When do you start treating a girl as a woman..

So there is no way in the normal course to confirm whether she is psychologically conscious of her sexuality, or has had man through marriage or otherwise? And if god created a woman ..then are you trying to say that she had her man before ..I mean ..it is hard to think of that, right?

Now now..wit..you cant be that innocent..

wherever I find you come naturally for ya Miss u

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Hello my friend vandana7 Ji, Well, I remmeber, as I crossed 45 yrs of age, someone publically addressed me as 'DADIJI' I was overjoyed. I never objected to that. I thought that now I will get more recognision in society, people will look at me for my experiences. In another incidence, we go for getting fresh milk, one day one gentleman addressed me as 'Mataji' being 3-yrs younger than me, my huby is very prompt to notice such things, he objected and corrected that he should have addressed me as 'Sister' So let's tolerate with our experiences and wisdom. May God bless You and have a great time

I still feel that every woman has a girl in her, so there is nothing derogatory addressing her as a girl, unless the context makes it so. I mean if she were behaving like a girl, then perhaps such reference to her behavior, girlish behavior might be wrong. But if because she looks younger than me, and has maintained herself like a young girl even though well past 35, I do think of her as a girl, I dont think I should have been verbally penalized..lol. On the contrary, I think she would have taken it as a compliment because by that time, ladies do become conscious that they are aging and wouldnt mind being mistaken to be a few years younger. May be from 35 to 15 is a bit more..but not obnoxious I think..

I merely mentioned something like that girl brought in those books. And because she was pretty rich, others in the room found a topic to discuss. lol

Wow ..so it is progressive..from baby girl to woman and it reaches the granny and you forgot great granny stage..lol I however did not like you saying that only women between 34-40 are ladies..that is insulting thanks..lol I am 53, and I do consider I qualify as a lady.

Oh No!! I didn't really mean it and was casually talking. I really appreciate about it and in your 50s also you are really a lady and I am sure that you can still consider in the women/girls list also. I think age is nothing much to do with as we think. I am also moving towards my 50s and still have the feeling of 23-25 assuming that I am still in my 20s. Even my daughter and son make fun on me saying that all my friends (girls) are at the age group of 20-30 and he (myslef) is thinking that you are a boy! Because I was much in contact with some girls who are best friend of my son. So she is jelous and always says that, mom, you better take care about your h/b (my dad) and he always surrounded with these good looking girls and you may be in danger.. [she is quite funny and don't take it seriously]. Anyway, here in India girls, after marriage considered as ladies and in fact we are not much bothered this term seriously as we all consider our heritage culture is not of western and in Tamil, Kerala, Maharashtra, and some other southern and north east areas also, the women after the age of 30 and above normally considered as ladies but depend on their regional heritage, the concept about their position in our minds are different based on their positon in the society. Thanks for your response.

Caught ya..

Prashu, I have North Indian friends, and they do have a hearty laugh when papa addresses me as Amma or i address my maid as Amma. I think culture differs from place to place. To me, that form of address is loaded with respect. To others it is a form of ridicule.

Prashu..I waited to respond to your comment hoping that I could direct you to one of the answers that I would find appropriate, but out of 18 none really managed to give exact reason. :( And I too noticed that slim woman is often referred to as a girl, and over weight girls get labeled as women. Then again, the way they dress matters. If the woman wears clothes like youngsters she may still be addressed as a girl, if she is not too fat. :)

hi, Thank you, i was really excited to know the answer, but it seems , people itself are confused. I want to clear my doubt actually, some one here mentioned that its better to address girl or woman as "amma" , if you are Telugu speaking( if i am not wrong south Indians use this word "amma" to address a woman, of course north Indians also use it but only for mother) you may know that, here , we are addressed as "amma" by all, even husbands, i don't see any problem in that, as we take it as addressing with respect, but one of my north Indian friend who doesn't speak Telugu or any other south Indian language, asked me ,why people here use "amma "word even for a wife , now me and my friend tried a lot to explain her the meaning of using it, but they are not convinced , they are asking how can a husband call a wife as "amma" and so on , i mean he is not literally calling her amma, but for eg : prashu come here amma such that, i think you can understand the meaning of that further part,

LOL..a boy obviously becomes a man the moment he starts shouldering some responsibility. Actually, there is some confusion here. I mean, some women would be flattered to be treated as girls even when they grow older. Which woman would not want to look younger. However, wealth and position in the society changes that concept slightly. Once she is wealthy, she wants some respect, and the world girl strangely does not come with respect though I dont know why. :)

Sorry typo.. The word "world" should read as "word".

I think there is a lot to be said for your classifications. I think of myself more as a "girl" because I don't like to think of myself as "old" despite the years and grey hairs I've got. Now, female is regardless of human, there are female animals, even female plants so female is just a classification regardless of what it is.

Actually the terminology..girl, woman, female, lady..they are used so indiscriminately..it is often confusing. I would say every female is a term used for differentiating a person scientifically. Female can be a girl, which imports certain level of immaturity, or a woman which implies a mature person. Each one of us may be girl or woman at times, though most people associate it essentially with something to do with a girl who is married. If the intention was that, why use words like married before the word woman? Unmarried is not essentially a girl, and married is not essentially a woman. Maturity in various day to day behavior differentiates the two, whereas the lady is essentially in terms of interacting socially. Correct me if I am wrong in interpreting the difference. In my case, I end up classifying people as girls based on their looks, some people take that as an offence, when none was intended.

I think we should stop that classification male or female..it is almost derogatory. I mean we have males and females in animals. So when we use such scientific classification to refer to ladies it is not nice ..it is almost reducing them to being in animal species.. but this is only my thought. I would never allow my daughter or son to refer to a lady as female. Talk too much..lol. I think that is actually an asset. They can get jobs more easily as DJs, or in call centers. lol

Yeah..I agree "Amma" is such safe way to address a person, though I was laughed at when dad called me that. :) Difference in culture within our own country. :) I called the married lady with two tenaged daughters "pilla" ..lol And of course, everybody made a big noise about it..

Well, I was back yesterday, but I could barely keep my eyes open, and this morning too I had some chores to attend to. :) I will be going again. But to come to your way to differentiate between a girl and a woman.. We ..irrespective of whether the person is a boy or a man, and a girl or a woman, retain our immaturities. We add mature behaviors to our set of behaviors. That does not mean that those immaturities would cease for good. Like you might behave in one way with your grandma, and you would continue the same behavior pattern to a great extent even if you became the prime minister of India. :) There are other areas of immaturities of course that we do not realize and might have them coming up. :) At times, it is fun as well. :) So as far as I am concerned, a girl and woman are one and the same. :)

After 3 days of thinking (ummm.... see how much I care about posts from you) - Well, a boy and a man are similar here with your discussion - girl and a woman. Wait. I guess, it is the maturity which should count - psychological and also physical (maybe mental also... I think psychological includes this mental) Come back soon, I am getting impatient for the goodies you would have got for me

She must have been around 35 at the time, but she could pass of as 21 or so..and since I was near about 30 I just didnt think deep enough and merely spoke of her as a girl, and that had my bosses up with arms..lol

That is the general perception. However, how would you know that she is ready for that, and "tries to behave maturely" :)

I think even married women should find it flattering that they are addressed as girls..because it does imply certain amount of youth, right? :)

I accept your explanation Melody. Social life experience, and stronger heart perhaps differentiates a woman from a girl.

I think we and I wont say merely women, even men are immature at times, and mature at other times, so why this differentiation is more pronounced in case of a girl and a woman. And it is not necessary that all girls are "demanding, unable to exercise self control....". :) Take for example Elizabeth Benett and Jane Benett of Pride and Prejudice. :) Or Little women..:) Learn by experience that we cant add salt instead of sugar, right?

I think that is old fashioned thing. Girls just dont "mature" MENTALLY overnight..unless you all are happy enough marrying another species..lol We are quite like you all men. We have our moments of immaturity, and maturity, at every age. :)