Still can't find the perfect match

No- you are the one making things complicated

hi bhaby, but there are times you want to have someone to be at your side that is so true, these are the lines my friends always says when she feels sad that she has no boyfriend. I also use these words at times when I feel alone thinking if I have a boyfriend there'd be someone walking with me and regularly checking on me... specially in rainy season when you badly needed a human jacket a human jacket, but of course, we need some warm embrace from someone. cold season is coming up, ber-months in two days, do we need to be an SMC (Samahan ng Malalamig ang Christmas) member this time?

HI there jai Uh-oh you must advise bhaby not to make things complicated. If they both love each other then there won't be any complication on it. bhaby, try to get to know your suitors, who knows one of them are the perfect match for you. Goodluck girl!

In fact after writing you, I was thinking a lot about the same topic and was slightly restless. Because, the attachments are not with all. Supoose we are in a group of 25, we make feel like talk/walk/keep friendship with only 5-8, in general. Again, if we short list, it may reduced to 2-3 and these 2-3 people might have much of similarities, attachments, oneness etc. Also, we may get attracted with some nature or feature from the other person which we may feel comfortable or pleasing. And as a result, we may have some desire to keep pace with such people and this relationship can be lead to a good friendship or towards a love affair. When the same feeling emerge from the different gender, they will like to be together and spend more time together etc. Sometime we may not happy with all people to make such attachments or if someone approach to us, we may feel keep away from them as we don't like them. People those keep a lot of dream about such a person to enter into our life may be always artist or may be some have some great desire about the happend to be partner. Anyway, I am sure that you will find a suitable person soon and pray to get a best of best person to enter into your so long alone life and wish you a good day.

Hi thanks, Yes there is really a possibility that feelings may developed if we wait for a few months. And it happened to me before not only once. I ended up having a boyfriend that time. But it already lasted. When it happened again with a different guy. We never became a couple. Right now, what I feel ideal for me is to make sure I also like the guy at first sight. And will feel a connection with him. The one whom I won't feel bored talking with. Like everyday we get to talk about things we both love to talk about. Someone that can both be my lover and bestfriend. I think that will be the perfect match for me I may wait for a few months and see if there will somehow be a spark between the two of us, but if at first I already feel nothing - I guess I won't ever make it too long and waste the guy's time.

I have met someone like that. But I don't know what kind of relationship we have. I guess, it's just a platonic love how I wish it could have turned into a beautiful relationship. But things aren't meant to be I guess. So I have to accept that there is only a limit and decides to move on. While for others, if a guy approached and openly tells he likes you, and you give him a chance at least a day to see whether there is something special you'll feel towards him... but realized there's none. And you hated receiving his messages. Then I do think it means you will never fall for the guy no matter how hard you try.

@enemy : it means you ever frustrated when your ex boyfriend push you doing something that you dislike??

hi adhyz, I'm not an enemy my nick's enelym Nope, you got it wrong dear... what I meant and sweetyethot means here is we are being pressured by family, relatives and friends into getting married. It is not really easy getting married if things isn't working out as planned.

Hi sweetyethot, I have been under pressure, but this time I think I won't let anyone pressure me. The first time I allowed anyone - it did not work out and I decided to just end up whatever I have and not hold on with those plans. Don't let anyone pressure you into getting married. Thanks and best wishes to you too.

i think i ever make discussion with you,if iam not wrong, you are talking about how happy you with your boyfriend..or iam wrong??

Maybe it's from someone else. can you put the links here so I can see it?

Hi adhyz, Not traumatized with my experience... just being careful so I'm now taking my time and trying to find the right match for me. If there is no one to come, I'll keep waiting until God knows when.

I guess the best thing to do is throw a little 'Caution to the Wind' (a song by Sherman Andruss, the title-track on the album that also had the song "One More Night with the Frogs" ... don't worry if you've never heard of him, he's an Oklahoma singer; not as big as Garth Brooks or Vince Gill or Toby Keith or one of the others you might've heard of, but big enough) and invite your hoped-for spouse to join you doing something you're going to do anyway (like going to church, going to the Karaoke-bar, going to see a movie or show or sporting-event, taking a walk around the neighborhood, etc.) Get to know each other that way first, and then you can go on to bigger questions.

Uh-oh... those are the things I can't really do. I guess I'd just have to sit around and wait for someone to come along... Well there are few guys who comes along, but it's not easy forcing ourselves to like someone we don't like...

Gone are those days of Adam and Eve. But hey I cannot also walk up to a guy I wanted to be my husband and say the same thing... he might also reject me. So it's just equal

Giving your suitor false hope is even more harsh. So ending it early is the wise thing to do. Love comes at different times to different people. What you could do is to just enjoy your current situation while waiting for the perfect match. Hope true love will come knocking at your door soon. All the best.

Yes I am enjoying my current situation now. I am being friends with some of them. Trying to get to know although I know that I am not entertaining the possibility of me and him together. But it is good that some would understand it already. Well hopefully that true love will be there when I least expected him. lol.

Hi seriousnuts, Not a lot. Only a few. But none of them is "the one" Yeah I feel like I was a bit harsh sometimes. But I know that in time they will understand. A relationship wouldn't work if only one of them is loving one. I experienced this when I thought I will be loved back by someone I like. But then I realized it would just be painful if we continuously love someone when we know they can never give us the same thing. Better to just let go. And yes you are right, there's no good in chasing a wind.

I have proven it. We cannot really find the perfect match that quick. Yes it really takes time and we need to get to know the person really well before we can that s/he is our true love.

That's good joliefille, at least you are not giving them any false hope that there is a chance for you to like them. I guess that is really how we must do it. But you know, there are still guys who still wait even though they have been told there is no chance for the girl to like him.

Hi jai spark that's what we always want to feel to make sure we are in love Glad you have found someone.. but sad he's not noticing it, try to put on some more glitters in your eyes jai

that's a good idea... let me try it now and I'll let you know if it works

okie let me know if it'll work

Hi marie, That's true, it's very hard. And most of us girls have to wait, because we cannot initiate the 'courting' in case we saw someone we like You're right all we need is to be patient coz for sure we'll meet our perfect match when we least expect it.

Hi Misterbull, Lol! If your age is the same as the one on the photo, then you're right.. we can't surpass you This isn't a problem, this is just a phase in life and we have to deal with it. Deal with being single and mingling trying to find the person for us til we finally find him/her. Til then do update me.

I immediately I fell in love with you and you broke my heart immediately... I wish things never happen immediately.. But it's no big deal, the past 116 years my heart has being broken 112.50 times so I am addicted to broken heart and I was taken to a rehabilitation center to be cured but once I was in there the rehabilitation got frightened and left the center so did I.. Pssssssst A teenager is coming with king size papayas...yummy!

I guess someone found me already But it's a bit complicated. He was living too far and I don't really know what I really feel for him or he feels for me. He confessed but I don;t know I guess I've somehow pushed him away.

Hi favouredmost, We cannot really force ourselves into loving someone we cannot love. No matter how many good qualities a person have, if s/he is not the one our heart wants, I guess it will never really work out... and may only lead into breakup or worst, broken marriages. Well, I hope so that you also will finally meet someone who can give you the chills and tingles and make your heart smile

Thanks also Adrian Yes I am done with giving the false hope to guys. But you know sometimes we don't give false hopes, we just like to see whether we will eventually like or love a guy. It takes months sometimes. But I am glad now that it doesn't take that much time for me anymore before I realize if I like or love a guy.

HI Miss D, That's what I am trying to do now Trying to get to know and if I feel that it's not gonna work out, considering the distance, status and feeling - I don't entertain or force myself anymore. I just enjoyed the friendship. But I doubt if they would like it that way I don;t want to fool myself too so better be frank and firm with them, so they wouldn't expect much as well.

Hi toyota4k, I do think that if I found the missing puzzle in my life then it will very easy to get married. If not, then there is no need to plan for it. Just planning for myself and family is enough, I am not the choosy type actually. I have fallen in love with some guys who are neither handsome nor rich. But I guess if those guys are not for me, then it is really very hard to force myself into liking a certain guy. Those that has been rejected are the guys that I am sure I won't be happy with. No one would like to live with someone they don't love.

Hi vidhya, Yes that is true, I haven't met the guy for me yet even when I am meeting some guys. Don't worry too friend, I'm not in a hurry. Sometimes if people think about it more, the wait will even be longer. But thanks for your wishes.

Hi riyauro, Thanks for your inputs too. You are right, that spark can be felt when we least expect it and sometimes to the person we like that don't like us back LoL. I felt it for someone before but I guess that someone did not felt it with me

Hi amritha3009, thank you dear I will surely wait for my Romeo the problem sometimes is that there were some who's so much willing to treat me like a princess, even a queen, lol, but I don't think I can treat him as a prince.