Do you put any research into accepting new myLot friends, or just accept anyone?

I am astonished by the number of people that want to be my friends. I barely come here these days but when I do I discover that I have a few more friends requests pending. Currently I have ten! I take the view that if I have commented on theirs or they on mine then the criteria has been met! If not, and mostly it is not, then I am afraid that we have to bid one another a sweet adieu.

I do exactly what you do, look at their discussions and responses for signs of thought and willingness to actually engage in dialogue. When I get requests from brand new members I give them time to come in on my discussions, and if they don't, I refuse them. I have one idiosyncrasy, if they are male showing a female avatar I refuse them automatically. Otherwise, I add a friend if somebody I come across in discussions fulfils the above criteria. I also regularly go through my list and prune out those who have been inactive for 6 months or more, and those whose discussions have turned out to be mostly pap and inanity, as occasionally happens. Lash

I normally check their profile but I always accept the requests. Unfortunately sometimes they just add me to start spamming their opportunities and referral links via PM so once I'm fed up with it I delete them from my friend list...

Hi scorpiobabes, I understand what you are talking about. I love to search on the web for new sites, and sometimes I suscribe to them. And then after being spamed I evaluate if I continue receiving spam emails from them or if I block them. At mylot I`ve been accepting everyone who sends me a friend request. I love people since I was 15, when I began social work ministries. I cann`t deny somebody. I`m exposed to being spam, or invited to other sites, but I took what I want from them. If I don´t want their info, I just ignore them. And for those who I care, because we`ve interacted, I love to visit time by time their profile, and fotos, and I just read about their posts, and answer in some threath where they are answering. I don´t really mind, what is important to me is to know that friends whom I care, are fine. True life is just the same, not everyone who approaches to you is because they want their friendship... isn´t it?

Well for me I really don't care about the spamming in my inbox, As a matter of fact I have not received any spam mail from any friend whatsoever, I still believe in mylotters and I do not write everyone off, if at the end of the day a friend keeps spaming my inbox, well I ll do what I know how to do best to spammers, I ll just ignore.

I accepted and requested anyone until a few days ago. I read, in a discussion actually, that we should choose our friends. So, I changes my mind. Now, I search for interesting discussions. I even deleted some friends because I never respond to their discussions, as they do not interest me at all. Why waste my time os some topics when I find it hard to write a word?

Well, when it comes to accepting New people as friends in myLot a lot of times I look for people I can relate with. I know that I do not appreciate the ones who will SPAM me with their things they are doing, because unless I ask personally I am not looking for other ways to earn extra money as well. But I know I have made a lot of interesting friends here, and some leave and others stay, so in reality it is who wants to continue to post back and forth that counts.

I rarely send friend requests but I do receive many. I check the profile to see when the user joined (if I don't recognise the username), and to see how active they are. Like you, if their activity is interesting and it looks like they are enjoying myLot then I don't hesitate to add them. Often I receive requests from brand new users and I assume that they want to ask information in a private message. That is fine by me and I usually add them too. However if their only activity is in the money interests, posting links and soliciting for referrals. I leave them pending. Often they disappear from my pending list because they make one too many violations and get sent back to where they came from. I m lucky that in all the years that I am here, I have not received many spam messages at all. When I do I inform them that they could be reported by other users for spamming and hopefully they take notice of this advice and stop that practice.

I prefer mylotters who have shown a bt what they like by posting or responding to posts. I always check at their profile. It doesn´t have to be at any post I have made or even an interest of mine. But I prefer people who write quality posts because I know they willl probably stay here.

I'm pretty much the same as you. When I get a friend request, I go to their profile and look at the sort of discussions they've started or responded to. And if they come into my discussions and I enjoy the interaction, I'll send out an FR. I always turn down requests from people with only a few posts, because I immediately suppose they're after contacts to spam. I may be doing them an injustice, but I wouldn't just send out random FRs, so I can't understand why other people would do so.

Hi, You really have had to change your criteria for quite a few times.But it is actually nice to do a little research and choose whom you want to befriend so as to avoid such experiences as yours of being spammed. As for me, I accept each and every friend request that I get here. I get requests from time to time but I send few requests. I send a request when I see someone has given a very thought-provoking or apt reply to any topic of mine, or if I see that someone is very knowledgeable about things I want to know about so that I can take their advice if needed. I have been subjected to spam messages here too as some want to add us to their list with the sole objective of sending us a referral link. If I have not known that person for some time and we have not interacted before, then I ignore those spam messages and usually I have not found them sending another of those messages. I really do love Mylot and Mylotters here and I am eager to befriend more and more members so as to be able to get the chance to participate in more discussions started by them and also interact outside of discussions through PMs. I have made friends with some Mylotters on Facebook too as we got interested in knowing more about each other, and so far I would say I am lucky that I got to know them more, and also see their photos, interact with them through chat etc. Hope you can make some more good friends as per your criteria. Happy Mylotting

Hi as now I friend the people i meet in my discussion but here on my lot a lot of us are opporunty seeker I will not spam any one but if some ask I show them what im doing and I like to say what they are doing if some keep spaming let my lot know I think it agains there rules to spam ok have a good day

I signed up to mylot over a year ago, I really didn't know that much about it and didn't do much with it for about a year or so other than send friend request. I have just recently become active here over the past month or so. As far as friend request, I now will look at the profile before accepting a friend request, just because some people seem a bit questionable.

Since I'm just starting out here, I've been asking for friends. I've gotten a couple of requests and added them. I usually go to their site and check it out and see if I think we have anything in common. I figure if I later don't want to be friends with them I always have the choice to delete them later on. So I'm available to have people give me friend requests if they would like!