When to say 'its over'

True love isn't overrated!The problem ? She sees it as true love.

Love is overated, she's just got low self esteem and that's what still keeping her in this abusive relationship

Not always. Disrespect normally comes when the person doesn't act in a way that requires respect. If you stay, even for a minute after being hit, you encourage being hit. If you pack up and leave the very moment you are hit, then the other person will understand that this is absolutely unacceptable. Just just like kids. If you tell your child to not do something, and he does it... if you don't respond at that very moment, you encourage your kids to ignore you, because you don't act when they don't obey. You simply have to make it 100% clear, X action is simply not tolerated. And you do that, not by words, but by action. You grab your stuff and leave. Not next week, or even tomorrow, but this very hour.

She aint gat kids yet, and seperation sounds like a good idea! But then again, a leopard cannot change the color of its spots, when they are separated, the guy would feel remorse and would want to come back, but bet me, when she comes back, he would go back to his old ways of hitting and disrespecting her

I'd say you are very correct

Love is overated, there's something you should know, some people would not value what they have until its gone, so that hope of yours thinking the man would realise what she's worth may never come true while they are still in the relationship and that's gonna be bad because if they continue like this , its only gonna get worse

Love is overated, there's something you should know, some people would not value what they have until its gone, so that hope of yours thinking the man would realise what she's worth may never come true while they are still in the relationship and that's gonna be bad because if they continue like this , its only gonna get worse

true! and if we feel that respect isn't there, we have to talk things through and understand each other's side. If love isn't enough, we have to clear things out...

Yes lots of people lost the love for themselves while loving another and that's very wrong, every body needs to be treated with respect in a relationship and that's the watch word there.

Like seriously, this is the right time, I mean after all that , I really don't understand why someone would still want to be in a relationship

Very frustrating I tell you, I just want her to realise soon, maybe I ll start telling her indirectly now

Exactly, I don't see room for forgiveness here, I know people change, but this is too much for her to handle trust me.

Exactly, its like you are reading my mind friend. Call its quits and move on and never look back because what's in front waiting is definetly better than what's behind.

Hmmm, Tolerance is another word, but for how long would a lady in an abusive relationship continue to take in beatings and bruises from an abusive partner, or how long can a partner tolerate the lies from a cheating partner?

Yes there is a possiblity. It only means a leopard cannot change the colors of its spots, I mean some people are that bad , it becomes a habit and as you know some habits can be so addictive and dangerous

Forgiveness is overated here, she's really finding it hard to let go and its killing her softly and inside and no matter how hard she tries to hide it from me, I still see it everywhere on her.

Exactly, I think me and her need to sit down and have a little chat about the things going on in her life, I just hope in the end she doesn't tell me its not my business and I should keep away from it.

Okay, but they are not married yet, just two young people pratically decieving themselves calling what the have a relationship.

Respect should be a watch word there, and you said low self esteem, exactly, some people with low self esteem feel they cannot get another partner apart from the one they have now so they would rather remain in say an abusive relationship than be single and alone.