How will you know for sure you are your parent's child?
By betterdays
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
Philippines
August 29, 2012 11:20am CST
I ask this question because I guess you will never remember when you are in your mother's womb nor will you remember getting out of your mother's body and seeing and remembering your mother's face when you come out. I think even if one shows you your baby picture with your parents, you will never be sure you are really that baby unless there would be distinct features in your body like moles in certain parts or if you have 3 legs instead of two...lol. Anyway, my question now is how will you know for sure you are your parent's child? What would be some proofs that would prove this point?
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 12
The first recourse is, of course, to your family - your mother, father, siblings, aunts, uncles ... anyone who remembers your history. These days, however, people are able to check whether or not they are really blood-relations of their parents and siblings by DNA testing. The most common (and cheapest) is the one which checks that you are your father's child - Paternity Test. Less common and more expensive (since it is a more complex test) is the one which will tell you whether you are related to your mother.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 12
For a very brief time (maybe when I was about 10 or 11 or maybe a little later) I remember wondering if my parents really were my parents or whether they 'found' me somewhere.
I think that many teenagers go through that feeling that they are not really who people say they are. I think it's to do with finding out that one is an individual, with choices of one's own to make and with thoughts which aren't simply what others have told you to think.
No, I have never seriously questioned my parentage and nor have I ever had any kind of DNA test. When (if ever) it becomes possible to say accurately from one's DNA where in the world one's ancestors originated, that would be interesting. I am fairly sure (from family surnames) that some of my ancestors came from Denmark and some from France but what about before that? How much Saxon, Norse or Celtic blood do I have? Do I have any Neanderthal blood, or am I pure Cro-Magnon? I think that the answers to such questions would be fascinating.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes, that surely would be fascinating owlwings. Sometimes people even discover they are relatives or children of popular people, like recently I was watching the news on tv and saw Filipino children realizing they are children of Dennis Rodman.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
It seems like you probably have tried all these test, owlings...lol. Sorry, I think I woke up in the wrong side of the bed so my dizziness makes me write such...
Yes, I guess you could tell from your relatives how they tell stories about your youth and it's usually easy to tell if they are genuine or not about them.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Actually this is a very interesting question and topic here.
I have seen few friends and relatives who have adopted child and surprisingly the kids grow up with so much resemblance with their adopted parents.
It is given with those who have blood relations.
But what really is amazing are those kids who doesn't have any blood relations with their adopted parents.
One of my friend haven't even meet the real parents of her adopted daughter.
She took the baby when she's just a month old from an orphanage.
The baby was seen in front the orphanage door/gate so, even the orphanage staff had no idea who the baby's mother/parents are.
That's the reason why my friend adopted that baby.
Now that baby is 10 years old-actually yesterday was her birthday.
And that little girls resembles a lot to her mother (my friend)
So,no one can ever tell that the little girl is an adopted.
Regarding your topic- I can tell I am my parents child, because I look like my mom and me and my younger sister are like twins...
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
30 Aug 12
I can't prove it for 100% sure of course, but nonetheless I very much believe I am my parents' child. I look alot like my father, and also like my mother. Also my brother and I look quite a lot alike; in fact within my family, looking alike seems to be quite common. In the end, it comes down to trust; and my parents are both very trustworthy, honest people...they'd never keep a secret from me of this kind. Also, my mother had problems when she was carrying me, and she has spoken about them to me. It all fits together. I'm my parents' child; and I inherited musical tendencies from them; my mother was a singer; I'm a singer.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Concerning your story, I really hope the adopted child is well loved because it wasn't her fault that she was abandoned by her parents. I have a feeling with adopted children that most of them sooner or later discover that they are adopted. Is my presumption true? I don't know, but lots of celebrities in our country who are adopted almost always discovers they are one and later on starts their pursuit of their true parents.
Yes, when you have a brother or sister who seems to be your twin and you look like your mother or father, I would say that is good proof enough. In my case, I have a resemblance with both parents and I had a lot of pictures with my parents and sibling when we were still very young. I have 5 brothers and all of us have some sort of resemblance with each other, so I would guess I am my parents son...or am I really? haha!
@marguicha (223776)
• Chile
6 Sep 12
I see some traits I inherited from my parents in myself. But even if I did not have them, I am fully aware that the real parents are the ones the bring up the child, take care of him and love him. A biological parent is not the most important thing so why bother about that?
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@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I agree that we shouldn't bother ourselves much about this as long as we are happy with whoever has raised us. Anyway, I just heard someone mention about this somewhere and I felt it would be something interesting to talk about.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
1 Sep 12
There are certain points you may find: the physical appereance, for example. Usually, the children are similar or to the father or to the mother (like the eyes, hair, nose, skin and so on). Then you have the character, which also can give you some points. What I mean is, even if you grow up with other parents which are not your biological ones, you won't get the character of those parents, it's something in you like the DNA proof. Maybe you have heard sometimes your mother saying: "you are exactly as your father...!" (it's only an example). But at least, if even so you still have doubts, you still can ask for the medical test.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
I don't have doubts, for one and I don't have plans of getting a test either. I just encountered someone saying this somewhere which I find interesting to discuss. But anyway, you're right that usually the looks and the personality traits are the two most important proofs of being your parent's child. Oftentimes you could even see children who looks so much alike like their father or mother at the same age they were in with picture proofs.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
30 Aug 12
for sure it all depends on some identity and how well you can connect with her genes and if you are really more friendly and from face makeup we can figure it out
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes, I think the time you need to question if you are really your parent's child is when you can't see any resemblance with them. I wonder if Angelina Jolie's adopted children would know if they are adopted or not? :D
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
a DNA maybe. But for me it doesn't really matters. I think I will just use my own feelings. If I already knew for myself that I love those people whom took good care of me when I was young, no doubt, they're my parents. No questions asked. Unless they told me that I'm adopted, still I will consider them as my parents. :)
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes, it's more important who showed you love while you are growing up. Sometimes what happens when adopted children grows up, their real parents tries to claim them and the poor child gets suddenly confused and disturbed in life. I saw this at least a couple of times with popular personalities, and this is the reason why their real parents tries to claim them...because they are popular and rich already and they could get a part of that. Sad but true.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Aug 12
I thought I was adopted at one point when I was young. Not even sure why. I know of a women who had given her son up for adoption. The adoptive parents had so many similar characteristics it is uncanny. They looked so very natural together. If you really have a problem with knowing for sure you have a test done. I think all they have to do is swab each person's mouth and run the test. That would be the only definite and for sure way.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I'm sorry but I didn't understand what you mean when you say 'swab each person's mouth and run the test'...is that how they do it in DNA testing?
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Yes, that would be one of the common ways of knowing. It would be sad if you are to say you look like your family driver...oops!
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
29 Aug 12
I believe that we know we are our rente;s child when we begin to take on their traits. it is inevitable and something that is passed on to us through the course of time.,
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
1) By your senses, that is, you can feel it in your heart, the quality of love and care that only a parent could give.
2) By logic and that is, if you grew in the same neighborhood where you were born do you think if you are not their real child they could keep that secret for long?
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@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Yes, that is why I figure most of the adopted children usually found out later in life that they are not the real children of their parents.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I think the only best effortless way we can tell if we really are our parents' child is by any physical resemblance. However, there are cases, when recessive genes take over. For example, my second baby didn't inherit our fair skin color, while our first child got a very fair complexion. Both me and my husband are fair colored, so we come to realize that we have aunts, uncles, and brothers who have darker complexion.
If one is really in doubt, they just have to go thru DNA testing.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Going to DNA testing sounds scary. What are the procedures there, if someone know? I'm just curious but I want to confirm again I don't have any doubts about my own origin, it's just that I find this idea interesting.
I wonder why some people say their parents are apes...when I look at them, then I realize why :D
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
No, I just remember someone mention this somewhere and I felt it could be an interesting topic to talk about. DNA testing is the most common way I heard before. I don't know exactly how they check the DNA but I guess it would be through the blood, is that right?
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 12
Maybe in the closet on a hanger? Or perhaps they are neatly ironed and folded in a drawer?
Seriously, nearly every cell in your body contains a complete copy of your genes. Enough DNA can be extracted from blood, bones, hair and even spittle to say with almost complete certainty that it came from you and also that you are related to your father and mother.
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Oh, I remember it's through the genes...but I don't know where my genes are...
@freedang (320)
• China
30 Aug 12
it is a simple question.and you can find the answers so easily.
have you ever left home for long time?as i went to another city to study,i see the tears in my father's eyes.
have you ever become ill?as i saw the tears in my mother's eye when i was cutted by a knife.
there are so many proof that i never need other evidences.it is just a feeling
@BetterDays4Me (3777)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Gut feeling could be stronger proof than having similar looks with your parents. It's the connection of one's soul with your parent's soul. This we can't explain, we just feel them.
@anix101 (44)
•
29 Aug 12
When I came across this, I thought it was a strange question, but your right, to just see pictures isn't really proof. Your hear of cases where children were adopted at a very young age and didn't find out til much later after they were told. I guess your birth certificate would be a good indicator, but if you wanted solid proof it would have to be a DNA test, they can tell you with 99.9% accuracy whether you are or are not your parents child. But then, is that really important, your parents raised you for as long as you can remember in a loving caring home, so would it be so bad if you didn't come from them. Your discussion opens itself up to other questions like, what makes your parents your parents? Is it that you share the same DNA, or is it all the years of unconditional love they gave you, and all the support whether they are your biological parents or not.