worry about the present...! I think that you could have said "thinking about the present and acting on the present goals".
At your age, it is better to concentrate on your studies and that is your present goal.
Best of luck friend...!
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
28 Aug 12
I don't worry much because what will be will be. I just try my best to have a good day today. Who knows what will happen tomorrow?
We can change future, right? I have a plan for 1 year in future and try to reach that goal, i never plan for longer because 2 years 3 years later, i cannot plan for it at all.
i think if we worry too much, we can't do anything.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
I agree with you that one should not plan for long time. It is always better to do short term planning. However, this short term planning can be based on your long term goals.
One more thing you have rightly stated is that just by worrying we cannot change future, instad if worrying we should try our best.
Have a nice time...!
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
28 Aug 12
Hi friend, worrying never give any benefits to us, we must save some money for our future, avoid worries and do it in act. We have the ability to increase our earnings with our hard work and save money for our future, let work hard when you have a good health and save for the future, avoid unwanted and unnecessary expenses which is good for you
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
You are right friend, work hard at present if your health permits and save for the future. This can help you to stop worrying about the future financial problems.
Thanks for the response.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
28 Aug 12
I think when we say thinking about the future it is not worrying but thinking how the future will be better. I don't worry about the future but I do think about the future and I guess everyone must think about the future to have a better future ahead. Worry over future will not do any good to anyone. We have to work towards it. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
Very rightly you have mentioned that there is a basic difference between two things: thinking about the future and worrying about the future. One is required to think in a positive manner and work towards some set goals without worrying much.
Thanks for responding to the discussion friend...!
@amritha3009 (70)
• India
28 Aug 12
this is really a common phenomena in every family that i do observe and in every man. even though a man is rich or poor or in any state evary man or woman thinks of such things inside their mind of the world and the future hw its gonna be or how they r gonna deal with the future or worry about how the future has bestowd upon them .
the brain cant sit idle so it continues with number of thots most of them with such thots concerned about future.
i do keep worrying about my future how my studies gonna finish or how i wud settle or which job i would get. about my future partner and his ways about my parents sister cousins everything, all these revolve round my brain and i really think of them . sometimes i feel brave and confident that evrythng will b perfect bt at other tyms i really get down with a unknown fear inside me
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
You are right friends, our worries are the result of our nature and the fact that we are human beings we cannot stop thinking so the worries are quite likely.
"amritha", I have a suggestion for you: if you feel down and without confidance sometimes, try to look for spiritual support. If you are believer of God and if you have faith in God, try to surrender before the God. This will certainly help.
Yoga and Pranayama are also good for mental peace. Both these things make us stronger from inside.
Thanks for contributing to the discussion friends...! Have a nice time...!
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Yes, I can't keep myself from worrying about our future. It's really something to prepare for. We don't know what will happen next. It's good to be prepared. Happy myLotting.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
If you are prepared to face any situation, then you will be least worried about what is going to happen in future. I think that this is one of the best ways to stop worrying about the future.
Thanks for contributing to the discussion friend...!
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
28 Aug 12
Yes I am worrying about my child future because price are hiking in everywhere colleges demands lots of donation how can manage it. My husband income is not more and now these hospital bill are also increasing.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
I think that if your child is young enough to be trained well, then you still have a good chance of making good future. It is true that the colleges are asking for huge donations but at the same time, there are seats in the colleges which are filled up based on merit.
So, better to train your child and look forward to brighter future. Best luck.
@shivanisd (387)
• India
28 Aug 12
Im not married and not planning to get married ever. So fortunately Im free of such worries. As for me I will try to support myself but if I fail, my family is always there for me financially and otherwise.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
You are very lucky that you have your family to support you if you fail to earn for yourself. I think that all are not blessed ones like you.
Have a nice time...!
@pandora22 (868)
• Romania
28 Aug 12
Unfortunately, for me, I am that kind of person who likes stability, and this is why I always do plans for the future, and I am really worried for me and my family each time I can't accomplish something. For example, next year I will finish university, and now I am really worried whether I will find a good paid job as a vet, since the economic situation in my country is not to good right now, and people with studies are less paid then the ones without school. I am the one who takes care of my mother and my aunt right now so I really worry for the future.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
It is really a sorry picture that the people with good education are not being paid well. However, I feel that the time will come when the things will change for better atleast in this matter. Education has its own importance and that will never vanish. So let us hope that by the time you finish your university education, situation will be better for you.
Best of Luck...!
@rubyroy (824)
• India
28 Aug 12
When you trust your maker and think that he can snuff your life in one moment, and this will really make you stop worrying.By worrying have you ever solved your problem.It is by taking action you can you really overcome worries.So think positive and stop worrying.The maker who has created you know your needs.Pray and ask for guidance rather worry about the future you cannot control.When you become concerned about yourself you become worried.So think less about your problems,and help others to overcome problems then automatically solutions will be opened for you.So to stop worries be selfless,work for a solution with prayer,and it will give you peace and confidence.Give the problems to your maker and pray for your inner strength to guide you in the direct direction to solve the problem..
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
So nice thinking...friend, you seem to be new on MyLot but your spirits seem to be quite high and you have good faith in the Almighty. I do agree that the maker who has made you, will take care of you and there is no point worrying about the future.
One very important point you have put here is that no one has ever solved any problem just by worrying about it. So it is necessary for the person to take some action and leave the result to the destiny.
Your faith in God will make you stronger and stronger so that you can face any tough situations. One famous spiritual Guruju "SRI SRI RAVISHANKAR OF ART OF LIVING" always says the same thing: Live in the present, leave all your problems to God" .
Thanks for contributing to the discussion friend...! Have a nice time...!
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
28 Aug 12
Hi,
I have a steady job, though I can't earn much, it's enough for me. But my brother doesn't have a steady job, since his graduation, he has changed job four times in just two years. Several months ago, he lost his job again, every time I knew it, I felt worried for him till he found a new one. I always worry about his future.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
Worrying about the loved ones is quite natural and every human will have the same feeling about his or her loved ones. You keep worrying about your brother because he has lost jobs many times and so the source of income for him is not steady. You seem to be quite caring brother. So advise him to work with more spirit of duty and rest leave to destiny.
Thanks for the response friend...! I wish best of luck to your brother...!
@tangleddreams84 (581)
• United States
28 Aug 12
I'm constantly worrying about my future and my childrens future. I dedicate my life to having my children have a better life than I did. I clash with others my age without children since they think of themselves and the now. Its life to worry.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
I understand your position friend. But I would like to suggest that we should stop worrying about the future and do take some steps at present so that we can improve our future.
Secondly you have your children with you, so it would be better to train them well so that they can win in any tough situation and do not get frustrated in difficult conditions.
Best of luck friend...! Have a nice time...!
@freedang (320)
• China
28 Aug 12
i do worry about my future and so that frequently,coz my family dont have much money and i just want they can live a better life.i am always afriading that i cannt find a job after i graduation and so much.
but i know that it is meaningless to waorrying about that,the only thing that i can do is study hard and try to make myself more excellent
good luck
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
You are right friend...! If you will study hard get better knowledge you will get better opportunities to earn more money. Just worrying about the furute will not serve the purpose and it is not the solution to any of the present problems.
Do study hard and get better position in the life... Happy MyLotting friend...!
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
28 Aug 12
deserve40
There is no one and no circumstance that can make anyone totally 100% safe. Things happen..illness, accidents, law suits, etc. All one can do is their best to plan for a secure future and continue to work toward it.
Spirituality is of great comfort in easing fear of the futrue and the confidence to go forward. I think the turning point in lives can be when one attains the confidence they can handle anything that happens and there is purpose and a plan for all that happens.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
28 Aug 12
I fully agree with you 'stary1' that there is no way to become 100% safe. In such situations, Spirituality is of great comfort. A person feel safe and contended in the presence of spiritual feelings. Perhaps that is the reason why many people are turning to spiritualism.
Many spiritual leaders, with their knowledge, spiritual power make a person feel comfortable and free from worries.
Thanks for the response friend ...!
